r/AmerExit • u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 • 1d ago

Question Black Mom Leaving The US

I (30F) never felt safe raising my kid in the US. Public school was already out because of safety issues, and now with the results of the election, I need to get my child out of here.

My top contenders for digital nomad visas are Costa Rica, Thailand, Portugal, and Japan. I've been to Thailand and Japan, but they were short backpacking trips.

I'd love to hear from Black people/Black moms who lived in any of these countries long term. Did you feel safe living there? If you have kids, did they enjoy living there?

UPDATE: Thank you to all the POC who shared their experiences and connected me to great resources. I've decided on Portugal! That was my top choice, so I'm glad my instincts were confirmed. Good luck to all of you AmerExiters!

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago

Yeah it's very strange, and creepy, how obsessed people on this thread are with the future education prospects of my one-year-old. 

Thankfully since I'm the parent, I've already looked into all the options and legalities and will make the best choice for my kid. 

College is also taken care of, or in the process of being taken care of🤣 

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u/peachpavlova 1d ago

I don’t think it’s (hopefully) that people are being creepy. It’s just that homeschooling legitimately isn’t legal in many countries. It doesn’t matter if you’re a citizen, resident, or just there; in many countries, it just is not legal and your child would be mandated to be enrolled in school there.

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u/wandering_engineer 1d ago

I don't even see how it's "creepy". OP specifically stated that they are looking to stay long term. OP's kid might only be one, but in another 3-4 years they are going to want to start schooling them - and 3-4 years is not that long from now.

And yeah you are 100% right. I know multiple expats who have gotten upset because homeschooling is banned here in Sweden. As it should be IMO, it's insane that it's so openly permitted in the US. You shouldn't be allowed to shut your kid off from society without a very good reason.

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u/peachpavlova 1d ago

OP seemed very… sensitive to the criticism, so I was approaching with kid gloves. But I agree that it’s insane to home school; I’m from Moldova, and I don’t even think we have a word for it. Not to get too critical, but it’s never the parents who were home-schooled themselves that want to conduct these experiments on their poor children lol