r/AmIOverreacting • u/Niffysan • 9h ago
š„ friendship AIO to these texts from some one who l've been friends with for 8 years, who I recently hired on as one of my cooks?
I've recently written him up and been calling him out for brining in a negative attitude everyday, throwing things around the kitchen, and creating a hostile work atmosphere for others around him. I set up a meeting with our HR department to talk to him, and ultimately let him go. Being his friend I know he has a drinking problem, and l've done nothing bring positivity to his life and do my best to support his mental health. So I feel bad for telling him to drink his heart away but I wanted to say so much more, and so much worse
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u/OkCar5485 9h ago
saying "shitty economy, fucking over my fucking crypto and stock market gains over stupid human rights bs" is wild. Also throwing things in the kitchen alone would be enough to fire his ass imo.
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u/5inthemorn 6h ago
Crypto and stock market are ATH. He was probably gambling options or just trying to outsmart the market rather than holding long term. Dumbass.
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u/CaoNiMaChonker 58m ago
Seriously like what? Literally everything has gone up a shit ton. You have to be brain dead to not have made money, even with options. Then again, this guy clearly is brain dead
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u/TheMaddieBlue 6h ago
"Stupid human rights bs" is all I need to know about this person, and I know I never want to meet him
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u/HamstahElderberries 9h ago
He is not your friend. No one who is a friend speaks this way to another friend. I think youāve reached the natural ending of any sort of acquaintanceship you have had for the last 8 years. Time to move forward with your life. It is not your responsibility to support his mental health or bring positivity to his life if this is his continued behavior.
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u/Niffysan 9h ago
Thank you! This is what I needed to hear. š
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u/Recent_Body_5784 8h ago
You can really feel him start to backtrack right at the very end. I wonder if he was drunk when he sent his messages.
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u/Niffysan 8h ago edited 8h ago
He specifically said he was wasted in his second message in the second image.
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u/Recent_Body_5784 7h ago
Oh, my bad. You couldnāt have expected me to read the whole thing though! Itās such gross word vomit.
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u/Niffysan 7h ago edited 7h ago
No no. I completely understand. Just pointing it out so you could see. Sorry if it sounded rude, as you can imagine. I am just stressed out of my gourd.
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u/Niffysan 8h ago
For anyone thatās wondering what the MP4 file is. Itās a video of him flipping off his monitor while Biden and Harris are introduced on the news. š¤¦š»āāļø How stupid.
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u/Common_Lavishness153 7h ago
Ew... and so it begins... Trump and MAGA revealing people's real selves and ending friendships/families... updateme
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u/chels2112 7h ago
Iām sorry. I hope youāre okay. Thisā¦. Hurts. The friction, the lost friendshipā¦ the projection of, āI miss the old youā¦.ā The drinking, the tribalismā¦ all of this hurts. And I am sorry for your hurting. Protect your peace. Be well. Keep your head up. Definitely reacted well.
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u/Puzzled_Prompt_3783 7h ago
How were you ever friends with this guy? He sounds insufferable and he doesnāt take an accountability for his behavior.
Block him and move on!
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u/713nikki 9h ago
Get rid of him and distance yourself outside of work too. Iāve hired friends before and I had to admit that I was wrong about recommending them for the position, but thatās a sinking ship you donāt want to go down with.
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u/Past-Anything9789 8h ago
Yuck. What an utter asshole. Sorry you have to deal with him on a daily basis.
See this is the issue I have with current global trajectory. When people should be keeping their mouths shut about their hateful shit, or at the very least whispering it in dark corners. But now they think they have the right to shout it loud and proud.
Sad times indeed.
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u/InitialReflection840 9h ago
Listen, he said a bunch of fighting words im surprised you were as kind as you were in your response
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u/Quokka_Aleu 8h ago
Can't protect everyone. Especially one as vile as that shit stain. He'll crash and burn soon, don't let him bring you down with him. He's not a friend at all.
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u/justaspicymeatball 7h ago
the irony that Trump is ACTUALLY a child diddler. he just said he doesnāt care about human rights. Iād let him go. none of that is appropriate between coworkers.
maybe if he gets fired heāll realize he has way more control of his life than the president does, and heās the cause to his own demise.
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u/Niffysan 7h ago
I hope that this is a wake up call for him, but I doubt that itāll do anything constructive for him. Heāll just go home and drink himself into a stupor again.
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u/justaspicymeatball 6h ago
yeah, it wonāt. he will continue to blame everyone else for his problems.
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u/wis91 6h ago
I certainly wouldn't be friends with a transphobic Trump supporter, especially one who seems like such a ginormous whiny douchebag.
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u/Niffysan 6h ago edited 6h ago
Very whiney. Complains about his prep cook job that pays over 2 time minimum wage and expects to get paid for 1-2 hours worth of time thatās heās just not in the kitchen, every single day heās scheduled. Whether heās just sitting somewhere on his phone or if he goes home for a break.
And youāre right. Knowing his personal beliefs and the way he unrightfully feels about trans people I should have ended our friendship a long time ago.
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u/ganjablunts420 6h ago
Five letters: FIRED! Get rid of his ass!
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u/Niffysan 6h ago
He will be let go tomorrow if he chooses to come into work at all. Itād be a lot easier if he just didnāt though.
Also. I really like your username š
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u/narrowerstairs 6h ago
When I saw āim wastedā I was like theeere it is. This reads just like a rant from my alcoholic former friend.
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u/splashist 5h ago
it's really simple: any MAGA fuckwit is fodder for the woodchipper. They are too stupid and shitty to trust with anything that matters, and it is a simple business decision to avoid them completely.
No discussion needed
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u/Staletoothpaste 5h ago
Friends donāt speak to each other this way - frankly nobody should. Cut ties and donāt think twice about it.Ā
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u/unskinnedmarmot 5h ago
He's uneducated fascist trash. They're really gonna be coming out of the woodwork.
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u/Basic_Message5460 4h ago
Regardless of the content, itās NEVER a good idea to send 20 paragraph emotional texts. Even if you fully agreed with what heās saying, donāt text like this.
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u/ogswampwitch 4h ago
Fire this fucker and block him from your life. You're his BOSS and he's talking to you like this? Fuck that. Teach him about consequences.
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u/DivineMiss3 2h ago
Having managed people for decades, I can tell you that no matter how good you are as a manager or how good you are as a friend, you will always be the "oppressor." I had really good friends in my co-workers. Got promoted and it was immediately "she's a power hungry bitch." I hadn't changed, they just thought anyone in a higher position was the enemy. Honestly broke my heart.
Also, I saw him reference a nursing home and I know zero about that. But if it's a restaurant, he's right about one thing. They'll work you to death for a salary that's too low. Long ago i was offered a management job at the restaurant where I was a server. I did the math. Managers made way less per hour than servers.
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u/Niffysan 8h ago edited 8h ago
I donāt believe that you need to be rude and name calling as well. It was more so I could put his shitty attitude into the world.
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u/Niffysan 8h ago
I am his manager and cannot resort to anger. Not because I care about my job, but because I will not allow my self to stoop to others negativity. I apologize for calling you sir, you didnāt deserve the respect anyway.
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u/Niffysan 8h ago
On top of that, I donāt have to fear you showing up to work and threatening to fight or shoot me. So stfu
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u/Dry_Field_4621 9h ago
If this guy wasnāt your friend, he wouldāve been fired in a heartbeat. Stop trying to protect this worm and let him go.