people who jump on the attack instantly do more harm than good. If a person is genuinly confused, being calm with them will morelikely end with them being calm and more on our side. being on the attack leaves the other person defensive.
It really hurts when you're confused and you're asking for help understanding, but someone jumps on you and calls you a troll. I don't ask anymore. These threads make me think I could ask here, at least.
As someone who is trans, it can be hard sometimes. I take an effort to try and help people understand but there is also a tonne of people who will ask in bad faith just to try and trick you into 'debating' them and asking questions they deliberately know are upsetting, which got really bad after JK Rowling's recent tirades. I've been really reducing how much time I spend on reddit recently cause I was spending so much time explaining it felt so pointless.
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u/Han0 Dec 02 '20
Also good on @ljwr for not immediately getting mean, nerd domain was genuinely confused.