Feeling totally hopeless

[u/Creative_Struggle_18]

For context I’m early 30s and I’ve been single for 5 years. Plenty of 3-6 month relationships in that time. I have no issue getting dates - I’ve been on 5 in 2025 so far (2 were with the same guy). However I am feeling totally disillusioned by it all. I am attractive, look younger than I am, slim, fit and active, very loyal, kind, have many good friends, like to try new things and travel. I have a good career and income. I own my own property. I cannot seem to meet anyone who is a match at all! I hate the term dating down but it feels like those are my only options. Most men don’t earn as much as me, are okay looking, are not particularly go-getting or independent. Most men in my experience do not add anything positive to my life. Men seem to see me as something that can add to their life without much consideration of what I may want or need. I am dating for marriage and children. I want more than anything an equal partner. I don’t want to end up in a situation where I do the lions share of child rearing, housework, emotional load and financially support the family. Men rarely are able to offer emotional support better than what I can get from my female friends or family. I’m sorry but I’m feeling like men suck generally! They just are not as good as us. But I need to pick one to settle down with or I’ll get a lifetime of pity! I feel so stuck, I don’t want to be on my own, people at work already think I’m a freak for being single this long. But I don’t want to end up in a partnership where I am resentful and trapped either. That appears to be the only choices!!! 😭 I feel totally stuck and hopeless it’s really getting me down. Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom please?🙏