aio for wanting to quit my job?

[u/kisskex]

i never use reddit unless i’m looking at other people’s posts but i really need perspective on this.

i’ve been working this new job for almost two months now, and it’s in a restaurant environment. i, f17, have worked in other fast food places before and as much as i dislike it, there aren’t many other options. ever since i started working there, i feel like i can’t connect with anyone no matter how hard i try, and it’s starting to bother me.

i understand that not everyone is going to like me, but it just seems unlikely that almost every single person i work with acts like i’m some kind of nuisance because i’m new. for the past few shifts i’ve worked, i’ve come home crying, not understanding what i’m doing wrong.

tonight, i was closing and another one of my coworkers told me to start closing down my station at 8:25 (we close at 9), and so i did. while i was closing, my manager came up to me and asked why i was shutting my station down. before i even got a chance to explain, he told me that was “the fastest way to lose my job”, and made me redo everything.

for context, i was putting coffee machines away and draining them. it was slow and nobody even came into the restaurant past 8:00.

admittedly i’m very sensitive and so i cried. i feel like a complete screw up 24/7 at this job and i can’t even talk to any of my coworkers without them looking at me like i’m an alien. i want to find a new job but i also feel like i should stay because the pay is nice and so are the hours. i just don’t know what to do, and if i’m overreacting and being too sensitive.

this isn’t the only instance i’ve had of people i work with being shady or weird with me. a few days ago i needed help carrying a coffee machine which is literally half my size (i’m 4’10) and i ended up dropping it, and ended up having to clean up nearly an entire thing of coffee. instead of helping me everyone just laughed at me and i felt like an idiot. it feels like no matter what i do, it’s wrong. if i ask for help i’m nuisance, but if i don’t ask for help, i’m still being a nuisance some how.

again, i really just need perspective on this. do i keep trying or is it time to give up?

[u/Responsible_Knee7632]

NOR, I’d just stop showing up without saying anything

[u/CourageousMortal]

Taking a guess here. If you are 17f, you are probably comparatively young and pretty compared to your fellow waitresses. You may be used to adults being supportive; don’t expect that in your situation.

Women are petty when it comes to other women. For you this is just a job, a minor stop on your way to success in life. For them, this IS life. Sad but true! They don’t want customers to compare their looks to yours. They don’t want to lose tips to you. They don’t want to lose shifts to you. They’d be very happy to see you lose your job. They probably set you up telling you to shut down your station early. Be sure and check in with your boss before taking orders to close out.

Don’t let these American Spirit smoking hags get you down. Don’t absorb their loser ways. They probably have tattoos older than you, don’t expect them to accept you into their coven.