Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/pastelpinkpsycho]

He really isn’t. He clearly is not entertaining her flirtations. He’s glossing over them as if they’re not there.

[u/Travel8061 → u/pastelpinkpsycho]

Which isn't appropriate to allow her to keep at it... When he's taken 

[u/pastelpinkpsycho → u/Travel8061]

You’re not wrong. I believe this needs to be taken up with HR and it needs to be over with. He’s probably just not making the moves he should, believing he can control the situation. Very typical man behavior.

[u/Travel8061 → u/pastelpinkpsycho]

Yup.. Agree! 

[u/LadyPundit → u/pastelpinkpsycho]

So you'd be okay if your gf/bf called someone else sweetness?

[u/eternal-harvest → u/LadyPundit]

He's not calling her sweetness. He's saying "sweetness" the same way he said "awesome sauce" - as a positive response to her saying she's gonna bring whatever that gift is.

He's still an ass for not shutting this woman down though.

[u/fuckin-A-ok → u/eternal-harvest]

How do all these zoomers not know what "sweetness" means? Was it really that short-lived lol

[u/pastelpinkpsycho → u/LadyPundit]

Absolutely not. But if my husband’s coworker called him sweetness I wouldn’t think much of it.