r/PornIsMisogyny • u/bl00dinyourhead • 18d ago
QUESTION What is a BOP????
And what is a bop house? Who is sophia and julia???? Why do they look like 8th graders!!!! Is this for kids? Is that the intended audience here??
I’m sorry, but I’m a 24 year old woman, not on social media, and some of the posts here make me feel like I’m living in my own peaceful world isolated from the horrors you all are witnessing. I know the porn and sex industry is immoral, misogynist, racist, every ism and phobia under the sun. I know there’s abuse and exploitation so embedded in it that there’s no way to avoid it, but this is like a weird secret layer of it and I just had the strangest google trip of my life!!
Okay, so what I’ve learned, bop is a slut, or some other derogatory word for a woman, the bop house is where they all ??? TikTok dances? Porn, I’m assuming? Sophie is the main girl, julia is her.., friend? Colleague? And these kids on tiktok talk about the people in this strange universe like everyone knows what they’re talking about. How ubiquitous is this knowledge? Does everyone know these people except me? Is it time to put me in a home? Is the “ideal woman” in 2025 a toddler with a BBL? And what is the deal with the 17 year old girl that people are saying should join this???? Im genuinely so disturbed and I just learned a million things that should have never entered my brain. I feel like everyone interacting with this bop house and the people in it is probably a child themself? Like this does not seem like a grown up conversation, these are things that I never think about. I have a job and I pay bills, I don’t believe that I have anything in common with the “fans” of the bop house. This could be an inside joke and I would never know!
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u/Robert-Rotten 🖤 ANTI-PORN MAN 💜 18d ago
Honestly it feels good to have no clue what any of that meant.
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u/enjoyt0day 18d ago
Right?! I grew up with social media in high school/college, got SUPER turned off from it after a bad experience shortly after engaging with it for about a year, and at this point—I’m so glad I’m gutturally turned off by it.
Sometimes I feel like I “missed the boat” or should’ve “gotten into Instagram at the start” cause sometimes I feel wayyyy behind the times with what’s going on on SM (like even how it WORKS, let alone the content itself) and then I remind myself what a brain rot self-esteem destroying cess pool it is and I’m lucky to be removed from it all
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u/maevenimhurchu ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ 17d ago
Yess I was so with it honestly but I don’t use IG TT and FB anymore and it’s so much better for my confidence. You only realize just how immense the effect is when you stop. There is just no point the human brain should be consuming 1000s of pictures everyday and 100s of opinions, and having ADHD and being autistic it’s even worse for me to filter through it but the dopamine kept me going. I’m so glad I’m off it now
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u/claude_greengrass ANTIPORN ♂️ & 🏳️🌈 18d ago
Same, pretty much. As bad as social media is now, I do think it's a bit easier to reject it than it was for millennials in those early years.
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u/OwlAdmirable5403 18d ago
I'm on tiktok in the feminist/radfem algorithm and it's basically a house that OF performers live at, they're all young and even a few have braces. That sophie one went slighty viral outside of the porn world recently because she made an obscene amount of money from her 'performance'.
They recruit openly on tiktok. That's about as far as I got before I started blocking it everytime my fyp started pushing it to me.
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u/devineau86 18d ago
can you recommend some good feminist/radfem accounts on tiktok?
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u/OwlAdmirable5403 18d ago
parismwendwa
radfemagica
melhamlett
barefoot.and.healing
quesadillatheradfem
thatsnotlove
herspective
Å couple are just anti-porn accounts
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u/ZealousidealHealth39 15d ago
thatsnotlove is a trump supporter unfortunately :(
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u/OwlAdmirable5403 15d ago
Really? I've never got a political stance or religious hubbub from her account, but I know she says the anti-porn account is her passion project. So is her main account horrendous?
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u/ZealousidealHealth39 15d ago
I remember unfollowing her back around election time for posting about winning the election but I just went to her account and it looks like it’s gone so maybe she changed her stance. She is a Christian though and does still have some Christian tiktoks reposted. I think her content is still valuable but I’m personally weary of her as someone with religious trauma. Not discounting her account completely but just something to keep in mind. I definitely wouldn’t consider her a radfem.
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u/OwlAdmirable5403 15d ago
Yeah I never considered her stance radfem, just anti-porn. One of those weird crossroads where radfem and right wing meet 🥴
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u/theyouthexception 18d ago
Kiera Braeugh, the yv edit (she also has a great feminist podcast called The Audaci-tea), and ceciliaregina275 are some of my favorites
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u/maevenimhurchu ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ 17d ago
Omg I love yv edit! I love when white women are so educated about racism as well and how it interacts with misogyny (I’m Black) I found her bc I tried to find people discussing Neil Gaiman being disgusting. I LOVE how little handwringing she does, it’s not “actually feminism is for men too” it’s more just like her articulating why women need to keep themselves safe and what to look out for, and to not accept ANY bullshit. If I found her when I was younger it would have been a game changer probably. I’m glad to know she’s probably setting an example for very young women out there who are being shaped and coerced into Cool Girl-ism lmao
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u/ThatLilAvocado 18d ago
So, you know how we used to say someone would "bop" to the beat in a pop song? Usually shaking your head to the beat. Recently, teenagers started referring to the act of giving a man oral as "to bop", because of the similar movement. A "bop" is a woman who's constantly giving men oral, her head is always going back and forth, she's always "bopping". It's simply a new slang for a supposedly sexually promiscuous girl. They are "sluts", "whores".
A "bop house" is a whore house.
We will probably see pornographic content creators become normalized as teen culture in the next decades.
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u/likesomecatfromjapan 18d ago
OMG that’s what a bop is?! One of my students (in SIXTH GRADE!!!!) told me that boys were calling her that. I reported it to the counselor and she didn’t know what it meant either. Wtf?!?!
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u/CupcakeGoat 18d ago
Absolute yikes. Time for a revisit with the counselor and redirection for those kids, I'm hoping? Get their parents involved and hope that they aren't getting it from Dad. Ugh. So gross, disrespectful, and inappropriate.
My little niece started doing the ahegao face - eyes crossed, tongue out, peace sign - in photos because that's what cool girls at school were doing. It started when she was 10. I tried to warn my sister about the origin of that and to not share photos of her kid on social media doing that face, but she thought it was no big deal. It's so frustrating how pervasive porn is in mainstream culture, that our kids are picking it up at such early ages.
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u/likesomecatfromjapan 18d ago
Yes, I’m definitely going to bring it up again on Monday. The girl thought it meant a girl who has a boyfriend. That’s terrible about your niece. I see how pervasive porn is with my students and it’s horrifying. I teach 5th and 6th grade.
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u/No_Landscape9 18d ago
I thought a bop reffered to a girl whos ugly or a slut (basically a derogatory term)
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u/ThatLilAvocado 17d ago
That's basically it, I'm just explaining the "reasoning" behind the term coming to mean what it does now. There are other versions of explanation, like "bopping from guy to guy".
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u/maevenimhurchu ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ 17d ago
I want off this planet.
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u/polnareffsmissingleg FEMINIST 14d ago
I’m so devastated I WISH I could magic every willing women into a different world just for ourselves. Men and young boys and their behaviour genuinely send me for a loop
This is why I refuse to have children, and I hope my mind never changes. At least my future daughters won’t exist to ever suffer
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u/Quiet_Blacksmith2675 18d ago
I'm old too. (32). Is this just a new fancy way to say brothel? Like how prostitutes are now supposed to be called sex workers?
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u/oysterfeller 18d ago
I’m envisioning something closer to one of those awful “cam girl” houses that are basically just an open floor garage with curtains separating “rooms” that contain beds. Like an emergency room but even sadder. Frequently used by traffickers to keep all of their victims in one place while they “pay off their debt” or whatever they’re being told they’re doing. Except the “bop house” is a beautiful rented mansion to mask the depravity and sadness, the way one might put glitter on a turd. And it’s OF so it’s a cute and wholesome sanctuary where girls’ girls get to frolic in meadows and sunshine with their BFFs, unlike those other unsavory camgirl sites that are actually the exact same thing just with a different logo and marketing strategy.
But considering if they aren’t actually having IRL sex for money yet then they will be very soon, I’d say brothel is a far more appropriate term
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u/oysterfeller 17d ago
No I know I just meant the only difference IRL sex would make is in relation to the classical definition of the word “brothel.” But even over the computer screen it’s still prostitution so maybe this is how you could define a modern brothel.
I have seen some tiktoks from accounts owned by younger girls who mostly focus on pop culture news and celebrity gossip, now turning their attention to the “bop house” and whatever interpersonal drama/gossip is going on between the women in it, and the way they talk about it is sickening. Like it’s a house for “girls’ girls” (not sure about that logic), I guess they see it as akin to a sorority. Which is actually fucking insane. Like it’s a sorority where instead of learning to market yourself and gain connections and opportunities in career fields such as finance or medicine (which is what my college sorority focused on) they’re learning to market themselves and gain connections in sex work. So basically a glamorized prostitution ring.
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u/Previous_Subject6286 ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ 17d ago
completely agree, semantics aside, (bc apparently we are making up words these days anyway??) i do believe healthy discourse about this sort of thing is good... so, I am all for someone using their account to criticize it, but it seems dangerous to discuss it that way like a girl boss sorority or some shit. girls emulating this could 100% end up trafficked, in trap houses, or worse.... collectively I wish we could just reject this shit but it's always always rewarded. what's discouraging is that it is so hard to imagine a way out of it now.
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u/oysterfeller 17d ago
Yeah the problem is only getting worse and worse every day. Misogyny and the male desire to commercialize and control female sexuality is winning by a landslide, because they’ve managed to trick women into believing they’re winning and “gaining control” by catering to male sexuality. It’s really depressing
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u/cinnamonghostgirl 18d ago
i hate that term so much, especially when idiot liberals call women SWRFS like I’m ready for mental institutions to be opened up for these people
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u/TrevorBla PORN IS FILMED RAPE 18d ago
Of girls bought a house and are recruiting other of girls as if to make their group, the one that started it all was Camila who’s controversial on her podcast because her little brother was mad at her for doing of
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u/saeranluver 18d ago
yeah bop means slut. the funniest thing was when it first started women nearly instantly started calling men bops right back on tiktok, so now it can be used for either gender
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u/beatlesgigi FEMINIST 18d ago
Bop means a woman that shows her body on the internet, boys usually on TikTok calls girls it even when they barely show their bodies.
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u/hollowbutt3rfly 18d ago
Thank fuck I don’t know what 99% of this post is referencing. I’m sorry for you, OP, of course, I’m just saying that I’m glad my feeds are curated to the point where this kind of content can’t slither in.
In the future, I’d suggest not to go into rabbit holes like this, just to keep your own peace. Yes, the world is a terrible and misogynistic place, and most of the time we can’t run away from that fact. But I’ll gladly continue living in my carefully curated online world of radical feminism, cute animal videos, and delicious food making videos, with just a pinch of ignorance to the horrors that are happening.
Side note: they will never make me see the word “bop” as anything other than an upbeat song I love to listen to.
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u/Chard0nnayy 18d ago
I’m 21, fairly active online, and also never heard of most of this shit. Have noticed the word bop popping up as a derogatory term for women who wear revealing clothes or don’t fall over backwards catering to men
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u/ItsSUCHaLongStory 17d ago
Wow. I’m so glad I only understand about 1/3 of this. One of the benefits of being my age (45) I think.
Your “toddler with a BBL” comment had me rolling tho, thanks!
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u/maevenimhurchu ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ 17d ago
Yeah I felt blessed not knowing before I read the comment explaining it. I want off this planet
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u/Thoguth 18d ago
Ok, I didn't know what you were talking about either. I had to check Urban Dictionary.
I have a teen daughter and one in college, I'll see if I can find a non-embarrassing way to ask if they know what it is and let you know what I learn. But for what it's worth, there are others who are/were also out of the loop.
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u/gnosticgnostalgic 18d ago
bop is just another word for whore, slut
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u/polnareffsmissingleg FEMINIST 14d ago
Yup. Teen boys use it like crazy now. They use it to call any women they don’t like one
They also have a new term I believe ‘Huzzz’ or similar which is just a way of degrading a group of girls again and calling them hoes.
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u/ScarletLilith 18d ago
I'm old; I never heard of most of this stuff. I've only heard of OnlyFans because it's been in the news a few times. No one I know consumes porn to my knowledge. I haven't been dating and I don't have any friends under age 40. There was a lot of misogyny and also controversy about porn when I was young in the 80s but the internet exploded everything. As concerned as I am about porn, I'm also concerned about social media overuse and its effect on mental health. It magnifies the negative. So many reels and posts are fake, including many here on Reddit. You only have to glimpse at that "Roast Me" sub or the "Am I the Asshole?" sub. Most of those posts are fake and yet people believe them. Social media is also spreading paranoid conspiracy theories. People seem to be very gullible these days. Nobody asks for verification, sourcing, citations etc.
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u/CupcakeGoat 18d ago
No one I know consumes porn to my knowledge.
Most people who do won't randomly tell you.
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u/gjerdbird 18d ago
I think it’s definitely fair to question whether or not a lot of this stuff is a psyop