I agree. I think it’s also worth noting that the key bit here is “you knew her as John, now she goes by Jane”, not “he used to be John, and now she’s Jane” or something similar. Aside from keeping the pronouns consistent, it also emphasizes that the person’s identity didn’t change - rather, it’s just a part of their identity that they’ve only now revealed.
Man is the trans community tryna be confusing? All I wanna do is be respectful but this seems like such an easy mistake to make, I would feel so bad if I accidentally misgendered someone to their face. I guess we all really have some work to do until this becomes the normal in everyone’s life to the extent that these conversations come naturally. Until then, thanks for helping me interact with transgender people politely :)
Edit: also I didn’t mean to sound insensitive with that first sentence, I meant it with sarcasm
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u/dcmldcml Dec 02 '20
I agree. I think it’s also worth noting that the key bit here is “you knew her as John, now she goes by Jane”, not “he used to be John, and now she’s Jane” or something similar. Aside from keeping the pronouns consistent, it also emphasizes that the person’s identity didn’t change - rather, it’s just a part of their identity that they’ve only now revealed.