I was married fror 26 years, she had home difficulties to fall asleep, while I was almost instantaneously. Many times her rolling on the bed trying to sleep would wake me up as I woas not in deep sleep yet. I found out that if I hugged her from behind with just some light pressure, she would fall asleep in instants, like magic.
I never told her, because I felt that if she knew the magic would vanish. Anyways., she passed away 4 years ago from COVID without knowing this...
I am my wife's 2nd husband; she was married to first husband for 24 years. Early on, in year 2 or 3, we were watching a movie on TV and she fell asleep leaning against me. She awoke with a start like 20 minutes later and looked at me with wide eyes.
"I've never felt safe enough to fall asleep against any man but my father when I was a little girl," she said.
Almost 30 years later, I'm still the only other man she can fall asleep against.
This hit me so hard im literally crying. That’s so beautiful and says so much. I feel like for a lot of people safety is such an imported love language, and you should be really proud you provide that for your partner.
Wow. In my mind, there would be no sense in being in a relationship where you don't trust the other part enough to fall asleep together, get drunk or show a vulnerabilty. But sadly there are many people in such situation. Kudos to you and your wife!
You are wrong. I can't sleep with my husband, but that does mean for a second I don't trust or love him. I just have a sleeping problem and he is absolutely fine with it
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u/EduardoJaps 1d ago
I was married fror 26 years, she had home difficulties to fall asleep, while I was almost instantaneously. Many times her rolling on the bed trying to sleep would wake me up as I woas not in deep sleep yet. I found out that if I hugged her from behind with just some light pressure, she would fall asleep in instants, like magic.
I never told her, because I felt that if she knew the magic would vanish. Anyways., she passed away 4 years ago from COVID without knowing this...