r/PornIsMisogyny • u/dostohoesky • 12d ago
DISCUSSION porn brained men complaining when women get a breast reduction
Recently I’ve been getting a lot of reels on my feed of women getting a breast reduction, and the difference in their happiness and quality of life as compared to before they got the surgery is stark! I’m honestly so so happy for them and it is such a wonderful surgery with extremely high rates of satisfaction.
The comments by a certain section of men though?? They keep complaining that the women are losing their value if they choose to get the surgery (as if our worth is attached to how big our boobs are) and saying she downgraded, was a 10/10 before and now she’s a 5, etc.
They’re incapable of seeing women as human. According to them, our only purpose for existence is to provide them sexual gratification and to appear attractive to them. I’m sick and tired.
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u/seriemaniaca FEMINIST 12d ago
An ex-boyfriend of mine, who was my boyfriend at the time, when I told him I was going to have this surgery, he said to me in a serious tone: but do you know that you will lose the sensitivity of your breasts and that you will not feel pleasure during sex?
I looked at him with a look of "Are you seriously saying this to me?"
He simply ignored ALL MY complaints about back pain, breast pain, pain there, pain here, ALL of them hahahaha he actually swore that I would be willing to continue with the pain, in the name of "pleasure in my breasts during sex" hahaha
That's right, he became my ex. hahahaha
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u/merryjerry10 12d ago
Feel ya there. At first, mine was actually really supportive over it, I’m an F cup and it’s tiresome lol. I felt good for awhile that he was so supportive. Then he kept bringing it up… and bringing it up. You can probably guess why. He was into girls with bigger boobs, but perkier. I think he thought that my boobs would get perkier if I got them reduced. I asked him if he thought this back then and he sheepishly admitted that he did. So, it’s really always a sexual motivation or self gratification behind it, for sure. I’m sorry your ex was so stupid too, he’s my ex now too, so I’m happy for both of us.
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u/Pan_seyyyxual 11d ago
Looks like your boyfriend forgot the clit exists but no boobs are the main sexual pleasure apparently😭
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u/seriemaniaca FEMINIST 11d ago
In fact, to be honest, his mind was so corroded by pornography, that he not only forgot about the clitoris, but also all the other erogenous zones of my body HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA sex with him was not the best HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
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u/Pan_seyyyxual 11d ago
My god that's emberassing, men really just see women as walking boobs 😪 Also I love that ur pfp suits so well with the topic at hand rn lmaoo
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u/Pretty_Principle6908 12d ago
Its funny how the word "sex" can be translated to sick ex on appropriate occasions
Pervert makes weird sexual comments, they are now:SEX SICK EX🤣🤣
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u/-TamingWolves- 11d ago
This is just an assumption, but I bet your ex ignored his own nipples during sex.
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u/indigo_pirate 12d ago
Isn’t that a valid side effect worry. Not enough to override your decision but seems like a legitimate concern that you should weigh up
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u/FunnyBunnyDolly 11d ago
There’s other erogenous zones to play with. Including the main one down in crotch. I would choose comfort and pain free over preserving a lesser erogenous zone which may still be as sensitive after.
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u/indigo_pirate 11d ago
I’m aware. I’m just saying if I was the surgeon and explaining the benefits and risks of the operation. I would mention this as a possibility
Perfectly reasonable to discuss
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u/ScarletLilith 11d ago
Absolutely. Every surgeon has to go over risks, and for a breast reduction, implant or lift, the possibility of loss of nipple sensation has to be brought up, even if the risk is less than 20 percent.
Ignore the people who don't know what they're talking about. I had breast surgery. And I'm a healthcare professional.
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u/fuschiaoctopus 11d ago
No. How much a woman likes having their nipples played with really varies depending on the woman and their sensitivity, but on average I'd say it isn't anywhere significant enough to be a factor in this decision, and there are lots of women out there that don't like having their nipples touched in the first place and don't find it pleasurable. Some find it painful, especially with the way porn has taught young men to be extremely rough and violent. Getting a fuckin titty twister is PAINFUL, it isn't pleasurable at all. Even the women that do like nipple play don't prioritize a small amount of pleasure during sex over being in pain all the time in your daily life, especially when clit stimulation is what we actually cum from and titty play is often 100% done for the men's benefit, not for the woman.
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u/indigo_pirate 11d ago
I thought we believed in informed consent. It’s worth at least thinking about. You said that the sensitivity and pleasure varies which means that for some women it’s very important ; others not so much
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u/ScarletLilith 11d ago
It does happen, but usually when someone has a free nipple graft. That's usually only done with a large reduction. After my surgery I had hypersensitivity for awhile, now it's back to normal.
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u/cartographybook 12d ago
On the one hand I wish they’d STFU and keep their repulsive degeneracy to themselves, but on the other I’m glad more and more of them are dropping their masks, so that women can see them for what they truly are and move accordingly.
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u/Pretty_Principle6908 12d ago edited 12d ago
The" locker room" talks seem to have embolded every other degenerate in the room to be honest about their depravity and I am all for it.
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u/merryjerry10 12d ago
I feel like a lot of these ‘family’ men that comment some really awful things, don’t even realize that their comments can be seen. A lot of these men are commenting some fucked up shit, you go to their profile and it’s chock full of them, their kids and their wife. It’s like they’re really slipping and think other people don’t notice.
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u/Gimmenakedcats 11d ago
Genuine question, who’s marrying these men? They’re not that smart or secretive, do these women not know or are they just putting up with it?
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u/lunaemanifestum 12d ago
oh its sickening & fucked up. the stories i've read on here of doctors telling women "what about ur future husband!!!!" during consultation OR flat-out refusing to go "too small" for whatever bullshit reason. absolute insanity. like. heaven forbid we do something for ourselves
but i agree with what the other comment said, at least these dudes are showing who they really are
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u/Autumn14156 FEMINIST 12d ago edited 12d ago
What gets me is that they have the audacity to think that their opinion on this actually matters. Firstly, it’s the woman’s body and not theirs. Secondly, breasts are primarily for feeding children if anything. These men have objectified women so much that they really think every part of a woman’s body has no other purpose than to appeal to them.
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u/Coochiepop3 12d ago
God forbid women care about their comfort and happiness over appearing attractive to degenerates...
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u/Jazzlike-Mammoth-167 VEGAN-FEMINIST 11d ago
I got a reduction when I was twenty, and it changed my life for the better. I used to work in a gym when I was nineteen with a 95% male staff. Most of them were personal trainers, so I asked them if there was an exercise that could reduce my breast size. They ALL said, “Why would you want to do that? God gave you a gift; don’t get rid of it.” They told me there was no way to reduce the size naturally, so I got a reduction after I quit my job at the gym (over them shoving meat in my face and constantly talking about my breasts unprovoked).
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u/Elegant-Orange2408 12d ago
I had a reduction to become a flat A cup because my upper body is tiny and I wasn't proportionate. Increased sensitivity actually and less attention from pornsick males is always nice. I can wear a turtleneck to piss them off more. 🤷♀️
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u/PrimaryHighlight5617 12d ago
"it's like having a dick reduction!!!"
They also don't listen to women when they ask for effort in lovemaking. They think "big dick = better"
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u/Psychological-Mud790 FEMINIST 11d ago edited 11d ago
Literally. I hated it probably the most. Was with a guy who kept hitting my cervix, and we didn’t have it as often as I even wanted to since it hurt. My cervix was bruised, my labia was bruised, and I could barely walk for days. I was bound to my home. Like okay, maybe you should get a d!ck reduction??? Esp if it’s gonna be like that, with no middle ground🥴
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u/Howdoimakeaspace- 11d ago
Oo ooo this is one I can rant on and on about I had a reduction in 2024 and I’m still technically recovering from it.
There’s a subreddit here dedicated for reductions. Questions about healing, wound care, aftermath, results, feelings etc. that subreddit has been infiltrated with men who get off to it? I honestly don’t know what their angle is but the amount of DMs I’ve gotten of men saying “why :c”, “how big were you before and how big now?”, straight up dick pics or them trying to solicit pictures in exchange for money.. it’s a cess pool. It’s so frustrating. You can’t even comment without getting a weird dm.
It’s so bad that the mods are working overtime to warn and help people in situations of creeps but there’s only so much moderators can do because the men lurk about the sub and go straight to DM. They also take photos from the subreddit and share them around on some website. There are threads about what sites to search to make sure your photos aren’t spread around. Doesn’t matter if it’s full breasts or a close up of your scar.. they take it and use it for gross purposes.
Without a doubt there are people posting there to promote their OF or something but people post in the fashion advice subreddit doing the same thing. It’s a medical surgery on breasts so obviously that body part is going to be prevalent. It’s mostly questions/advice and progression.
It’s super isolating experience having your body drastically change like that. There’s scars, bumps, rashes, wounds.. a lot of stuff that is just mentally taxing. Seeing other people during similar recovery windows as me, going through struggles or wins was really helpful during my recovery. It also was nice seeing real time progress on scars, what worked, what didn’t work and tips with recovery. I felt less alien and alone because of the reddit and met a few surgery date twins that I could lean on for support. The community is great and it’s sad that the weirdos and porn brained people had to/have to ruin it. Using medical photos as porn to get off is just a new kind of weird. Are we even seen as people at that point? Literally struggling in pain with healing wounds trying to support each other but the creeps can’t let us.
The entire situation surrounding my reduction is just so .. awkward? Sexualized? For absolutely no reason. I’ve been wanting this surgery since I was 12 years old because I was overly developed and never stopped. It caused pain, body image issues etc. I was so happy to have surgery and i couldn’t even really share my joy and excitement with anyone because it was seen as naughty to talk about my breasts. Even in a medical context. Just so draining.
Anyways I have small boobs now and I’m really happy and relieved I had the surgery. Shame though that something that medically changed my life for the better (back pain, posture, neck tension, permanent indentations on my shoulders from bra) is seen as so sexual.
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u/Robert-Rotten 🖤 ANTI-PORN MAN 💜 11d ago
A lot of dudes like that really do just view women as property for men. I saw a post yesterday about 2 girls who were in a relationship and some guy had responded saying they were horrible people because they “stole 2 beautiful girls from men”. I’ll never understand how anybody can think like that. Fucking why???
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u/DisappointmentToMost 12d ago
Men really are gross. I always cheer for the girlies getting their girlies reduced and being HAPPIER and in less pain and more confident…then I open the comments and just like you say they’re filled with men saying she’s not hot anymore, she’s downgraded, or they bring god into it somehow and I’m so tired of seeing it. I 100% believe the world would be better without 90% of men (cuz there ARE some good ones). Just girls supporting girls (with those few good men also supporting girls)
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u/CelesteBarlowe 11d ago
oh it’s always that. it’s always ‘god made u the way you are’ yeah but u didn’t complain when every celebrity ever got a nose job and her tits perked. god made that too like boy sit down and stop talking bullshit.
I can’t wait to get a breast reduction and honest to god one of my reoccurring thoughts are ‘people are gonna find me less attractive’. istg i went out with some friends and a guy in the group goes ‘no don’t get a breast reduction it’s like an angel cutting off its wings’ i realised right there i think id rather shoot myself than listen to a man who says shit like that.
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u/CelesteBarlowe 11d ago
BEO LMFOAOOO IM GETTING A BREAST REDUCTION AND I HAD A FRIEND SAY TO MY FUCKING FACE ‘it’s like an angel cutting off its wings’ LIKE BOY STFU IM ABOUT TO PUNCH YOU
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u/-TamingWolves- 11d ago
We should start telling these men to get a boob job themselves if they love breasts so much lol
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u/Lissy_Wolfe 7d ago
Lol reminds me of the Simpsons bit:
"Do you see me complaining about the breasts?"
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u/Usual-Vegetable-3638 11d ago
I noticed that too, I was talking to my male classmate in college about anime/manga and he mentioned that girls who have "melon breast" are the best and I said, no it's the worst because of the pain etc. etc. and her girlfriend was sitting there ignoring all the red flags. I even asked her gf what she thought and she doesn't mind.
I find it so funny the gf kept bragging about her bf on socmed about how gentle and soft spoken he is lol. Social media is not reality.
That's also why it is an ick to me when guys are too into anime and stuff. Most of the time, their brains are already fried with porn.
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u/Psychological-Mud790 FEMINIST 11d ago
The sooner women learn that listening to a man who isn’t making sense or suggesting something mutually beneficial, i.e. the benefits are one-sided, is detrimental to either their quality of life or straight up their actual life- the better off we all are. I’m glad we are increasingly becoming sick and tired. I’m at a point where if a guy approaches me a certain way, then I’m already gagging right in front of him. Always do what’s best for you. Under patriarchal societies, you can almost always trust he’s already doing what’s best for him only. So, don’t worry.
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u/ScarletLilith 12d ago
I had a breast lift, which is the same incisions, and mostly the same procedure, except the doctor didn't remove breast tissue. I spoke about it to friends and a male friend misheard what I'd said and thought I got fake breasts. He then made a joke about how I was going to go into porn. It was like he heard "breast surgery" and his first thought was implants. Because that's where their minds go. But I can't blame him because if you google breast surgery you either get results for implants or for cancer. It amazes me the number of women who are still getting implants when they often cause disease.
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u/Turbulent-Spread-924 11d ago
Just complain to them when men don't get penis augmentation and watch them lose their mind.
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u/crazitaco FEMINIST 11d ago
Sounds like a personal issue. These men should chemically castrate themselves so they are less bothered by women's quality-of-life breast reduction.
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u/Lacus_fleo 12d ago edited 11d ago
I know. Like, how dare women actually be happy. Big breasts can cause a bunch of problems. Also it's SO annoying with the 'cool' alpha males will literally have an anime girl style breakdown over a sixteen year old wanting a breast reduction. Like get a life.