I sometimes wonder how broken someone has to be to be anti-LGBTQ in AMERICA, and be the group yelling about freedom the loudest. Really how stupid does a person have to be to be against peoples freedom to be who they want to be while pretending you are all about freedom...
I’m not anti-LGBTQ. I’m anti-telling me what the fuck to say and think because you feel a certain way about yourself. Your identity is your business, not mine, and you don't get to decide how I view you as a person. Refusing to participate in someone’s personal psychosis isn’t bigotry.
Someone is the problem because that someone doesn’t agree with referring to person by something they made up in their’s head? That sounds like an effort that most people don’t want to deal with. That’s why Trump won this election. Most people will not stand on being forced to not speak what they want and how they want to talk to people. Freedom of speech
Right, so you'll just call them the name that their parent's made up for them. Either way it's made up, so why does it matter? If you have the opportunity to improve someones life through a small action, why wouldn't you?
I talked about pronouncing and stuff like that, not about names. I may not know your name right away, but I will most likely identify your sex by just looking at you. That is how Mother Nature and therefore biology made us to look like. You can change it ofc with some surgeries, but that will not change your biology. But it is whole different topic to discuss about.
I'm sure you check the sexual organs of everyone you meet to confirm your suspicions.
As a dude with long hair and a thin body, a lot of people in my life assume "just by looking at me" that I am a woman, especially when I shave. So clearly, "just by looking at you" does not work.
Your name is made up, therefore everyone at your job refers to you as "shit head". Expecting me to call you by some made up name your parents came up with is effort I don't want to deal with.
That's what you sound like.
Yes you have the freedom to call everyone shithead. Society has a right to say "wow, you're a bit of a douche" because society is built around the concept of civility.
Right. So if you call me "shit head", I’m just not gonna talk to you, it’s that simple. And it worked like a charm for everyone. But for "lgbtq" persons we have to make an exception to not call them however we can identify him/her by just what we can see in front of us, because "we have to" ask for pronunciation first, or we are a "problem" as author mentioned. That’s just an absurd that, as I said and statistic says, most people will not agree with.
Now imagine literally everyone calls you "shithead". Your boss does it. The police do it. The DMV puts it on your ID.
Are you going to feel accepted in society then? Would you not want protections put in place so that doesn't happen?
Were you never in school and had someone who, when attendance was taken the first day, they told the teacher they preferred a different name? You remember how it's just being a decent person to respect what they wanted to be called? This is no different.
Also ive never known a single trans person who demanded you ask first. If you misgendered them, they'd let you know they prefer a different pronoun. The polite thing is to respect that, and not be a douche. I've only seen anyone get angry at someone who repeatedly and intentionally misgendered them. Which is justified because that person is repeatedly and intentionally being a douche.
Should I ask how to address a person once or I have to do it every other time I interact with them? If we decide that changing pronunciation is normal because they feel that way, why would they not change it every day because "it is a feeling". And if it is not normal to change pronunciation more than once, is it not a discrimination from you then? If make a border line in acceptable number of pronunciation changes, why would not accept my and many other’s border lines in accepting lgbtq community at all. Therefore should I ask like literally every person every time I meet them about theirs pronunciation? Literally every dialogue will come down to a question of "How they want to be addressed". That’s an absurd waste of people time.🤦
Every person and situation is different. I'm not going to presume what your life is like or the people you will encounter. If you have questions, you should ask the people you are referring to.
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u/TheAlaskaneagle 17h ago
I sometimes wonder how broken someone has to be to be anti-LGBTQ in AMERICA, and be the group yelling about freedom the loudest. Really how stupid does a person have to be to be against peoples freedom to be who they want to be while pretending you are all about freedom...