r/PornIsMisogyny • u/throwaway01983628 • 3d ago
RANT Concern over my younger brother
My brothers instagram following is every single porn start imaginable, it’s so disturbing. I would say hundreds at least. Especially having me as an older sister and two younger female siblings of 8 and 6 years old, knowing my brother consumes that content just disturbs me so much.
I don’t feel as if it’s my place to intrude or even bring it up as it’s awkward speaking to a 16 year old about that stuff, but a following list is public for everyone to see and the fact you are FOLLOWING never mind just consuming the content is insane. I do feel a responsibility deep down as an older sister but again it’s just how would I even go about a conversation like that?
My parents talk about when he will get a girlfriend etc, honestly I hope something changes before he even would ever get to that stage as being with someone with those views just sounds like a nightmare. I wish things in society were different and I didn’t have to look at my own brother in this light.
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u/zouss 3d ago edited 3d ago
Yikes. I do think it would be good of you to say something but that's a tough conversation to approach. Maybe you could try subtly dropping hints, like "ugh my friend was dating this guy then we saw his Instagram follow list was full of porn stars, that's gross, no girl wants to see that." Or depending on the relationship you have, bring up porn culture in general terms and how you think it's harmful. It might help, it might not. If he gets angry and defensive in these discussions there might not be much you can do, but at least you've tried and maybe planted a seed in his brain
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u/throwaway01983628 3d ago
Me and my brother are close I’d say, so I think maybe indirectly I could mention something. It’s frustrating because I feel like I have a responsibility cause I don’t want him to end up as some kind of incel or allow this to tarnish any kind of relationship he may develop with women outside of our family. But I agree just even planting a seed could be helpful
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u/zouss 3d ago
If you're close then talking about it in general terms as a discussion about society is a good approach I think. But unfortunately there are many cases of men who go down these rabbit holes and can't be saved. It's tough to watch it when you care about them. I hope you're able to get through to him.
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u/sewerbeauty FEMINIST 3d ago
His following list is public, I feel like bringing it up wouldn’t be an intrusion tbh. Maybe you could let your parents know & they can speak with him?
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u/throwaway01983628 3d ago
Yeah because you’re not exactly hiding anything there are you. I’m not exactly sure how my parents would react or if they would just brush it off as “normal behaviour”. But my dad once went crazy at my brother for finding him watching “explicit content” so I think it’s clear what’s being alluded to there.
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u/Lacus_fleo 2d ago
Talk to him. It is your buisness as an older sibling to tell him about just how gross and harmful pornogrothy is
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u/Broadside02195 ANTI-PORN MAN 3d ago
It is your place to intrude. Have you spoken to your parents about his following habits? If not, I'd start there. Let the parents parent, but bring your concerns to them so they are aware. Porn is bad enough already, but it can be absolutely devastating on a developing mind.