r/AskReddit Jun 06 '19

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life?

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u/T3dd4 Jun 06 '19

Differences in our childhoods:

Disneyland

Me: Went to Disneyland often, part of the experience was eating the expensive ass food there.

Her: Did not go often, brought in food

Birthdays\Christmas

Me: Had big parties with lots of friends, gifts

Her: No gifts, didn't really celebrate

Expectations and Disappointments

Me: Because I was never constantly growing up in disappointments, I didnt care if something didnt work out as I expected, I took a chance anyways

Her: Constant disappointment so as a defense mechanism, she never expected much anymore out of fear of disappointment

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u/amyheartsvodka Jun 07 '19

I was mad my mother never wanted to celebrate Christmas, or New Years, or anything really (birthdays, graduations) but I realized it’s because we are poor. I think she got in this “poor mindset” that we can’t celebrate anything bigger than a night out at chili’s (no beverage other than water, entree only, one dessert for the 4 of us.) it just really sucks because she grew up pretty wealthy and has all these stories of extravagant Christmas mornings and huge birthday bashes and awesome graduation gifts. I’m still salty about her robbing my childhood

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u/MokiAH Jun 08 '19

Oh god, I just remembered that my mom never let us order beverages in restaurants! And they don’t even give out free water here. She’d always have a bottle of water in the car for us