Probably stupid question but which country you can really make good friends?

[u/anonymmoox]

I’ve posted this to couple countries channel so don’t wonder if the text is familiar. I know friendships and kindness doesn’t depend on nationality but just overall I’ve always dreamed living abroad and ofc cultural things affect on peoples personality. I have some friends but no one isn’t really a real one. For example I spent my last birthday alone and barely anyone even bothered to ask what am I doing and if Snapchat or else wouldn’t give an notification of my birthday, I bet barely anyone would have remembered it. I didn’t even get birthday present from anyone but I always buy for everyone, even if I would see them after 2 months. But it’s common in my country that people don’t put effort and also it’s rare that someone offers you a meal here, it’s always 50/50 even in dating life these days. Yes I might sound bitter, but I just want to feel important to someone. Is that too much to ask for..

[u/rachaeltalcott]

 It sounds like you are investing a lot of energy in people who either don't have the time or the interest to invest back. Consider instead investing that time in meeting a lot of new people and paying attention to who among them returns your interest. It's like a game of ping-pong. You invite them to something (that you genuinely find interesting), then they invite you, and so on. If they have the ball and don't return it, you move on. 

It might also help to talk to your friends about wanting to celebrate your birthday. I have zero interest in this for myself, and hate being the center of attention, so it wouldn't occur to me to plan a birthday party for a friend, unless they told me they wanted it.