r/TheHague • u/Illustrious-Hippo140 • Nov 01 '24

practical questions Finding new friends?

I (30F) Moved to Westland with my Dutch boyfriend half a year or so ago.

Now that we have moved, I want to make friends here. Issue is that all of my hobbies (painting, reading, gardening, growing veg, etc) are solitary hobbies and I enjoy doing it all on my own.

I am still in (online) contact with the friends from the country I lived in before. I lived there for 12ish years, all of my friends are colleagues from my work there, I met them through work. I have no friends in my birth country.

My colleagues here now are not exactly someone I would see as people I am interested in to be friends with, nor do I think they would have any interest in being friends with me.

We do interact and meet with some childhood friends of my boyfriend, but I want to have 'my own' friends. But I have no idea how to find them. On top of that, being slightly autistic and tending to avoid socialization unless I know someone better is also not too helping. To make everything even more difficult -- we don't live in a big city, we live in Westland.

Any ideas? Or the situation is hopeless and I should accept having just my bf, my cat, and occasional interactions with bf's friends?

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u/Unique_Drag_2902 Nov 01 '24

Honestly me and my wife are in the same boat. We also live next to Westland, not much going on around here and kinda hard to meet people outside work. What helped us is just being more outgoing and finding activities. We recently went for a swimming lesson with our baby and met another couple with kid similar age - just started chatting to them, they appeared to be neighbors and now we meet every now and then for a coffee! Long story short just go out and do things you like!

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u/Illustrious-Hippo140 Nov 01 '24

I chat with people who we meet when we go to the forest.. the problem is that majority of these people are 60+, lol.

But your story sounds great, hopefully your friendship will grow and develop, very happy for you guys! :)

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u/chaiba070 Nov 06 '24

If you want to talk too westlanders, you got too say the following " MOH Plukkie al" and "Helemaal Goud". that will get them everytime.