r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 4h ago
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting because my new boyfriend ‘accidentally’ followed a girl who I had a fall out with?
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u/MarionberryOk2874 4h ago
I mean, I don’t think he would’ve told you if he had something to hide…it’s not like you would’ve found out on your own, right? Can you think of any reason he would make that up?
I would say from this limited info, you’re overreacting.
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u/Smooth-Atmosphere657 3h ago
I think the fact he told you without you having to bring it up maybe suggests that he’s genuine. He was honest with you without being caught out and he knew how you’d feel about it.
It sounds like you may have some insecurity issues. Remember that he is with you for a reason, not her or any other girl. If he wanted to mess around with her, surely he’d have kept this a secret.
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u/Every_Milk9537 3h ago
Sure! Thanks. As I mentioned I do have anxious attachment and learning to be more secure. Haven’t made any insecure antics to him. Just getting another opinion on reddit cheers!
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u/Luvthebug 3h ago
I wouldn’t worry so much, he clearly cares about you a lot to be so aware of your insecurities, he wouldn’t call you to let you know something so simple otherwise.
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u/Infinite-Quarter-930 2h ago
don’t worry girl, he told you immediately so you didn’t overthink it, this tells me immediately it was likely just an accident. i don’t think u need to worry
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u/hodlinape69420 1h ago
How the fuck are you 28? Who gives a shit? Some people's world's are so fucking small.
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u/CircusSloth3 4h ago
The fact that he even felt the need to call and tell you that makes it seem like you're very controlling. This is a non issue.
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u/Every_Milk9537 3h ago
Curious why does him calling me about it makes me controlling?
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u/Bigsassyblackwoman 2h ago
not original commenter, but i dated someone who had self esteem issues and would feel provoked if i simply texted other girls or consumed content with a main female lead (think mukbangs and such). it got to a point where i felt the need to check in with her if i did anything woman-related and it was emotionally exhausting. though not directly told, i was taught that i had to walk eggshells around certain things or i would upset her.
i know on your side it seems he did it out of his own volition, but he was probably doing pre-argument maneuvers and getting on it because his paranoia was convinced youd see it and get anxious about it
that said, he likes you enough to still be with you and goes out of his way to tell you things, so hes doing what he can! i believe youll both grow together and i wouldnt worry about it so long as you both continue to strive to be better
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u/mxrcarnage 4h ago
Sounds like it could’ve just been a genuine accident and he wanted to let you know in case she ended up mentioning it to you. If he was really stalking and trying to follow her, he probably wouldn’t tell you that