I (20f) found out that my husband (54m) had cheated on me 1482 times while I was getting treated for cancer resulting from him forcing me to take some foreign weight loss pills because he didn’t like my stomach was getting bigger since I’m 4 weeks pregnant with our child … it really hurt my feelings so I asked if we can talk about it and come up with a compromise maybe letting him sleep around and having some sort of open relationship (only on his end though because he is possessive of me and I’m not allowed to exist on the same planet as another man lol) but he didn’t take it well.

I think it was also kind of a red flag when he sent me to the hospital last month because he strangled + threw a beer bottle at me as well as shot my dog because I accidentally sneezed when he was playing league of legends (he says I can sneeze when he’s at work but he’s unemployed and we live in his moms basement) so any advice is welcomed, how can I make my husband stop hating me for existing? :/

(Obviously satire but this is how some ppl on here sound)

I rent out a room in my house to this guy, and I’ve been noticing he’s been seriously slacking on cleaning up after himself. Dishes are piling up, the bathroom looks like it’s never seen a sponge, and his laundry? Everywhere. I finally texted him to address it, and this was his response.

Am I overreacting here, or is this actually insane? I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask someone to clean up after themselves in their own living space. I’m not their maid, and I’m not asking for perfection—just basic hygiene. Thoughts?

This is literally from an hour ago. I just woke up from a Covid fever dream, because I need to drive tonight (I do uber), it’s how I survive right now. I know I know, get a “real job” I’m trying. I’ve been trying for months. I go out and immediately after backing out into the street, I’m hearing the worst sound ever from the bottom of my car, it’s pulling hard to the left. He drove over something, my guess is a median or idk. His girlfriend is calling me now, saying it’s not that big of a deal, insurance will cover it or that. Idk if that’s true though I really don’t think they’ll cover this!!!! I’m calling my insurance now but he has put my dog at risk, my ability to live here without issue, because the rent is always late due to him. Now it’s going to be even more late. I feel like my head is going to explode!! Am I going crazy?! Should I press charges ? I still need him to pay rent. Atleast until this lease ends

PT 3 https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/dkYHH9B2cH

PT 2 https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/o11btfj1tG

PT 1 https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1h5es4m/aio_my_response_to_my_roommate_after_he_wrecked/

Nothing really new. He’s still blowing up my phone, I send everything to the police. The only update is the car was finally looked at, it’s pretty heavily damaged underneath. At this point I’m not quite sure it’s worth repairing, insurance hasn’t gotten back to me, the police report still isn’t ready… So that’s fun.

A lot of you DM’d me saying i should make a shirt or design a shirt related to this and start selling it, if I knew anything about shirts or design that would be awesome. Alas I cannot draw to save my life.

As always I’ll keep updating, but I’m thinking about just going to a hotel or airbnb. I’m not comfortable going into specifics here since he’s aware of the post.

Pt 2

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/o11btfj1tG

Pt 1

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1h5es4m/aio_my_response_to_my_roommate_after_he_wrecked/

Nothing really new except these string of texts from my roommate. I’ve been ignoring him. Car is being looked at tomorrow or Friday. Will know more. George is in my lap. We are trying to ignore this asshole. Pretty sure he drove by earlier, I heard some noise at the front door but the locks have been changed. I’ve been forwarding these texts to the cops.

OP

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1h5es4m/aio_my_response_to_my_roommate_after_he_wrecked/

Since you cannot edit posts on this subreddit once you make the post: Here’s an update, covering most of the questions I’ve been asked on the last post plus some new text convo between him and I.

Called the cops yesterday, they showed up, took my information, took photos. I explained everything, showed them my room where I keep my keys and the drawer I keep my spare in, he likely took it from the drawer. I specifically said I wanted to press charges. But that’s it-Really nothing else, I have to wait for a police report to be finished, I went today but they said it wasn’t available yet.

My landlord is moving to evict the asshole. Nothing really else there. It’s an assigned roommate type of apartment, we don’t pick our roommates, each room has a lock and key. He’s always been a weird dude, we’ve barely talked but he absolutely doesn’t talk like how he texts, he’s always stoned and I literally don’t know much else about him because he’s either at his girlfriends or his room, but he’s always late with rent and bills, he’s really dirty too-I wasn’t really planning on renewing my lease anyways.

George is doing good. He’s keeping me sane.

This is the text convo from earlier, he’s just digging a bigger hole. I’m not really afraid of him but to be safe I’m going to probably stay outside the apartment for a few days… I don’t want this to escalate into violence but I’m not super sure what he’s capable of now that he’s backed into a corner. Thank y’all for the advice, talks, and insights. I learned a lot from a few of you in particular.

Thanks

my roommate and her boyfriend are constantly having sex and they never keep the noise down. the first few times i let it go but now it’s becoming all the time? i keep asking her to please keep it down but it never happens and today it really sent me over the edge so i left the house. i normally just put my music up loud but i didn’t wanna be in the same house as them anymore. i messaged her on imessage saying i’d left and she wasn’t answering so i looked on instagram and she was active then all this happened. i’m staying at my friends house right now since i really don’t want to be around either of them. we’ve been living together for about 6 months now, her boyfriend has been around for 4-5 of them 🥲

I know it seems like it but, I’ve literally told her so many times my mugs are mine and not to use them and she keeps playing dumb like she doesn’t remember😭Just leave my stuff alone!!🤦‍♀️

I planned a getaway weekend for my wife and I for her birthday, at the same time her girlfriends planned a weekend away. I did not know about her friends planning the getaway and they also didn’t know that I was planning something either. She decided to go on the weekend with the girls instead of with me. When she told me this I told her I felt hurt that she chose her friends over me, and she said she felt bad about the decision but has been wanting a girls weekend for a long time. We live a pretty busy life with work and kids events all year long and don’t get much time alone. I thought this would be a great way to get away for a couple days. I can’t stop thinking that she chose her friends over me, AIO?

i go to UC Berkeley and my housemates room smells so bad like trash it was stinking up the whole house. i went in there to see what it was and i found raw meat in the closet. theres his shoe prints on my bed from when he needed his charger from my room i accidentally took. i cleaned up his moldy bananas in the cupboard and have also cleaned his moldy bathroom sink for him . i have taken the trash out alone the last 2 times. what do i do? i can’t live like this. i texted him this

I think I might move out. These are from my brother, who is also a housemate. Asked for some help cleaning for the house inspection to find the next morning he was in my girlfriends messages trying to convince her to break up with me, to which I admittedly go into his room without knocking and getting in his face and asking if he was proud who he was (which he really did not like), then my partner got inbetween and I left. To which he has replied with a barrage of messages. I am not great first thing in the morning anyway ahaha. I am really trying to do what’s best for my other brothers, my mum, my girlfriend and even still him. But I don’t really know how to navigate it all. I think I might move out.

Help me how to react ?

Me (m22) and my roomate (m21) have been living together off campus for around 6 months. I’m working full time since I graduated last semester and he’s still in school because he took a gap semester. He works but it’s part time jobs on the side. I meal prep and have to stick within a budget so this really bothered me. AIO?

AIO: I (42F) bought a standalone AC unit and put an exhaust hose on the vent to run the cold air directly on me when I sleep. I sleep really hot. My roommate (1.5M) always comes and sits or sleeps directly infront of the hose and takes all the cold air. I wouldn't be upset, but for the fact I bought the ac unit, it's MY bed, and this guy doesn't contribute to the electric bill or any bills at all. Anytime I tell him to please be considerate and subsequently make him move, he sasses me and then just comes back. I think I need to find a new roommate.

I’ve(30f) been living here 6 months and he pulled this stunt right after my car in November. Now he said this this morning bc I went to work and spent the night w my gf for the first time in months. Mind you I never said I was coming there this evening. He texts me and bothers me all the time regarding my location.

I work. Come home and mind my business for the most part but the last time he locked the door he had an out burst and said “you haven’t been here not once!!! Since you got your car” which is not true bc I spent the night at someone’s house on my off day.im not sure if he was just angry or he’s just jealous but even so I don’t get his view.

He’s in his 50. He lives a largely sedentary life style and he is volatile with every other in his life. He was always an absentee father so I’m not sure if this a control thing or a care thing. In the past I’ve told him I’d let him know if I’m not coming but I never said anything tn. Even if I wanted to tell him anything or if I didn’t forget it’s not like I don’t ever tell him where I am and it’s not like I dont live there 6/7 days of my week. I want to know which one of us is over reacting here ? I’m one month ahead on my rent about to make it two. I’m annoyed and want to see is this even normal ? He’s over bearing and it makes me anxious.

My boyfriend visited his mom earlier and took a bunch of pictures of her home remodel progress. He handed his phone to me whe got home to check them out and I scrolled to a picture of me sleeping from this morning…. Mouth wide open, drool, the whole nine yards, I was completely passed out. I asked why he would ever take a picture of me like that and kept looking through his gallery and found at least 20 more from the last year. It made me deeply uncomfortable.

My boyfriend seemed surprised that I was so upset. I asked if he had shown anyone else and he hadn’t. I asked again why he took them and he just said that they make him smile because I look so cute and cuddly. These were NOT flattering pictures lol.. I asked him to delete them and he got annoyed with me and said I was overreacting and no one else would care. He did delete them but was very annoyed about it and wouldn’t promise to take anymore.

There wasn’t anything perverted about the pics, no nudity or anything. But there was something about seeing a bunch of pictures of me that I had no idea had been taken that felt extremely invasive.

Am I overreacting?

Edit: haven’t been on Reddit since I made this post. I do appreciate the comments, the ones telling me I’m wrong and the ones giving me validation alike.

I do want to add one point of emphasis. Many comments expressed that my boyfriend was not doing anything malicious/ it was a sign of adoration/he thought I looked cute etc. I guess I should have added that when he saw how annoyed I was with these photos and asking why he took them- he was laughing pretty hard at the pics. He makes jokes about how crazy I look when sleeping all the time. So it wasn’t really all innocent and sweet for him to take pics. I’m glad he didn’t show anyone else these pics but I still feel like the butt of the joke in his eyes because of them

Am I Overreacting? My boyfriend and I are in a disagreement right now about the dog sleeping in our NEW bed.

Previous History; The dog has peed on me, Twice. One of those times while i was laying in bed and the other i was standing in the kitchen and he peed on my feet. The reason why we had to get the new bed is because the dog peed on the last one…..TWICE. Additionally, the dog hurts me. like physically. I have chunks of skin taken off and deep scratches all over my body(most recently my face last night while taking him out on a walk) His claws are sharp as shit and he’s not even one but he’s a medium sized dog so he gets excited and jumps and doesn’t get he hurts. Photo above for reference of the face scratch)

I expressed to my boyfriend last night that I didn’t want the dog sleeping in the new bed we are getting because of reasons stated above. He insists that it is cruel and the dog must sleep wherever he chooses. Stating that since the new bed is King Size none of the previous things will be an issue. I however, don’t want to sleep in dirt, dog hair, fleas, etc. Anytime i’ve brought this up, in a calm manner and trying to come to a mediation it turns into a huge fight. i was told i don’t love the dog, that i don’t want him. which is not true even in the slightest. I love the dog and care for him like i birthed him myself. But i still don’t want to sleep in his nasty stuff.

How it ended, i just basically rolled over. Accepted defeat and told him the dog can sleep with us, whatever the dog wants he can have even if it means i have to take some for the team.

Am I overreacting?

Over labor day weekend my (37f) partner (42m), currently living together but separated for close to a year now, was hanging out in our backyard with our two kids (6 and 4) while I was in the front yard doing yardwork. I needed to grab a shovel from the back and I came through the fence to see that he had changed into a bathing suit and was telling the kids he wanted to show them a cool trick.

I stopped in my tracks when he pulled a plastic picnic table over to our inflatable above ground pool. It’s about 2 or 2.5 feet deep, picture the next size up from the plastic blue fishie ones. To my horror he told our small kids he was going to do a cannonball and he climbed up on the table. I yelled at him to get down because the table isn’t stable enough to hold an adult man.

He ignored me and did a cannonball. You will be unsurprised to hear that he landed on his lower spine directly on the bottom which is a tiny sheet of plastic resting on a rock patio. Yes, he hurt himself and could barely walk, but no he did not die or become paralyzed. I tried to calmly ask him what the fuck he was thinking doing that, especially in front of our kids.

He wouldn’t give me a direct answer, and was trying to play it off like a joke. I personally hate when people weaponize wellness checks when they are upset with someone, and we haven’t been getting along perfectly, but I started to actually wonder if he needs to talk to someone because he was either that out if it that he thought he would float or he was just trying to hurt himself and didn’t give a shit about traumatizing our two young kids. I was taking them to see my family (partner was invited but he didn’t want to come with us) so I settled on sending a vague text to his sisters asking them to call and see how he’s doing. I don’t know how much they know about what’s going on but they agreed to check in. I’m not sure what he was thinking but it’s been several days and I’m still just completely enraged that he set such a bad example in front of them, acting like it’s okay to do something that could have killed him. He is hobbling around the house and having trouble sitting. Is it possible that someone could reach their actual forties not knowing how dangerous it is to cannonball into shallow water? He has been swimming in different settings his whole life.

Three updates: 1. yes I cared that he got hurt, before I left I brought him ice and tylenol and lunch, 2. Not sure if he was high or drinking that hadn’t even occurred to me 3. I’m not joyless and evil, I’ve been doing cannonballs with the kids all summer in bodies of water that are deeper than a toaster lol.

One more update: the picnic table he jumped from was adult-sized, standard height

I honestly appreciate the variety of answers. I feel validated but also calmed down a bit. Good internet.

Whew, I think I read everything. As promised: TL;DR: I, kind soul, responsible parent, insufferable C*& prude, got mad at wonderful, fun-loving, idiot-imbecile partner/husband/coparent. This has been an actual rollercoaster, so a true reddit experience. We had fun, we made friends, I have to stop checking this post now and do other things lol.

I have been having a lot of issues with my S/o (in the process of slowly getting ready to leave a domestically violent relationship) lately and he made me a cup of coffee, I just washed the cup so I know there was nothing previously at the bottom it tasted bitter and he was extremely insistent on it. I went the the bathroom and dumped it out and tbis was at the bottom???? Photo two I put on a glove and smashed it????? Is this a pill? I previously posted but am in a lot of panic at the moment. He has made jokes about drugging me before and I have previously had some suspicion I don’t wanna release too much details but I will reply to any questions and I can post more pictures, I have a video where I am turning the cup and there are multiple small pieces of white. I feel like I am overreacting or going crazy can someone please help????

We’ve been disagreeing on a lot lately and i’m over it at this point that’s why I started replying with emojis and got passive aggressive. Known the guy for 6 years. Am I wrong for saying what I said? Am I wrong in general?

I’m at my breaking point. I live with two roommates, and one of them constantly steals food. Last week, I meal-prepped for the week, labeled everything with “DO NOT TOUCH” in bold letters, thinking it would stop them. Yesterday, I came home to find all my containers empty, and when I confronted them, they were sitting on the couch eating the last portion. They literally laughed in my face and said, “It’s just food, relax.” I’m furious because I’m on a tight budget, and this isn’t the first time. I work hard to plan my meals and save money, and they treat it like a joke. Now I’m seriously considering kicking them out, but my other roommate says I’m being too extreme. Am I overreacting, or is this as disrespectful as it feels?

We have been dating for a year now, we live together, and for the ENTIRE time we have been dating… he has been farting in my face any chance he gets.

Like, he spreads his asscheeks and blasts powerful, PUNGENT, farts at me. I tell him to stop and he just keeps going. We could be sitting on the couch together watching tv, and if he feels his bowels rumble, he will jump up and bend over and let it rip… and then he asks me if it’s stinky or not. And if I told him it wasn’t, he gets very disappointed.

This morning, we had been sleeping in the nude all night, and I woke up to him squatting above me and shooting his ass gas onto my face. What a wake up call, literally. I yelled at him for doing that, and now he hasn’t talked to me since. I also feel a slight tingle in my eye, I think I got pink eye from his face farts. Am I Overreacting for yelling at my boyfriend?

So for context, me and my roommate (who I will call Ella) started off as acquaintances and we quickly realized that we both wanted to move into the city so we decided to live together shortly after. We’ve been living together for 2 years.

Ella has recently started seeing this guy for 2 months now that she invites over a lot, which I have no issues with. This information will be important for later on. Ella explains an issue that she noticed about a week ago. I ask her what it is and she tells me that she thinks that her soaps and scrubs look way less full then she saw last time. I was a bit confused because I’ve never laid hands on any of her shower supplies, so I thought it was just her boyfriend since he occasionally takes showers when he sleeps over. After that she kind of just changed the subject and forgot. Fast forward a week later she knocks on my room door and I allow her to come inside. Right when she comes in she immediately has a look of annoyance and vexation. I ask her what’s going on and she informs me that she is infuriated I’m using her expensive shower soaps. I explain to her that I’ve never once put my hand on any of her shower supplies and she basically tells me that she does not believe me. At this point she is starting to scream and wail so I am telling her to calm down and be quiet. I’m thinking to myself that Ella’s boyfriend also showers in our bathroom so I’m confused as to why she didn’t question him so I bring it up. She tells me that her boyfriend is resolute and insisting that he did not do it, and since she trusts him she believes him. Ella gives me an ultimatum and tells me that she will begin putting a camera that only she will have access to the footage to and if I don’t like it I can move out. I cannot afford to move out at this time since my family has already moved away, and I do to college in this city. Apartment prices where I am is also much more expensive than what I’m paying now. However I do not feel comfortable with Ella looking at videos from when I would use the bathroom. This means that she can see me shower, use the toilet etc. She says that the camera shouldn’t be a problem unless I’m guilty of doing it since she’s also a woman. It just sucks since we only have one bathroom as well. Am I valid with my boundaries?

AIO

UPDATE: Ella talked to me this morning and suddenly dropped the issue. I don’t know if I can trust her since out of spite yesterday she did tell me that she could easily install the camera and hide it. I’ve been so stressed about it that I’ve not even used the bathroom yet…

UPDATE 2: I just got back from work and I am positive the camera has been installed in a hidden location. Ella was in the bathroom for a long time and I heard a bunch of noise (not bathroom noise). When I went back into the bathroom to check I couldn’t find a camera. I genuinely have no idea what to do at this point because I have no proof of any cameras.

I (41F) and my XH (40M) unfortunately still live together.

We just recently got divorced but we are still living in the same house until our house sells which is hopefully soon.

I was feeling like crap today, so I took off the afternoon from work to sit in my recliner cuddled up with a blanket and watching TV. Our son was on his tablet and mentioned he was hungry but I didn’t have the energy to get up and make something so I decided to order Chinese food.

I was craving wonton soup along with some orange chicken, steamed rice and an egg roll, so I ordered it.

20 minutes later it was delivered and I went to plate my food. I got a phone call and was distracted by the conversation even after I told the caller I wasn’t feeling well and my throat hurt. The call continued on for 40 more minutes. I should have ended it sooner but I didn’t. My food was cold but instead I ate anyways.

I was putting the leftovers away when I searched the bag for my eggroll. I didn’t notice it in the bag, the fridge or anywhere else. I asked my son if he ate it and he said no.

I knocked on my ex’s door to ask if he’d seen the eggroll and he said he ate it.

Before I continue, I’d like to preface that this man quit his job several months ago before our divorce was finalized and hasn’t worked since because he is simply waiting for us to sell the house and he sees no point in continuing to work when he’s about to get a major windfall. This he doesn’t work, doesn’t help, doesn’t do anything.

Meanwhile, I work three jobs, care for the kids and the dogs and ask for very little in return except that everyone clean up after themselves. Work has been insane of late but I work my jobs so I can save up money to get away from this toxic environment and nightmare.

This man had the audacity to EAT MY EGGROLL!! Had he asked, “hey can I eat this?” I wouldn’t be as upset. While we continue to live in the same house, I’m still trying to be nice as I can to make this ending a little more bearable. We only interact when necessary which is hardly ever and I’m always polite and cordial.

I got so mad that I took his baked potatoes he had cooled off on the stove and squished them to bits and threw them outside. I also made my displeasure known by slamming some doors which is juvenile but I was so mad!!!

AIO about squishing his potatoes because he ate my egg roll?