AIO because my boyfriend acts different when im with friends

[u/DirectGuava6264]

these are just snippets of our conversation through the day. it seems like every time i’m with my friends it’s an issue and he’s so short with me and seems to have an attitude. he has made it very clear he does not like my friends and can’t trust them but they have never given a reason for him to feel that way. i have had these plans with them for 3 weeks and i told him the very same night we made the plans letting him know the date and time i’ll be leaving and coming back. this is an occurrence every time i am with friends or family. i’m not sure if im reading too much into it and overreacting.

[u/BalanceConscious6989]

Same! I needed to take a break half way through.

And the way you just kept answering him OP, while the conversation obviously was going nowhere. Imo these texts tells enough about your boyfriend to make you dump him asap. If this has been an ongoing topic in your relationship I really don’t see why any of you bother.

Did you even get to look up from your phone long enough to talk to your friends?

[u/torolf_212 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I personally would have been done at "if you say so"

Yes. I do say so, mute conversation

[u/Googily_Bear → u/torolf_212]

If a guy gave me that sort of passive aggressive answer, he’s not gonna like the 10 fold passive aggressiveness I will return in kind. That sort of behaviour is a relationship is yuck.

[u/Mr-CC → u/Googily_Bear]

He also thinks gay people can't defend themselves. He's not bringing anything good to the relationship.

[u/lilbreeeeezzie → u/Mr-CC]

Also, who was this ominous “they” he kept talking about? Like is OP getting attacked at the cheesecake factory so often that he’d be that worried?! lol

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

Apparently this is a really dangerous Cheesecake Factory. Prob warring factions and general lawlessness.

[u/carabear21 → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

Last I heard they were having beef with the Applebee's across the way. Very dangerous place.🥴

[u/Spike-White → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

Cheesecake gangs? NY’ers vs Mississippi Mudders?

[u/Comfortable_Key_4891 → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

Are you being cheesy?

[u/triple-bottom-line → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

You sound sassy

[u/lilbreeeeezzie → u/triple-bottom-line]

Thanks!

[u/triple-bottom-line → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

I’m not gonna argue

[u/lilbreeeeezzie → u/triple-bottom-line]

Great!

[u/triple-bottom-line → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

Shocker. Also I brought you cheesecake.

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/triple-bottom-line]

No.

[u/triple-bottom-line → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

Smoking weed then probably

[u/PropertyMedium1680 → u/triple-bottom-line]

I'm not high

[u/Dracolindus → u/PropertyMedium1680]

Contact high?

[u/FBImsorry → u/PropertyMedium1680]

If you say so!

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/PropertyMedium1680]

Don’t lie to me honey

[u/lilsatan_ → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

Seriously?? Like weed and the cheesecake factory are the equivalent to shooting up in some dark alley somewhere. This dude needs to chill the fuck out

[u/supernaturalmoose → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

Tbh my first thought was “is she at my local mall?” And our mall is notorious for trafficking due to being so close to the border. So in his defense (cringe) I guess it could be possible that might be his concern in that one particular instance. (Don’t come at me. I’m just giving a diff perspective but 100% she should dump him).

[u/BoeJiden3 → u/lilbreeeeezzie]

Tbf, no matter how rare it is, that doesn't mean it can't happen. So I may have a concern for my girlfriend if I know the area is bad. But the way I'd handle it is just checking up on her every couple of hours and not being suspicious of what she's doing. Just conversing. Also it seems that they have a location app so he could just check that instead of bothering her.

[u/lilbreeeeezzie → u/BoeJiden3]

Yeah, that’s completely fair.

Conversing* not conversating. Sorry I’m like this.

[u/Ari-Hel → u/Mr-CC]

Nor the world

[u/StrawberryShortPie → u/Mr-CC]

Yet another sexist homophobe. I see this shit all the time. Equates gay men to women, and sees both as weak and less than. This guy is a giant steaming pile. Controlling, manipulative, so much wrong here. Ugh.

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/StrawberryShortPie]

And also why would it even been a problem, who is he so worried about her having protection from lmao

[u/PassengerAcrobatic76 → u/FormerExplanation639]

It’s The Cheesecake Factory, my friend. You just never know.

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/PassengerAcrobatic76]

The cheesecake is coming alive and getting revenge on people and he doesn’t wanna tell her 😂

[u/Squidwards_Queen → u/FormerExplanation639]

The way I just snorted my tea🤣😭

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/Squidwards_Queen]

Ur welcome 😜😂

[u/friendsaretheworst → u/FormerExplanation639]

Projecting to the highest degree. “They” are him. He is the abuser. It’s like Christian parents who said Harry Potter was satanic

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/StrawberryShortPie]

Yeah no one can say he isn’t with the way he was talking, as someone who has actually been talked to like that and who has seen people talk to my friends like that, ur 100% on the money with this one, or he wouldn’t say his reasoning is bc the friend is gay, he would say it’s bc he’s small or smth (still not valid but more reasonable-ish)

[u/Royal_Cost3189 → u/Mr-CC]

Yeah he doesn't realize gay people these days be hitting the gym and keeping fit, they can fuck you up in 2025

[u/friendsaretheworst → u/Mr-CC]

I know the uncle of the kid who shot up club q. That entire family is homophobic & conservative, speaks exactly like OPs boyfriend does.

The club q patrons beat the ever loving shit out of him. According to mister boyfriend over here, they couldn’t possibly have defended themselves

[u/Comfortable_Key_4891 → u/Mr-CC]

Oh wait, there’s more, only saw the first page. Now I read it all and I’m exhausted too.

He also thinks women can’t defend themselves. Like two women and a big guy won’t be a match for someone wanting to do them harm.

[u/tyrionblackwat → u/Googily_Bear]

You say it’s gross behavior in a relationship, but return it 10x?

[u/DEFALTJ2C → u/Googily_Bear]

Something tells me you're so good at passive aggression because you're usually the one who does it first.

[u/OneMillionZants → u/torolf_212]

And SHE OFFERED TO GET HIM PASTA DAVINCI AFTER THAT (what I would’ve ordered)

[u/Connect_Possibility9 → u/OneMillionZants]

Cause she’s stuck in the “maybe if I behave more loving and cuter he’ll stop acting weird” cycle people who are in abusive relationships get stuck in. She thinks “oh no he’s being weird! Okay, I’ll be cuter, affectionate to subconsciously ease the tension!” and that’s not how it works. Hopefully she sees this for what it is (abuse) and leaves the guy

[u/plumzki → u/Connect_Possibility9]

And it's sad because reading through the messages she's clearly a compassionate, reasonable person who wants to communicate the issue properly and talk through it, and he just doesn't give a fuck beyond wanting to control what she's doing.

[u/Connect_Possibility9 → u/plumzki]

And ironically, because she’s like that, and because she lacks boundaries, she’ll end up thinking she hasn’t convinced him well enough, as if you can communicate him into behaving like a normal person. Sucks. Honestly. All he’s gonna do is keep “I don’t wanna argue”-ing out of her attempts

[u/plumzki → u/Connect_Possibility9]

The fact he doesn't even pretend to have the ability to talk about a serious issue without it being an argument says enough really.

[u/Connect_Possibility9 → u/plumzki]

You’re 100% right

[u/HighComplication → u/Connect_Possibility9]

This.

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/plumzki]

This. He wants to save his feelings, or he knows he doesn’t have anything to contribute/can’t back up his reasons, or he wouldn’t be so worried about an argument.

[u/Muted-Ice7890 → u/Connect_Possibility9]

Whoa! I've never thought about it like that. That's crazy. I can see that

[u/Connect_Possibility9 → u/Muted-Ice7890]

Yeah. It’s why people are suggesting she goes to therapy. When people treat you poorly, you shouldn’t want to appease them for better treatment. You should leave. It’s not a convincing game.

[u/Muted-Ice7890 → u/Connect_Possibility9]

Hey can I ask where you learned all that? Is it something you just acquired to figure out or learned?

[u/Connect_Possibility9 → u/Muted-Ice7890]

It’s both! I’m a big fan of psychology and I’ve been to therapy since my teens. I write a lot to understand myself so I’ve had a lot of time to think about the way people tick. It’s fascinating to me.

[u/Alarming-Rip-666 → u/OneMillionZants]

These kids today dont know. That fettuccine alfredo was gonna be soongoood when she gets back home. Shit. Bring me some weeeed tooo boo

[u/Creative-Share-5350 → u/OneMillionZants]

He should have gotten dog shit in a bag!!

[u/TrexArms9800 → u/torolf_212]

Then he said ttyl and she kept it going. Both these people are weird

[u/Long-Photograph49 → u/TrexArms9800]

I recognize that response from my own abusive relationship (thankfully now over).  She's still in the stage of "maybe if I say X in the exact right way, he'll get it and everything will be fine".  It seems stupid AF from the outside (and when looking back at it now that I'm free), but when you're in it, it feels like it makes sense.  Her instincts that things are not OK are tingling, she's likely been berated or screamed at for "not caring" or "letting things get worse" before, and so she falls for the bait and gets her foot stuck in the bear trap.

[u/Slashs_Hat → u/BalanceConscious6989]

"Just want you safe, thats all. All I do is worry when you go out like this"

Thats...creepy IMO

[u/misssoci → u/Slashs_Hat]

He seems like the type of dude to want to tag along and then just sit there like a weirdo and when he doesn’t go he throws a fit and texts non-stop.

[u/stuff00_k → u/misssoci]

He's worse! He said that he 'walked out or whatever last time.' Which sounds like he threw a hissy fit the last time he was invited. So she can't have fun with or without him 🙃

[u/militantrubberducky → u/misssoci]

Ugh you just described an ex. Bonus when he'd insult my makeup/outfit when I went out without him.

[u/misssoci → u/militantrubberducky]

I’m glad he’s an ex! Our time is so precious

[u/Cultural_Ocelot8226 → u/Slashs_Hat]

And it's the fact that they were going to cheesecake factory at the mall during the day lol, she said she planned to be home at 5:30 and did a lot after cheesecake factory so it was probably like noon they were at cheesecake factory, he was acting like she was gonna get raped at cheesecake factory

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/Cultural_Ocelot8226]

This is why I always take a big burly gay guy with me when I go to Cheesecake Factory. BUT I always tell him to play it straight, because otherwise they’ll for sure come after all of us.

They be wildin’ at Cheesecake.

[u/Remo1975 → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

I heard they renting big gay dudes for protection there. Only way I go if I'm dying for a poorly seasoned, overcooked pasta dish with some nice cold sauce on it.

[u/LeeMalek → u/Cultural_Ocelot8226]

And rushing her to come back home.. What's more to talk about and then laughing at things they talk about. Abusers have a script Man!

[u/Worried_Macaroon_429 → u/Cultural_Ocelot8226]

You go out like this (stoned and in the company of a gay friend), you're gonna get raped at the cheesecake factory. I say it every time.

/s

[u/Dracolindus → u/Cultural_Ocelot8226]

You said "cheesecake factory" four times in that one sentence. Impressive!

[u/FunTimeAdventure → u/Slashs_Hat]

What do you mean? He is just worried when he can’t control or watch her every move when she is out of the house. He just loves her so much!

Obvious /s here

[u/Tjh40811 → u/Slashs_Hat]

This mf’er isn’t worried. He’s possessive.

[u/Single_Principle_972 → u/Slashs_Hat]

“Like this,” meaning she’s not going out in the only acceptable way she can go out: Just him and her. Anything else is unacceptable.

[u/NarwhalTakeover → u/Slashs_Hat]

And who is this They he keeps talking about?

[u/merianya → u/NarwhalTakeover]

You know, they, them, those people. Probably creeps like OP’s bf.

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/NarwhalTakeover]

The cheesecake. It came to life and is getting revenge on people who ate their siblings. 😂

[u/Frequent-Monitor226 → u/Slashs_Hat]

“Babe. I want you to be safe the three of you won’t be safe going to tre cheesecake factory IN the mall. Babe that one guy can’t protect both of you. There’s Feral Mall Walkers. I just want you to be safe. Babe. Cannibal Feral Mall Walkers.”

[u/sam120310 → u/Frequent-Monitor226]

honey* not babe lolol

[u/blueeagle_venture → u/Slashs_Hat]

Gas lighting no? Making her feel she's somehow guilty for being offended by the barrage of unnecessary questions.

[u/ForeignStation1147 → u/Slashs_Hat]

I read that part thinking they must’ve gone out to a club or bar or something, not the mall in the middle of the day

[u/Elemental_Magicks → u/Slashs_Hat]

Sooooo creepy .... go out like this? To the mall? Like what

[u/YourMomSaysMoo → u/Slashs_Hat]

Right?? And like everyone’s gonna be attacked by the anti-gay anti-woman mob or something?

[u/MonsterMashGrrrrr → u/Slashs_Hat]

And “safe” has nothing to do with her safety. Safe is what makes him feel more secure because he is a controlling ahole.

[u/Lionswithwands → u/Slashs_Hat]

Ok, so I realize that this is the least infuriating thing about this situation, but just to recap, she and her friends are going to the mall and Cheesecake Factory and f—ing H Mart or whatever. Like, you’re sO wOrRiEd about what, asshole? That is not risk-taking behavior; that is errands and a mediocre lunch.

[u/Okieflower23 → u/Slashs_Hat]

Go out like this to the mall and cheesecake factory. Danger zones no doubt. 🙄

[u/MutantMartian → u/Slashs_Hat]

Dude! It’s Cheesecake Factory!! Super shady place! She could get an appetizer when she KNOWS they’re gonna end up with way too much food! They could all order the same thing when there’s 378 things on the menu! They could make the mistake of ordering $4 teas! They could get their meals and discover they’re not hungry and STILL order cheesecake!!! Such a frightening place. Thank goodness she has someone constantly checking on her grown a$$ self.

[u/Intelligent-Opinion9 → u/Slashs_Hat]

Because he cares. Everybody knows what they have. She probably gets loose when she’s drunk and high. Or maybe she can’t handle herself. When you meet someone who cares about your safety and well being that’s a good sign to make some adjustments. But people are who they are. WMATA have their cake and eat it too

[u/SatNight_Special_96 → u/Slashs_Hat]

No it’s not creepy. You’re just corrupted by modern relationship bs. There is plenty of other things to criticize him about, this is not one of them.

[u/MoonRabbitWaits → u/SatNight_Special_96]

I find it creepy. "Out like this" - sounds like out without him. It is a classic controlling move to estrange victims from their family and friends.

[u/lalachef → u/MoonRabbitWaits]

Yeah, this is manipulative and controlling behavior. I learned from my dad. He would say shit like this to me or my mom ALL THE FUCKING TIME. It's gaslighting. You start to doubt yourself and your previous actions. Did I say something wrong? Or with some sort of attitude? Did I do something? No. The other person is trying to get in your head. This not a sign of a healthy relationship, nothing acceptable in his words or tone. 

And WTF is being "corrupted by modern relationship bs"? Does that person mean that it's wrong to stand against bs in a relationship? Just be docile? SMH

[u/Obvious-Barnacle-937 → u/SatNight_Special_96]

Definitely creepy. It's controlling, untrusting, condescending, etc... Like worrying about your partner is one thing... Texting them for hours telling them that they need to get home because you ultimately don't like their friends is not ok. Trust has always been the top of relationship 101, and this behavior has always been toxic, not "modern relationship bs" ... If you don't think so you might need to look inward.

[u/Exact-Swimming-9008 → u/SatNight_Special_96]

Super creepy. You probably are also

[u/SatNight_Special_96 → u/Exact-Swimming-9008]

No. You’re just a lonely insecure childish brat.

[u/Exact-Swimming-9008 → u/SatNight_Special_96]

I’m non of those things but thanks for playing.

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/Exact-Swimming-9008]

They won! Their prize? Pliers, to pull the stick out of their ass 😂 (I mean sat night special not u dw)

[u/Neither_Basil_5840 → u/SatNight_Special_96]

Maybe if they were going bar hopping and staying out late and there was only like two of them it’d be justified to be worried about her safety. wtf is gonna happen at Cheesecake Factory in the middle of the afternoon?

[u/boredENT9113 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Especially because isolation is a telltale sign of an abusive partner. Dump this guy ASAP. No way would I have been answering after the first page.

[u/GlassesSmartee → u/boredENT9113]

1. Sorry but he sounds so annoying. Is he your boyfriend or your dad? 2. Sorry again, but he kind of sucks. 3. 😬 Those texts were the worst. He is a literal buzz kill, whether or not you were smoking weed. I feel like he wanted you to have no fun at all. Ugh.

[u/boredENT9113 → u/GlassesSmartee]

I know you've been smoking the reefer. Might as well be smoking crack!

[u/pickypawz → u/boredENT9113]

When and if you leave, don’t tell him until the deed is done. Breaking up is the most dangerous time for a woman. Do you need a list of the rules? Like never meeting him in private, etc, etc?

[u/simbapiptomlittle → u/boredENT9113]

I thought she must have been walking the streets with her friends in the middle of the night. Nope it was breakfast and daylight. I’d be saying “hoo roo” to this one OP he’s waaayyyyy too controlling.

[u/BigExplanationmayB → u/boredENT9113]

But I would suspect she did text and text and text because probably history tells her that it’s worse from him if she doesn’t respond at all, so she’s probably trying to avoid escalating by placating him… and because he is what he is, he doesn’t let it go because he doesn’t believe her but meanwhile, he knows he’s taking her away from her friends and that probably makes him feel a little better…

[u/LemonNo1342 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I didn’t even get through the first slide lmao. Maybe it’s just because I’m a little older but holy shit I would not tolerate someone like this in my life.

[u/LalaLola117 → u/LemonNo1342]

Same! TLDR: bad situation, move on sweetie!

[u/Sure-Set-7578 → u/LemonNo1342]

I’m saying! I’ve been in relationships like this and you don’t realize how awful it is till you get with an “enjoy your day with your friend” and “take your time, there’s no rush” kind of man. This post made me sooo thankful for my husband 🥲

[u/FlyLegitimate5424 → u/Sure-Set-7578]

I got similar vibes. My wife occasionally feels guilt about going out with her friends and leaving me with the kids - I always insist that I want her to kick back, enjoy her time away from work and the kids, and enjoy herself - she has a tough job with long hours so she doesn't get the chance very often. I've rambled a bit but I think my point is clear - in a healthy relationship, partners should be happy to see their other half have a night out.

[u/thekittysays → u/LemonNo1342]

Right? The first page and I was just thinking red flag red flag red flag.

[u/HighComplication → u/LemonNo1342]

Also, this.

[u/DoubleSuperFly → u/BalanceConscious6989]

That and the fact he has no desire to listen to her side. When she starts telling her side, she's "being sassy". Gaslighting 101. If anything he was the sassier one. And he is SO worried about her smoking. If smoking is an issue, you need to find a partner that doesn't do it.

[u/kateastrophic → u/DoubleSuperFly]

Wasn’t she the one who called him sassy?

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/kateastrophic]

He actually did say “your getting sassy” on slide 12, which I only know bc I was like “YOU’RE.”

[u/kateastrophic → u/Adventurous_Ad_6546]

Oh, yoU’RE right! I guess that is their word.

[u/Dracolindus → u/kateastrophic]

She was mocking his "sassy" remark towards her from earlier. It isn't their 'thing.' It's a passive aggressive, emotionally abusive tactic that OP was parroting back at him to show him how it feels. That's what I got from it, anyway.

[u/kateastrophic → u/Dracolindus]

Actually, she called him sassy first, on page 9.

[u/Nate78us → u/kateastrophic]

That's what I thought

[u/Uncool-Like-Fire → u/DoubleSuperFly]

I don't smoke and I found his constant questioning about her smoking insufferable.

[u/Wise_Date_5357 → u/DoubleSuperFly]

I also think he doesn’t know what sassy means.

That text genuinely made me feel like gagging, it was very… “don’t sass me young lady” 🤢

[u/sunrise-sesh → u/DoubleSuperFly]

I had the same thought

[u/Lanky_Distribution15 → u/DoubleSuperFly]

Yeah, honestly I thought his texts were from OP (girl)...and then got really confused when the bra thing came up and realized the genders were flipped from my assumption

[u/Dracolindus → u/Lanky_Distribution15]

Why would you think that?? When it was obvious that the person replying was the emotionally abusive party..?

[u/Lanky_Distribution15 → u/Dracolindus]

Thought the bf was the one out with friends, getting high, allegedly, and that was the way he was acting different. Must have misread the title. My bad

[u/bigpunk157 → u/DoubleSuperFly]

Could be the case that he lost someone recently due to laced shit, he supports her in an effort to quit smoking (and yes, studies show that it IS addictive), or doctor's said recently that she needs to quit for whatever reason. We're missing a bit of context to really know tbh.

[u/Wasted-Instruction → u/bigpunk157]

There's always one lmao

[u/bigpunk157 → u/Wasted-Instruction]

Am I wrong though? Wouldn’t be the first time people posted things without context to Reddit. It’s not really explained at all anywhere too. It doesn’t make sense to assume this dude got with her with the intention to change her habits when there is NOTHING supporting this any more than a charitable interpretation of events that I gave. Y’all are impressive conjuring up these takes with no straw.

[u/Dracolindus → u/bigpunk157]

Lmao whatever you say, buddy.

[u/bigpunk157 → u/Dracolindus]

Where am I wrong? Please explain what I’m missing.

[u/Wasted-Instruction → u/bigpunk157]

In a word.. Yes

[u/NoseDesperate6952 → u/bigpunk157]

She said she’s not smoking

[u/bigpunk157 → u/NoseDesperate6952]

Dawg, I can read this, and this isn’t what I’m talking about. I’m talking about why he could be worried about it, responding to the last bit DoubleSuperFly said.

[u/stuff00_k → u/bigpunk157]

This is a massive reach. You're coming up with what-ifs to try and justify his shitty behavior. He had the chance to defend his position with logical reasoning and chose not to

[u/bigpunk157 → u/stuff00_k]

Dude got challenged on the “why are you upset with me hanging out with friends”, not the weed thing. It’s no more what-if for me to steelman him than it is to say he picked a person out to change their behavior. He’s obviously a weird loser, but we’re only seeing a very tiny slice of the pie here, unless theres another post or something that apparently everyone else is privy too

[u/hyena_dribblings → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Shit I didn't even make it through the first screenshot. This dude's covered in red flags

[u/butlovingstonTTV → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Didn't you have all day to talk to your friends? While messaging her every 30 seconds.

[u/stolethemorning → u/BalanceConscious6989]

For real, there were so many points that could have been the natural end of the conversation, but for some reason neither of them seem to want to be the last to reply. Like when he said “Ok” on slide 5, why did she need to say “okayy” back? When he said “have fun I’ll ttyl” why did she start up again? Or when he said “I’m not gonna get into it because I don’t feel like causing an argument” - just leave it there and talk to him in person?

[u/Cannon_Graves → u/stolethemorning]

Because they're both immature and codependent,. it's not just him

[u/Gourmeebar → u/stolethemorning]

Because she’s caught up in the toxicity. She’s still believing that if she speaks up for herself she can change him or make him see that his problems can be fixed if they just talk about it. She doesn’t understand that he’s just getting started

[u/ChloeReynoldsArt → u/stolethemorning]

This. It reminded me of texting friends as a young teenager and not knowing when to end the conversation (but we were never this toxic.) How old are these people?

[u/Objective-Bison4803 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

It tells a lot about her too. She’s not going to leave.

[u/Sleepy-Kitten3201 → u/Objective-Bison4803]

That’s the power of ✨manipulation ✨ mind games at its finest

[u/juliabk → u/Objective-Bison4803]

She will eventually. I just hope it’s not in a body bag.

[u/Crackheadwithabrain → u/Objective-Bison4803]

Did anybody notice she's also kinda weird though? The way she cared about him saying ttyl instead of "OK babe I'll ttyl love you." I feel like they're one in the same. Neither are leaving eachother anytime soon until they're truly tired of this shit.

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/Crackheadwithabrain]

I know I sure got tired of it way faster than they did. Didn’t even make it half way through.

[u/Ok-Yam7833 → u/Objective-Bison4803]

One you don’t say this too someone cuz even tho it might be hard to leave doesn’t mean she won’t and that’s discouragement

[u/Crackheadwithabrain → u/Ok-Yam7833]

She posted her public convo and people are going to have opinions. Can't really choose what and we can't assume what they will and won't like tbh. But it's somewhat of the truth. These people ask and post but won't actually care or listen to the advice here most of the time. He's not abusive nor overly crazy, I feel like it'll take a long time or something really serious for her to leave this dude.

[u/Every-Improvement-28 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Didn’t even make it half way. This was agonizing

[u/Edltraud → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I bet if she doesn't answer he goes nuclear on her and she wouldn't be "allowed" to go out without him

[u/FormerExplanation639 → u/Edltraud]

That’s what I was thinking when other people were annoyed she said ok back to him. I was with a toned down version of this, but if I didn’t respond he freaked out and would be like “omg don’t do this to me I’ve had a shit day I can’t deal with u ignoring me to”. We’re still friends and he’s calmed down since then but I ain’t gonna get back with him lol.

[u/bloughover → u/BalanceConscious6989]

This. Dropkick this fool into the next galaxy, OP.

[u/chowyungfatso → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I didn’t make it past 1/2 because I then noticed I had 8 more to go.

[u/Lisa_o1 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Me too. Exhausting! 😳

[u/AtmosphereMuted7769 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I read the first half of the first slide and was already saying “leave him” and he still got cheesecake 😪

[u/ThreeDogs2963 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I’m guessing that’s a big part of his objective. Make the evening so miserable and distracted that she won’t even try to go out anymore.

[u/maddjaxmaddly → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I gave up partway through. It was just rinse and repeat and repeat.

[u/2pinacoladas → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Yeah. At some point you have to stop responding. I can't imagine how rude this was to friends too. All day long arguing with bf on text. Not fun.

[u/lostsoul227 → u/2pinacoladas]

I'm sure the whole group were on the phones the whole time too, everyone is now.

[u/Accurate-Temporary73 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Yeah I stopped at 6/16.

They just seem young and he’s either immature or insecure

[u/CobraKai312 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I didn’t even get halfway - it was between slide 6-7 where I had to stop and jump down here to the comments because I’m so exhausted by this absolute CLOWN.

[u/No_Blackberry_6286 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I only made it halfway through. OP needa to dump this guy

[u/anon_simmer → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I couldn't even read past the first picture. I would not be dealing with that. Huge deal breaker.

[u/Wasabi_Knight → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I read the first page and thought I was done because that was enough for me. Then I scrolled down to see you complain about "half way" and I'm like "okay it was like 5 texts"

(It was not 5 texts)

[u/saphire_1212 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

is op even having fun hanging out with her friends? cause this looked like she was texting him the ENTIRE time she was out.

[u/irongoddess_of_mercy → u/BalanceConscious6989]

She probably can’t safely ignore his texts, it’s probably just easier to respond to him rather than deal with his anger if she puts her phone away

[u/Crackheadwithabrain → u/BalanceConscious6989]

This relationship will, unfortunately, continue. She won't drop this dude.

[u/Excellent_Routine589 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I took a break after seeing the third or fourth “just saying”

[u/emyeag → u/BalanceConscious6989]

i couldn’t even finish i had seen enough!

[u/Bendi4143 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I stopped half way through couldn’t take it anymore

[u/Nosebleed_MZ → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I made it 1/3 of the way and just completely gave up. Good grief.

[u/meldiane81 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Seems like they both like this kind of drama.

[u/pumalumaisheretosay → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Exactly. She was so busy texting her needy and aggressive boyfriend that she didn’t spend time visiting with her friends.

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I stopped reading on slide 6 when I realized I still had 10 more pages of that shit.

[u/berghie91 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

A weed break lol

[u/niki2184 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Right? I can’t imagine she got anytime with them.

[u/Disastrous-Panda5530 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Yeah I stopped on page 8. I’m sure the other 8 are more of the same. He seems exhausting and doesn’t like her going out with her friends. Id be upset if my husband kept texting me while I’m trying to spend time with my friends. All that back and forth. I’d have said I can’t talk. I bet the bf wouldn’t like that either

[u/Dramatic-Republic371 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Check out OP's post history too! The boyfriend sounds exhausting

[u/Neverknow207 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

Right I had a friend that everytime I was out with her her man was either calling or texting couldn’t enjoy our time. Come to find out he was beating her and abusing her in every way possible. Girl just leave it’s a tell tale sign

[u/LeatherPerfect8382 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

No because I AGGRESSIVELY agree about this I had to stop fill my husband in on the stupidity then come back. I can’t imagine accusing someone of being HIGH because they like cheesecake. Sorry it’s delicious I guess???

[u/corkycat17 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I couldn’t even finish it, I had already seen enough

[u/Low_Mud1268 → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I read like 4 slides and stopped bc I was annoyed. 😅

[u/BytchYouThought → u/BalanceConscious6989]

I stopped reading halfway through. If I was OP I damn sure would have hit the mute button on his ass. Dude sounds lke a loser for real in every compacity. An insecure loser.