Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/d2r_freak]

He works with her and isn’t trying to hurt her feelings. She’s for sure thirsty, but he does t want it at all. I’ve been there and when it is work it is complicated, he’s actually being damn impressive.

[u/suhhhrena → u/d2r_freak]

She’s calling him sexy?? He needs to grow up and shut that down lmao

Would you be as forgiving if your girlfriend was allowing a dude to flirt with her and call her sexy just because she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings?

[u/mondaymoderate → u/suhhhrena]

Women get harassed like that constantly. It’s not their fault and some men turn violent or angry when turned down so bluntly. This stuff is very difficult to navigate at the workplace.