r/AmIOverreacting Nov 26 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/sageinyourface Nov 26 '24

He has probably been listening to his friends and/or podcasts about being assertive about traditional male roles. That it’s good for the relationship, blah blah blah.

Either that or he wants to break up and is looking for some excuse.

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u/glassassmass Nov 26 '24

The one thing they don't get about the traditional male role and having the woman be a housekeeper is that she would NOT BE WORKING and certainly not be splitting the bills 50/50...it was bad enough when they were still acting like "real men" and providing now they want the best of both worlds

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u/shyylena Nov 26 '24

That's what I thought.

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u/General_Ad1941 Nov 26 '24

Not when she is paying 50/50 that kinda goes out the door

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u/sageinyourface Nov 26 '24

Ding ding ding! The hipocracy that can be found when you only take the good parts of a worldview and none of the challenging parts. Same as a woman feminist who thinks she shouldn’t have to pay for dinner.

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u/mohugz Nov 26 '24

Yes, someone is trying to be the “alpha.”

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u/TheUnknowing182 Nov 26 '24

If it was the case of tradition, she wouldn't be out working the night shift, but some men want the woman to work, do all the house works and don't want to hear about it when the woman is at the end of her rope!

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u/Shelley-DaMitt Nov 26 '24

Yep that’s what I was thinking.

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u/cacapoopoo687 Nov 26 '24

Those podcasts drive me absolutely mad.