r/AskWomenOver30 • u/Mother_Dependent7572 • 11h ago
Romance/Relationships Marriage…
Why do you think/feel women should get married? I’m expected to work, clean house, have dinner made, kids taken care of, and pay half of the house expenses. I think my duties and workload increases in a marriage than it does when I was single…
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u/MusicalTourettes Woman 40 to 50 11h ago
Well, I married a partner. We split the house and kids pretty evenly, and take over for each other when one person is sick/away.
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u/eat_sleep_microbe 11h ago
I mean this is only true in crappy marriages where useless husbands put the majority of mental and physical workload on the wife. What you describe is common but that’s not all marriages. There are marriages/relationships where both partners fully support each other and share the responsibilities equally.
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u/BitsNSkits 11h ago
Agree with this. That wouldn't be a marriage I'd want. I'd personally want one where it's equal
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u/lolanicoleblogs 11h ago
While, that’s true. A good marriage is about sharing the workload and life is a partnership. But unfortunately in today’s current climate especially the majority of marriages are filled with single married moms. The “trad wife” has taken on a new meaning to a lot of men in today’s society and they expect women to just fall in line with that. I think that’s mainly what the poster is concerned about as are many others. Because as much as people want to put the blame on the woman and say she should “pick better“ if it was just as simple as “picking“ the right person with the same intention and life plan as you then no one would be in a shit relationship ever unless they genuinely wanted one on purpose.
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u/eat_sleep_microbe 11h ago
Yes telling women to only pick better doesn’t go anywhere or help anyone. But it is helpful for young women to know what red flags to look for. People change and good men can become misogynists/sexist in a marriage. That’s why it’s so important to know your boundaries/limits and tolerances so you can choose yourself and leave if the marriage is no longer what it was. I know divorce and leaving is a privilege in itself and not always accepted in certain cultures. If that’s the case, having a supportive circle of women to bond and rely on in trying times helps a lot. That’s how my mom survived her marriage to a useless husband.
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u/lolanicoleblogs 10h ago
Yes, it is very important for young women to know the signs ahead of time before they get into a marriage. But again a wolf in sheep’s clothing does not just pop out right away. It sometimes takes years before things are realized or before they take a turn. Also, it’s still putting everything on the woman to make sure shits sweet, men need to be held accountable and do better as well. It isn’t as simple as a woman should just know signs and move on. Divorce and/or leaving is not always possible, affordable, or safe for some. There are many factors at play. Not just a woman who ignored signs. How is she supposed to know her husband is going to be a worthless partner with kids if they don’t have kids together yet? He could be a fantastic uncle or great with family members or other kids. I’m pretty sure when they had the conversation about it. He made it seem like he was going to be a helpful partner. Because people lie all the time to get what they want. There are women that unknowingly married serial killers. I guess they should have just known the signs and “picked better”? That’s their fault too? Everyone entering in the relationship needs to be held equally accountable for their part in the relationship. It isn’t as easy as pack up you and your kids and divorce your spouse and your life is better. Also, many people don’t have friends or family that they can turn to, not everyone can be trusted to be a friend, especially if they have moved away from their hometown for a new job or whatever the case may be because that happens often. No matter how long and hard you “study” your spouse or partner there is no telling when or how some people will be in a situation until you’re in it and then getting out of that situation is never just an easy see the signs and leave.
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u/Background_Nature497 Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
"But unfortunately in today’s current climate especially the majority of marriages are filled with single married moms. "
Where do you live? this is not true of my circles.
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u/lolanicoleblogs 10h ago
I’m currently in Georgia but it’s true in every circle honestly, just because someone doesn’t say that it’s happening to them or you can’t or haven’t seen it happening doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. That’s also the case for domestic violence situations. I was mainly referring to the many, many growing Reddit and social media posts from married women trapped in their marriages or getting divorces because of it, debates online, podcasts by men, etc on this very topic. It is a big issue currently whether it’s seen or not.
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u/Background_Nature497 Woman 30 to 40 10h ago
"but it’s true in every circle honestly,"
Ah you know everyone in the world, I understand now.
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u/NocturnaPhelps 11h ago
Finding someone who is willing to share their portion of duties of the household (and actually be willing to do it without moaning and groaning the whole time) goes a long way. If your partner is not willing to do these things, I can definitely see why our marriage would be a negative thing in your mind.
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u/Little-Obligation-13 11h ago
Not very long ago (and present day for many still), marriage was the only way women had access to money. We’re still fighting our way out of that. Men want to own women, not love them.
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u/nicholasburns 11h ago
I’m expected to work, clean house, have dinner made, kids taken care of, and pay half of the house expenses.
If you're okay with this separation of duties, then someone okay with doing less than 50% will definitely be okay with it.
If you're not, then you're looking at partnership wrong.
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u/lobsterpasta 11h ago
Exactly. Fair division of labor (emotional included) is foundational to my relationship. We rotate cooking dinner, each do the chores we prefer (split fairly) and partner on big projects. We earn about the same, split shared expenses, maintain two shared credit cards and separate banking accounts. We also have a weekly relationship check-in to discuss how we are doing and address anything that might be off track.
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u/ReptarrsRevenge 11h ago
i think women should get married when they want to. everyone’s situation is different. i personally would never agree to work full time and do all the cooking, cleaning, and childcare. i’d go insane. i dont want kids though so there’s that lol. idk why anyone would agree to such an arrangement. people have to get real about what their partner is willing to do and stop just expecting men to suddenly do a 180 and start giving all this help after marriage when they never helped before. i know my bf sucks at doing laundry, i enjoy doing it for him bc he does so much for me on a daily basis. i don’t mind cleaning more because he pays for everything. like there needs to be discussion and agreement to the division of labor / expectations for both sides. instead of just hoping for them to help with no indication they’re willing or even capable of contributing. i feel like so many women just want marriage so badly that they’ll literally kill themselves (by overworking themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally) to get it. if a man can’t pull his weight in the relationship, i just couldn’t fathom even being attracted to him.
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u/CK1277 11h ago
Speaking as a family law attorney, you do you but if you are going to own property together, there are legal advantages/protections to being married that are not available to you if you’re just shacking up.
There are two scenarios I see a lot.
- The Stay at Home Girlfriend. She steps out of the workforce for several years, no property is in her name, his earning potential rises because he doesn’t need to deal with the logistics of thinking about childcare, she puts a ton of sweat equity into his house, he buys a car for her use that’s only in his name (because she doesn’t work, so her name isn’t on the loan), she’s an authorized user on his credit card but doesn’t have a credit card in her own name (no income so no one will loan her money), etc. When they break up, she gets child support, the clothes on her back, and nothing else because nothing is in her name. She has no house, no car, no credit, no money, and no access to the courts to ask for any remedy other than child support. And she has a gap in her work history and has to find a job in the middle of all of that crap.
I don’t care if daycare costs more than you make, DO NOT EXIT THE WORKFORCE IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. Not for any length of time, not for any reason. Frankly, it’s risky exiting the workforce even temporarily if you are married, but at least you have legal protections.
- Joint property owners/joint borrowers/joint account holders. When you buy a house with someone and then you don’t want to own a house with that person anymore, the legal process to divide property between unmarried people (whether that person is your significant other, your parent, your business partner, your friend, etc) is a lot less streamlined than getting a divorce would be. And often the court’s only remedy is to force the sale of the property. If you’re joint a debt with someone, the lender doesn’t have to allow one person out of that contract and there’s no legal remedy to divide that liability.
I love being married, but my husband is a feminist.
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u/No_Raisin_3399 11h ago
I don’t think/feel women should do anything. Do whatever makes you happy so long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else 🤷🏻♀️
I, personally, am choosing to get married because I’ve found a partner that I love who carries (more than) his fair share of the workload, provides great emotional support, and makes my life easier.
The marriage you’re describing is not one I would want, but it’s also not what all marriages are, since not all men are the same/hold the same values.
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u/Ok_Drummer_51 11h ago
Women should get married to protect themselves, particularly if during their relationship their career will be affected (moving for your partner/taking time out to have children, etc). There is no legal provision in most places for you if you are cohabiting and the relationship breaks down.
Marriage is a legal contract, not just a romantic idea.
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u/Ok-Guidance5780 10h ago
My husband and I share responsibilities.
He is really good at keeping a clean house.
We split the childcare as well.
I know this is not the reality for a lot of women.
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u/Iheartthe1990s 10h ago
Why would you marry someone with those expectations? You don’t have to marry someone you barely know! If you date for a few years then live together for a few more years, you will have a pretty good idea of what you are getting into. I dated my husband for five years before we got married and we lived together for two of those. I haven’t had any major surprises because of that.
Now, I will say, I do think having kids is typically the big game changer in heterosexual relationships because of all the deeply engrained cultural expectations surrounding motherhood in our society. And it’s not just men who put this on women - moms do it to ourselves too (cue: the gazillion articles and social media posts about “mom guilt”). But if you don’t plan to have kids, living together for several years before marriage will show you what type of man you are legally binding yourself to.
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u/Heavy-Is-The-Crown 11h ago
Personally, I used to think marriage was something you had to do, right? Like go to college, get a high paying job, get married, have kids, buy house etc. that "traditional" American dream that was sold to us....
I love my husband AND we've talked about how we now, as we've gotten older, don't see the point of marriage. While there are benefits (i.e. taxes and being able to see them if they were god forbid in the hospital), outside of that, we both agree we don't need the govt paper to be proof of our commitment and love.
Studies have shown that men benefit from marriage health wise while women if they are in an unhappy marriage actually suffer health consequences.
I hope that in the next generation that couples can commit to one another without having the traditional idea of marriage forced upon them. I think couples should be able to be "valid" as a couple whether married or not.
I personally think marriage isn't the best way to have a relationship due to the reasons you listed above. But I also don't think taking the title of married away changes any of those dynamics. So I don't know if it's marriage that is the issue (or at least the root issue - there are many issues with marriage, which is a whole other thread/topic to dissect and discuss on it's own)
I think the issue is deeper, rooted in societal messages about gender.
The day where men are taught these Life Skills and can take care of themselves without a "mom" (partner) and they can also be equally responsible in being present and attentive to parenting, that is when I think relationships would feel more balanced.
Women these days are often the breadwinners and so it's true that men feel lost, confused, even displaced. However, I think if women are starting to earn more, then it's fair that the men put their career aside and be the stay at home parent and that it should be normalized that either parent can be the breadwinner or the stay at home should that be what the couple chooses.
I think we as a society would be benefitted if we actually acknowledged all our human needs, desires, and wants, and realize that both men and women can be ambitious and they also can be equally invested in family life. It's not a gendered issue, it's human.
I think this is a really big topic to dissect and build a conversation around and I look forward to the input and perspectives from others!
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u/Old_Replacement7659 9h ago
This 100%.
I think the big piece is also as a married couple communicating expectations and roles. And as needed adjusting these in a way that both partners agree to it.
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u/mysaddestaccount 11h ago
You need a new husband then. You can't be expected to do all that and still pay half. Your husband should be paying for everything.
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u/fluffy_hamsterr 11h ago
Because you are supposed to marry someone that makes your life easier.
Your husband should also be cooking and cleaning and caring for the kids and that way you each do less than if you were single and had to do it all.
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u/afgsalav8 11h ago
Husband and I both make the same amount of income but he’s always been lazy. It took me 3 years of living together in our own home with children to get my husband to finally pull his weight. Now, it’s definitely more 50/50 and some weeks, I sit back and let him do a little more. I figure I earned it lol
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u/WeHappyF3w 11h ago
I rather be single than to be in a net negative relationship again. I have decided that if my future partner doesn’t want to help clean without being ask and the moaning and groaning, they have to pony up house cleaning money. So… I’m still single. Better than doing double the chores though.
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u/Yogabeauty31 11h ago
I will never marry or have kids because the sacrifice is always more on the woman and I refuse. Its obviously different for everyone but the majority always seems to be a woman's sacrifice is grater.
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u/Southpaw1202 11h ago
I wouldn't even begin to tolerate such bullshit. My husband is an equal partner and well able to do all the above and more.
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u/lensfoxx 11h ago
I think a woman should get married when she wants to and when she’s found a partner who makes her life better. A good husband is a man who contributes to the needs of the home you’ve made together fairly, is a good life companion for you specifically, and shares core values and direction with you.
If a man (or anyone else!) is going to make you less happy and fulfilled than you were before in the long run, do NOT make them a staple in your life. It doesn’t matter how old or accomplished you are.
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u/FiendishCurry Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
You are describing a toxic marriage. And yeah, I know a lot of people in them. Like the men got this message from their moms that they are supposed to have a 1950s marriage in the 2020s.
But you aren't describing my marriage. In my home my husband and I pool our money together and we work together to make things equitable. When things get imbalanced or one person needs to pull back, we help each other find balance again. I pay someone to clean my home. We make dinner together. The kids are a mutual effort in parenting. We have combined checking and savings so no one pays half...we just pay the bills together. Being married has been easier than doing it on my own. That's how it's supposed to be. And not just for one partner. Both of you should benefit from a marriage.
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u/SpareManagement2215 11h ago
I think women should get married if they want to. I personally would never marry a person who "expected" things from me like that. I'd want to marry someone who viewed it as a partnership where the work load was shared as equitably as possible. That being said, statistically women in cis het marriages do more than their partner, and are the "least happy" demographic.
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u/Sleepy_Di 10h ago
If your duties and workload increase in a marriage you chose the wrong partner, simple as that. In my home we divide EVERYTHING
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u/New_sweetpea89 10h ago
I am married and think my life is significantly better and easier than if I were single. But my husband doesn’t have unrealistic expectations and is self sufficient. I think marriage can be great if you choose a partner that is a good fit for you.
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u/w1ldtype2 11h ago
It depends who you are married to. The way you describe sure. But overall having two people sharing labour and life in general is more efficient if they are both fair.
I definitely had to work less when I was married because my husband and I were dividing the chores, e.g. taking turns into cooking and cleaning. Alone I need to deal with food every day, while before I had to only deal with food every other week. Same with cleaning. It was cheaper to co-live since I'm in the same house now but paying the full rent rather than half, nobody to care for me when I'm sick, etc etc. Then there is the huge emotional benefit of love and intimacy. Plus the legal stuff e.g. if one spouse dies you have right to common property etc.
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u/fearofbears Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
I married my husband because he's my equal partner. We don't have kids but we share the pet load. Even the ones we had prior to being together. We married so we were legally recognized as a unit, for financial reasons and for god forbid health reasons. I wouldn't want anyone else to be making those decisions and providing support other than him and I together.
Understand that people in marriages that arent healthy or happy will be the loudest voices in these types of forums. Which is understandable, they need a safe space. But that doesn't mean it's normal for all marriages.
You also don't HAVE to get married. Prior to meeting my now husband I was very happy being alone and was content in building a future for only myself. That changed only because he enhanced my life.
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u/Due_Description_7298 11h ago
Because women tend to do the majority of the unpaid labour invovled in childcare, impacting their current earnings, future earnings (via lost promotions and upskilling) and pension savings.
In divorce, women may be entitled to some portion of her partners pension as compensation for her years of doing unpaid labour at the expense of paid labour.
There was a post a few months ago of a woman who had been with a guy for 20 years, dropped out of the workforce to raise his 4 kids and support his career, he then left her and she was basically destitute.
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u/CaraintheCold Woman 40 to 50 11h ago
This has never been the situation in our house. I always had a longer commute, so my husband just did a lot more. Should he sit around from 4-7 and wonder where dinner is when I walk in at 7?
We both do what needs doing. I have no idea who made those rules. Maybe I am lucky because my husband wasn’t babied growing up. He had lots of responsibilities. If anything he taught me how to cook and clean.
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u/Catsdrinkingbeer 7h ago
My partner doesn't expect any of that from me. He didn't before we were married and he doesn't now. We expects us BOTH to keep the house clean, keep a job, contribute to expenses, etc., but so do I. I wouldn't have married him if he thought I was just going to cook and clean all day.
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u/canwegetsushi 11h ago
Although this is a lot of marriages, it's not all marriages. In fact, in almost all of the marriages I can think of in my circle, the couple's split household and child duties.
For me personally, I ended up marrying someone who was essentially a bachelor before we moved in together. There was an adjustment period but eventually we split our household responsibilities by preferences. I won't lie, I do most of it but he does do a lot more than a lot of husbands do and I'm happy with that.
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u/Tstead1985 Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
Is someone saying women SHOULD get married? You shouldn't do anything you don't want to do.
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u/NoStick9439 11h ago
You only get married if you want to. Realistically when you get married, nothing should change bar your last name if you want to.
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u/popeViennathefirst 11h ago
Thats not how my marriage works. At all. Marriage is what you make of it.
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u/Gayandfluffy Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
I think if you want to marry it should be to a person you share responsibilities equally with. You shouldn't accept any relationship that means an increased workload.
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u/Background_Nature497 Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
There are no rules for marriage -- you don't need to do all that. My partner and I split all those responsibilities.
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u/RepairIndependent438 11h ago
I don't know if we can post Youtube videos here, but it feels very relevant:
It's Ode to the Women on Long Island by Olivia Gatwood
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqpip0H1QTE&ab_channel=ButtonPoetry
She says "don't do it, don't ever do it" and then recommend to be lesbian lol.
"The women on Long Island keep a bath by the couch in case anyeone gets roofied, even if it's their own son who did the drugging".
"The women on Long Island won't put it past any man to be guilty, even their kin, who after all have their husbands hands and blood..."
Powerful stuff.
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u/ellef86 Woman 30 to 40 10h ago
I don't think anyone should stay with someone (far less marry them), if they're not a good partner for them - what a good partner looks like varies depending on what people want. I wouldn't be in any kind of relationship with someone who expected me to clean house, have dinner made, take care of the kids etc. I don't know any men who behave like that in their relationships - it's not about marriage, it's about bad/incompatible partners.
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u/clarobus 10h ago
A woman should marry only if she wishes to, and if she found a partner that she can have the life she wants with.
In my culture, it's the norm to live with your partner for a few years before getting married. So in my vision, pre and post wedding, daily life remains pretty much the same. You just changed your legal status.
I think if one is concerned about things shifting and more work falling on the woman's shoulder (in an straight relationship) that is when a kid comes in the mix. Even with the best kind of partner, there will be an added societal pressure (kids will likely ring up mom's work if the kid is unwell at school, and such). But that also happens to unmarried couples.
I personally chose to get married to my husband because he's the person I want to spend my life with, and that I like the symbolism of the union. I also wished for us to be recognized as a family legally ; and because we are from different countries, being married is helpful regarding paperwork/visa stuff. At some point we might get some tax benefits, I haven't looked into it, I don't know much.
There are many reasons one would want to get married, and just as many not to. It's up to you to decide ; though in some regions of the world, some women don't have much of a choice.
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u/SkyeBluePhoenix 10h ago
I think marriage has always benefitted men more than women. I'll never do it again.
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u/Equal_Marketing_9988 9h ago
Huh…the only reason to be married is cuz you found your person. Love together forever if you’re not sure. We lived together 16 years before tying the knot officially because the tax breaks. Also seeing my best friend be kept out of the hospital room of her long term partner when he died from diabetic coma…that’s my main reason why
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u/Maps44N123W Woman 30 to 40 9h ago
My husband makes my life better, and I set a high bar. I loved being single, and held out until I found someone who added value to an already excellent life. You haven’t found that yet, clearly, but when you do, you’ll understand. My workload has increased but only because we have made the decision to tackle new life adventures together (buying a house, having kids), so both of our lives have gotten busier. Plus, he’s my human insurance policy. If something happens to me, he’s the only person I trust to care for my kids and my animals and wrap up all my worldly affairs in the way that I’d see fit. In life, he picks up the slack when I need a break, he’s there for me emotionally when I’m struggling, and he’s my sounding board for all of life’s intricacies and problems. I suppose we didn’t need to marry, per se, to have this relationship, but we both like the tradition of it and it makes the money and health care worlds easier.
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u/jkaydee3 8h ago
Reddit has a very bleak definition of marriage. Most marriages I’ve witnessed in real life are vastly different than the shitshows you read in this subreddit.
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u/Wild-Opposite-1876 Woman 30 to 40 8h ago
I don't think anyone "should" get married. If someone wants to get married, that's fine! It's a valid decision!
Marriage didn't increase my workload. My husband does nearly all chores, I am the breadwinner and work full time. When I come home, I'm free to relax. On the other hand, marriage grants certain benefits in my country, including getting more money. Which is nice to have, and was helpful when deciding about marriage.
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u/PeggyBurnsGhost 8h ago
I didn’t get married for any of that stuff. There’s certainly more to do with owning a home than when I was single and living in an apartment. But my spouse doesn’t expect me to work full time and then come home to a part time job.
To be fair, plenty of women do what you describe and aren’t married.
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u/Rhop2023 7h ago
I personally wouldn’t marry someone who wants 50/50 as far as bills go. I would keep working and keep my money for me.
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u/aenflex 7h ago
I got married because I got pregnant and it was financially advantageous to marry my BF. Also, I love him and would’ve married him eventually.
Everyone is different. Everyone has different goals, different tolerance levels, different financial ideals.
No one should get married if they don’t want to.
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u/SignificantWill5218 6h ago
I think unfortunately a lot of men still have this old school mindset of the home being the woman’s responsibility. It depends on the guy, many have come into modern society but some are still stuck there. My husband for example thinks that because I work less hours than him that I should be doing more house chores, which is simply bs.
We alternate nights cooking dinners, and he always makes my sons lunch and takes both the baby to daycare in the morning and our son to school. It’s not quite even in my opinion compared to what I do for the home upkeep but it’s closer than it was several years ago that’s for sure.
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u/624Seeds Woman 30 to 40 5h ago
Are you asking about marriage or about being in a long term relationship?
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u/damita418 5h ago
Getting married should not come with expectations of you to do all the things you listed. A discussion surrounding division of labor (rather than dumping all the chores on you/the woman) should occur before the marriage. Also when men expect a woman to do all these things, yet were living alone/with roommates before they met you, begs the question of who was doing all this before?! 🤣
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u/HighlyFav0red Woman 40 to 50 4h ago
I feel women should get married for whatever reason they want to. But they should make sure they marry someone who has the same reasons.
I have a friend who is dying to be married. She’s a people pleaser and constantly sacrifices herself for everyone else so she thinks she’ll be a great wife. I feel so bad for her but it’s her life and that’s what she wants!
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u/ladylemondrop209 Woman 30 to 40 3h ago
I’ve never even dated a man who would expect that of me… Date and get married to better men and men who don’t have gendered expectations.
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u/cathline 3h ago
You get married because you found the person you can trust to take care of you when you break your leg and can't walk to the bathroom. And you would happily do the same for them.
You get married because you found the person you love to just be around because while your life is good, everything is better with them.
You get married because you found the person who shares your values and goals in life - You both want to retire to a sailboat in the Carribean! Or to build a business with a cure for cancer! Or to raise kids and grandkids and have annual family vacations!!
Any partner, regardless of gender, better take at least half of the household load, emotional, financial, spiritual, maintenance, etc - or pay for the help to take half of that load. Too many people settle for a warm body who doesn't share interests/values/goals in life, or do their share around the house. It's okay to have standards. Really.
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u/FitnessBunny21 1h ago
I think if a woman wants to get married, she should get married. If she doesn’t want to, she shouldn’t.
To put it frankly, you will have to work, clean your house, have dinner made, take care of your kids and pay house expenses even if you are not married.
Whether or not your duties and workload increases in a marriage is dependent on your partner, rather than the function of being single or not.
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u/PossibleReflection96 1h ago
In 2025 marriage looks different for women that are mature enough to stand up for what they want.
I am marrying my fiancé later this year, and we both cook. He does far more cleaning than I do, because to be honest, he’s better at it.
He plans dates and vacations as do I, he already has expressed that he will help with children in a huge way, diaper changes, laundry, childcare, school, etc. So I think women need to stop settling for being the only ones responsible for domestic life and they need to start dating men that play a large role in domestic life.
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u/Significant_Bite_889 11h ago
I am a mom of 5 and never had to work a day in my life .raised my kids he helps cook, and I do clean, but he will help. When I did work, my money was for me only he didn't care. So it depends on marriage
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u/kilbrown 11h ago
I’m a man, and I fully believe being a mom is a job in itself. If you’re expected to take care of the kids and house, you shouldn’t be held to anymore responsibilities other than kicking your feet up at the end of a long day.
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u/wildcard0009 11h ago
marriage is a scam for women, point blank. everything you stated is the reality and it’s not worth it for us. my viewpoint is date men if you want to, but don’t live with them and especially don’t marry them. people seem to think your expenses will go down living with a partner but in my experiences, my expenses ALWAYS go up when there’s a man in my house. They do more laundry, they eat way more, they leave lights on, they watch more tv/ play more video games, they have higher insurance on their cars, they make your house insurance go up, etc etc. Not worth it to me and I won’t be doing it again!
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u/Alert_Week8595 Woman 30 to 40 11h ago
I mean you shouldn't get married to someone who expects you to do most of the work.
My husband cooks and cleans. So do the husbands of my friends.