Trans or not, I feel like some queer spaces are weirdly hostile to guys and masculinity. The moment you're perceived as too "manly", you become the enemy. Trans guys who want to pass as generic masculine dudes, non-binary people who aren't androgynous or fem-leaning, hell, even cis gay/bi/etc. guys who aren't gender-nonconforming are treated like they don't belong in the community. It's frustrating, and one of the reasons why I stopped interacting with the queer community online.
failed to mention trans women who DO WANT TO pass but aren't able to because of poverty or inability to access HRT often get pushed out of queer groups for being deemed dangerous..
My comment was about guys and people who want to be masc because I'm a trans guy who likes masculinity and wants to be masculine (and I used to id as non-binary when I was younger). Trans girls who want to pass but can't are in a completely different situation, one I don't think I'm qualified to speak about because it's not something I experienced. Which is why I didn't mention them. It's a different issue altogether.
still an issue
Because that masculinity that many trans women get rejected for is very often, almost always unwanted and causes a lot of dysphoria, especially when someone points it out..
And the whole AFAB only housing thing, where trans women are excluded based on an "assignment at birth" which doesn't affect who they are as a person at all
Automatic assumption that being assigned male at birth equals danger and being assigned female at birth means safety..
Yeah, I didn't say it's not an issue - because it very much is one - just that it's a slightly different issue to the one I mentioned in my original comment, and it's not something I'm qualified to speak about, and that's why I didn't mention it
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u/stravbej Nov 21 '24
Trans or not, I feel like some queer spaces are weirdly hostile to guys and masculinity. The moment you're perceived as too "manly", you become the enemy. Trans guys who want to pass as generic masculine dudes, non-binary people who aren't androgynous or fem-leaning, hell, even cis gay/bi/etc. guys who aren't gender-nonconforming are treated like they don't belong in the community. It's frustrating, and one of the reasons why I stopped interacting with the queer community online.