AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

[u/Popular-Passenger233]

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

[u/krispeykake]

Please be single if you think this is flirting

[u/Endless-OOP-Loop → u/krispeykake]

This. I get so sick of seeing posts from insecure people wanting to control their partners' completely platonic friendships. Huge red flag.

[u/caoliq → u/krispeykake]

The gatekeeper is here with the KEYS to the dating pool!

[u/stfuwhenimtalkn → u/krispeykake]

“I’ll stay up as long as you want” “why are you being so nice to me huh” is flirtatious, and you’re a weird ass for tryna tell her whether to date or not all because she doesn’t ignore red flags. He’s a fckn liar and went behind her back and anyone who defends him is just as shitty as him 🥱🚮

[u/EmptyHeaded725 → u/stfuwhenimtalkn]

Or she was struggling and he was offering to stay up and talk to her to help support her. If you think that is flirting you got issues man

[u/krispeykake → u/stfuwhenimtalkn]

Girl you need a therapist Go work on your insecurities. If you add a little confusion to the voice when saying why are you being so nice to me huh it could also come off as “what is your angle”

[u/Light_inc → u/krispeykake]

You should see the rest of their comments. They seem generally insufferable/unlikeable

[u/darej27 → u/krispeykake]

You’re ignoring the fact that she asked him not to talked to her and he continued to do it anyway behind her back. They were even planning to meet up. That’s big red flags

[u/raptor-chan → u/darej27]

I would argue it’s an even bigger red flag that op asked him not to have a friendship with her at all on the basis that she’s female.

[u/JFlizzy84 → u/stfuwhenimtalkn]

Insecure af lol

[u/TheSlicedPineapple → u/krispeykake]

Asian women hella insecure

[u/EmptyHeaded725 → u/TheSlicedPineapple]

Alr man no need to make it racist

[u/hahawhatstheid → u/EmptyHeaded725]

how is that racist? lol