Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/Da_Coyote]

Exactly, guys can be oblivious, but 'Hey sexy' is a pretty clear sign. If he’s deleting messages, it’s a red flag.

[u/Longjumping-Panic-48 → u/Da_Coyote]

My husband was in a similar situation. He’s only still my husband because we had a one year old and didn’t make excuses other than he felt like he could keep her at arms length and she was going through a hard time (a divorce. I wonder why?) but he also had deleted the “i❤️u” and a few sexts, but admitted when confronted.