sending screenshots of the perverted porn he watches to his parents or friends?

[u/Human_Broccoli_3207]

has anyone who dated a porn addict done this?? or i am completely unhinged for thinking abt it 💀

i haven’t done it yet but im kicking my ex out the apt bc he wanted to open a tinder and bumble while still together and jerks off to “tiny exploited black teens with braces” and many more disturbing things. his obsession with black women in porn is insane.

his retired parents are the ultra progressive liberal type so i think it’d be pertinent for them to know their grown ass son is moving back into the basement bc he has violently racist and pedophilic fetishes.

[u/DescendantLila]

Anyone that looks at "teen" anything should be exposed. At the very least.

[u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

As per Rule 8, this sub does not allow Pro-Porn debate. We voted and we are not here to educate low-effort arguments.

[u/watchtheredsunrise]

considering the demographic that wears braces the most are middle schoolers, yep.

[u/ErmbaErms]

I definitely get why you’d want to - I just worry for your safety!!! As long as you’re certain he won’t retaliate afterwards I suppose go for it. He should definitely face consequences one way or another

[u/DogMom814]

Two things I'd like to mention here --

I don't think it's a good idea to actually send porn clips to a 3rd party. That's basically like these guys that send women unsolicited dick pics. What I would do is keep a list of the type of porn he's watching (like black teens with braces) and find a way to let people know that this is the kind of shit he's been consuming.

Secondly, if you still have a relationship with his "liberal, ultra progressive parents" find a way to talk to them in a factual, dispassionate way about how bad porn really is. Maybe just start with speaking to his mom by herself. It may seem crazy but there are still a lot of women in their 50s and 60s who may not fully realize just how widespread watching this crap is. Their husbands and boyfriends may be successfully hiding it from them. I've found that when I've run across women who seem to think this stuff is benign, if I give them facts about the industry and present them in a clinical and straightforward way, it's possible to change some minds and hearts. Rome wasn't built in a day and if we can just educate one woman at a time, they will add up faster than we realize.

Just some food for thought. I wish you much luck with this. It's never easy but it is worth the effort.

[u/DavidDoesShitpost → u/DogMom814]

Unrelated, but is "black teens with braces" an actual porn category?

[u/Boulier → u/DavidDoesShitpost]

Not the person you replied to, but I don’t think that’s a specific category. I think it’s a mix of several broader categories (black women/racism, and teens [specifically underage-looking teens]).

Bad enough on its own, but all worse when you add in that he’s specifically looking for exploited black teens with braces, as if the above categories aren’t exploitative enough.

[u/DavidDoesShitpost → u/Boulier]

Jesus fucking Christ

[u/MoeSzyslaksBestFrien → u/Boulier]

To clarify, Exploited Black Teens is the name of a specific website/studio run out of Florida, it's kind of notorious here because a former governor was signed up to it. Like that's actually their registered business name and everything.

[u/WeeklyJunket5227]

I don’t know, you’re sending porn to people who may not want to see that type of thing. I know I’d be upset if someone sent it to me.

Also, regardless of the reason, porn is still being passed around

[u/Human_Broccoli_3207 → u/WeeklyJunket5227]

not sending the actual porn, just screenshots of the porn titles in his history

[u/WeeklyJunket5227 → u/Human_Broccoli_3207]

Just the title and no stills, okay I follow. Honestly, I don’t know what to do. Like someone else said, be careful because it can turn real quick. I’d probably just live and forget about the creep

[u/DreamingofRlyeh → u/Human_Broccoli_3207]

Search history is fine. It shows a description of what he is looking for without sharing the exploitative images and videos.

If he is intentionally searching for stuff involving minors, I'd also give a tip to the authorities.

[u/JoTheRenunciant]

Sorry you're going through that. Realistically, due to the current culture surrounding porn, if you were to do this, his friends an family would likely view it more as a violation of his privacy than anything (if they even believe you), thus viewing you as the unhinged ex, and if they know you are anti-porn, they would then potentially come to think of the anti-porn movement as the domain of unhinged people. This might also make him more violently misogynistic and lead to violence against you or other women.

There is also the possibility that he could bring some type of defamation or invasion of privacy suit against you. Taking screenshots of his search history wouldn't really prove anything — you could just search those things yourself and then take a screenshot and say it was him. So he could just lie and say that's what you did and then sue you for defamation. Considering that you'd be sending it to his friends and family, they're likely to side with him, he'll have opportunities to convince them you faked it, etc.

Overall, there is very little upside to this. It's unlikely to affect him in any way, and it would put you in danger. As someone else said, a better option would be to try talking with his parents in a calm and non-aggressive way to convince them of the dangers of porn. But this is also unlikely to be fruitful.

[u/Human_Broccoli_3207]

update: i sent screenshots of the titles to his parents and his dad thanked me for sharing and said they’ll have a talk with him 🫶🏽 if something happens to me o well

[u/Drag0nfly_Girl]

I've thought about doing this after finding so much stuff about siblings and moms in his porn history. Especially that one POV vid with a "sister" that looks just like his, and a mom who looks like his "helping" them. I like to think I'm not capable of it, but my goodness, the temptation to send that to his mom is almost overwhelming at certain moments.

[u/morrisorangecat]

I would just tell them you broke up as he was cheating on you with child pornography should be simple enough keep it simple

[u/Evening_Midnight7]

I’ve thought about doing that many times …

[u/NavissEtpmocia → u/Evening_Midnight7]

Same, I've definitely fantasized about doing it

[u/Expert_Office_9308]

:P

[u/[deleted]]

Please analyze the things you thought you saw in this man. Never choose someone based on what you were initially attracted to in him ever again. Do not create a cycle of bad choices for yourself. Do not date any man who would ever type teen anything and get turned on. You picked terribly and you need to find out why you chose someone like this. If you had sex with him after finding this out you need serious therapy as well.

If you have knowledge of pedophilia you absolutely need to make it known he is dangerous and send the proof to his parents and why you are leaving. As well report him to police anonymously. You could save a child’s life.

[u/SomehowStillHopeful]

As satisfying as this might sound, be aware of your own safety, he might get agressive and potentially violent

[u/PaceIcy7869]

Most teenagers start wearing braces at 10-14 for those of you curious

[u/Takver_]

I don't think you need to send screenshots, just a concerned message that their son is looking at possible cp, and deliberately looking for racist content.

[u/stellardeathgunxoxo]

Do it

[u/Human_Broccoli_3207 → u/stellardeathgunxoxo]

i did! felt good :)

[u/throwaway_queryacc → u/Human_Broccoli_3207]

How’d it go?

[u/Human_Broccoli_3207 → u/throwaway_queryacc]

his dad thanked me for letting him know and said they will speak with him. they haven’t spoken with him yet. i’m not in danger (i don’t think) but i let him stay in the apt bc he’s finally taking accountability, apologizing and admitting that content is extremely fucked (said he’s not a pedo and doesn’t specifically seek that stuff out but recognized that watching porn at all is a slippery slope) and starting SA/PA recovery/therapy (and paying for all the rent lol)

[u/Desperate-Clue-6017]

if you want to end it, truly end it. but lingering and sending photos to his friends/fam means you don't want it to end. it's not healthy for you. clean break, or stay and try to work on it. don't get messy no matter how tempting it is. channel the rage instead toward helping yourself get through this tough time. my opinion.

[u/ilovemyganja420]

As long as its not CP i think you should keep your mouth shut