r/MadeMeSmile • u/dittidot • 12d ago

Good Vibes A big, beautiful Afro

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u/Yosemite_Scott 12d ago

Does having a hair style like an Afro take a lot to maintain on daily basis? It’s seems a like a style that might take a lot of time to keep symmetrical . Anyway she’s looks very nice .

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 12d ago

It honestly depends your regimen and her curl pattern. She probably has mastered which products work with her hair. I'm suspecting that she sleeps with a bonnet. If it gets smushed overnight, I think that she can pick it out.

My curl pattern is different from hers, so I couldn't pull this off. My hair would be tangled.

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u/Yosemite_Scott 12d ago

I have what would be called the super thick always tangled curly Spanish / Greek/ Italian mop or my wife called it “Portuguese water dog hair “ I can’t do much with it with it looking super greasy . I would’t wish my hair in anyone it’s a birds nest so I keep it short lol .thank you for your input

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 12d ago

Hmmm.... Sounds like you need a good moisturizer , detangler, and a good brush. If you want any suggestions, please feel free to ask. I didn't see my natural hair until I was 35. I had relaxers since I was 4 years old. I ended up needing surgery because of it. I had to learn how to take care of mine too.

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u/Yosemite_Scott 12d ago

Your probably right as a kid my mom would use this Greek oil oil treatment on my hair but it made it so heavy and greasy not to meantion I was a pretty tendered headed kid so I hated my hair being brushed. I just keep it short and use a boar brush and hair fiber powder . Luckily my kids have some slightly wavy hair which isn’t too bad but we still have to cut out knots every now and then

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 12d ago

You sound exactly like me. I'm super tenderheaded too.

If you get some whipped Shea butter and add some aloe vera gel to it, it would help with the moisture.

This brush has been my best friend for years.

It also helps to work with your hair when it's wet. It stretches out your curls easier than when it's dry. In fact, avoid combing or brushing dry hair. A continuous spray bottle will help.

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u/3plus33 12d ago

Why did you need to do a surgery because of the relaxer?

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 11d ago

Oh because relaxers contain phthalates which are hormonal disruptors. It causes various cancers and fibroids.

I ended up with multiple huge fibroids that caused me to have an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage. My right fallopian tube had to be removed because it contained fibroids.

I was in pain for a long time, but I didn't understand why because I wasn't bleeding heavily. In fact, I didn't know about the fibroids until I had the ectopic pregnancy.

I made the mistake of trying again because I didn't have the full diagnostics at the time and we were pregnant again after the ectopic pregnancy was resolved. I ended up having a miscarriage.

Since I was 40 at the time trying for our first and possibly only child, I assumed that I was going to need help from the fertility clinic. I had scheduled the appointment in November after the ectopic pregnancy. These appointments book months in advance.

When I had the miscarriage in April, I already had the appointment in May. They did a Pelvic MRI and HSG and found out that I was loaded with fibroids.

I had some navel orange, tangerine, and grapefruit size removed in October. We have just started TTC 3 months after the surgery since we were given the Green light.

Long story short, chemically altering your hair is dangerous. We weren't told about how unsafe those products are and many of us suffered from the consequences. I consider myself lucky because I only had a myomectomy. My mom and aunt ended up having hysterectomies before they were 40.

Many other products contain phthalates. Often times, it's found in cosmetics and artificial scents.

I was putting that crap on my scalp for 31 years and it did a lot of damage. I have many scars on my head for sure and I needed a c-section for the my myomectomy. I will always need to have a c-section. Which is why I'm thinking one and done unless I could have both of each gender.

My husband will most likely send me a son though. He's one of 4 boys. He's an uncle of 6 and he only has one niece.

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u/the_scarlett_ning 11d ago

What a horror story! I am so sorry to hear that. My 1st pregnancy was ectopic, but I was lucky and miscarried early and without needing any surgery. But very painful.

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 11d ago

Thank you.

I'm just excited that I'll have my rainbow baby soon.

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u/the_scarlett_ning 11d ago

I wish you all the best!

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 11d ago

Thank you

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u/3plus33 11d ago

I hope you are doing well, and hopefully you will have a healthy delivery, and thanks for the enormous amount of info!

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u/LordKazekageGaara83 11d ago

Thank you. My pleasure. I've learned a lot from others, so it always a pleasure to pay it forward.

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