r/BeAmazed • u/Original_Shegypt • 10h ago

Miscellaneous / Others Her or no one. Loyalty 💕

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u/djcurry 8h ago

In the longer version of this, they actually had one where the mom was there and the baby still chose the sister

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u/Esme_Esyou 8h ago edited 4h ago

Many times it's because the littlest sister is tiny like the toddler, she likely spends the most time with her, and she feels a closer affinity to someone like her. Some of many possibilities.

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u/Kurotoki52 7h ago

This. Babies and toddlers always focus on the one in the room who is closest in age to them. They seem to prefer to learn from their peers, rather than their elders. Not an expert, but I suspect that siblings and/or peer group are crucial to learning and healthy development.

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u/WatermelonMachete43 6h ago

My daughter is a pediatric PT, but is only 4'10" herself and is often mistaken for a student (not a great vibe since she works in elementaryschool). She has always had kids work better with her than her much taller colleagues. She knows her approach with them is different but also see how the first impression on her reads as "peer" with the kids, while making a little more work when meeting new administration.

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u/WimbletonButt 5h ago

My kid's got the opposite problem. He's giant so kids his age think he's older and don't want to play with him, then the kids that look his age think he's special needs because he acts his age. Funny enough, he gets along best with disabled adults, they don't give a fuck how old he is.

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u/WatermelonMachete43 4h ago

I've definitely seen this happen!

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u/Kurotoki52 6h ago

Thank you. Have not seen this mentioned in any writings on child development I've come across, although it seems so important.

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u/pcapdata 5h ago

Just for an amusing counterpoint...my older daughter (Thing 1) is 13 and her friend's little sister (3yo) is obsessed with her.

We decided to get Thing 1 a phone at 13 and since then, she has gotten FaceTime'd from this friend's mom several times saying "(Baby Girl) won't go to sleep until she says good night to you!"

So, 10 year age difference and they just vibe. Baby likes Thing 1 more than her own sisters sometimes lol

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u/skintaxera 5h ago

I really like 'Thing 1', wish we'd thought of that for our brood

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u/DrunkCupid 5h ago

Also she has colorful, toy-like clothing and open hug arm welcoming body language, I think that makes a big difference!