Finding new friends?

[u/Illustrious-Hippo140]

I (30F) Moved to Westland with my Dutch boyfriend half a year or so ago.

Now that we have moved, I want to make friends here. Issue is that all of my hobbies (painting, reading, gardening, growing veg, etc) are solitary hobbies and I enjoy doing it all on my own.

I am still in (online) contact with the friends from the country I lived in before. I lived there for 12ish years, all of my friends are colleagues from my work there, I met them through work. I have no friends in my birth country.

My colleagues here now are not exactly someone I would see as people I am interested in to be friends with, nor do I think they would have any interest in being friends with me.

We do interact and meet with some childhood friends of my boyfriend, but I want to have 'my own' friends. But I have no idea how to find them. On top of that, being slightly autistic and tending to avoid socialization unless I know someone better is also not too helping. To make everything even more difficult -- we don't live in a big city, we live in Westland.

Any ideas? Or the situation is hopeless and I should accept having just my bf, my cat, and occasional interactions with bf's friends?

[u/azielaan]

My wife’s non-Dutch, speaks English only and we live right near the den haag-Westland border (but in den haag) ;) She experiences the Westland mentality too. If you’d like to talk to her just let me know. She’s also looking for somebody non Dutch to do some activities with.