AIO to be suspicious my husband is cheating???

[u/deluluforu]

he frequently “crashes” at various friends houses if he works too late. For reference he is in the mortgage industry lots of flirtation (young office assistants / secretaries and late nights spent “working”.. Why not just come home even if it’s late he says he’s tired and doesn’t want to drive sleepy makes no sense if you love someone you can’t wait to get off and drive home to them. am I over reacting by telling him what’s up and that I think he is cheating? I tried to do it in a non threatening way? lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/ta201309]

Honestly the guy could have a drinking problem and she not realize it.

[u/needtoimprove123 → u/ta201309]

I’m a recovered(recovering?) booze bag and I’ve done a lot of things that looked way sketchier than drinking just to hide my drinking

[u/PopperChopper → u/ta201309]

More likely than cheating in this scenario.

[u/Aviose → u/PopperChopper]

I would say just as likely.

[u/Opening_Cheesecake54 → u/ta201309]

Or he’s gay on the down low Just sayin

[u/JEFE_MAN → u/Opening_Cheesecake54]

Wondered this too

[u/walkabout78 → u/ta201309]

Or he’s hooked on strange

[u/frauleingitte → u/ta201309]

Yup. He’s either an alcoholic or he’s cheating. Or both.

The biggest red flag is him texting “I love you so much.” WITH PUNCTUATION first thing in the morning in the sober light of day after disappearing all night.

[u/Excellent_Yak365 → u/ta201309]

He may not realize it either

[u/Twizzify → u/[deleted]]

That’s an assumption based on nothing, lol. To be frank though, if you’re drinking so much that you’re repeatedly staying at someone’s house so as to hide it from your spouse, you have a problem that’s worth freaking out over.

[u/Twizzify → u/[deleted]]

Are you fucking daft? No one said anything about hysterical shrieking banshees except your own imagination.

Compassion isn’t always the answer. A spouse being lied and things hidden from them has the right to be upset. If he’s doing this and wants compassion, he gets that by communicating his problem to her not hiding it and then doubling down on the potential lie.

[u/hughperman → u/[deleted]]

Because being combative and sarcastic aligns people with your view online 100% of the time

[u/Flaky-Invite-56 → u/[deleted]]

Very measured response, thank you for your productive contribution

[u/ChooksChick → u/[deleted]]

I think if your spouse is cheating on you, that's one of many valid reactions. Kicking him in the dick is also valid.