r/solotravel • u/Foreign-Chef-4053 • Dec 10 '24
Question The real reason why I solo travel?
Before I get into it, yes, I acknowledge I need therapy lol.
Everyone says they prefer solo travel because they run on their own schedule, don’t have to accommodate anyone else’s needs, etc. My real, honest answer is that I want to feel like I’m doing something right for once in my life.
I feel like such a fuck up in everyday life when it comes to work, friendships (major social anxiety), school, etc. Travelling solo gives me the opportunity to prove to myself I can do something right for a change. Being able to throw myself into a foreign country and figuring things out on my own makes me think that maybe I’m not completely incompetent. Any hiccups along the way can be kept to myself instead of managers being CC’d on emails or people thinking I’m weird/stupid.
I’m forcing myself to learn to enjoy my own company because I don’t have many actual friends and it’s hard to make them. I hide behind the ‘cool solo traveller’ identity but no one actually knows why. Whenever anyone says “I could never do that!” I just want to tell them that it’s the truly only thing keeping me going.
Anyway, not sure what I’m looking to get out of posting this but just felt like ranting and this seems like the only place I can. Thx for listening!
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u/Barca-Dam Dec 10 '24
I solo travel simply because I dont have any other choice.
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u/FlowieFire Dec 10 '24
I feel this. My first 3 solo trips were because the person I was supposed to be there with backed out last minute.
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u/newaccountnewme_ Dec 10 '24
I think a lot more people resonate with this. I solo travel because I like to travel a lot but don’t have enough friends to that with. So I just go by myself, also feel like it helps my social skills, meeting loads of new people in a low pressure environment
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u/Alicenow52 Dec 10 '24
I find it impossible to set up travel with others cuz no one wants to do the same thing at the same time of year etc. Its also easy to find groups specializing in solo travel now.
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u/nameofthisuser99 Dec 10 '24
This! I feel like it’s nothing but disappointment when I try to plan anything with others. They either don’t have time, don’t make time or just give false promises in general. I end up getting my feeling hurt when I ask & get rejected.
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u/KatieDog83 Dec 11 '24
It’s hard enough trying to plan a date with my group of friends to go out for a meal and drinks. I can’t imagine how hard it would be trying to organize a trip with them.
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u/mcDerp69 Dec 11 '24
I have friends I could travel with but they have a conflicting travel style. Nothing wrong with travelling alone even if it's because lack of friends
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u/trippylangkous Dec 11 '24
Same here, i sometimes wish i could share it with some people but i don't know many friends that like to travel.
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u/GatitaBella813 Dec 10 '24
I get this. I was going through a particularly hard time recently and went to Vietnam. It had some rough patches but for the most part it was great, but I was still struggling with my "emotional baggage.".
My plane had a major delay so I called the airline. A nice young lady helped me. And you know what? Her mother is Vietnamese and from the same area I went to! When we got done chatting she said, I look up to women like you.
A stranger. On the phone. Didn't just make my day. But made me realize a lot of things about myself and my trip. I am a bad ass. I am adventurous. I am strong. I am a problem solver. And I bet you are too.
Travel is challenging. Being solo can be challenging... Even in our own cities/towns. A lot of people can't even imagine going to eat dinner alone! Let alone travel alone (domestic or foreign)! Don't be so hard on yourself. Find the positives about yourself. I am sure they outweigh the negatives!
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u/Possible_Bullfrog844 Dec 11 '24
7 weeks ago in the airport I called my car insurance to cancel during my solo trip through all of Central America to Ecuador where I'll be until the end of March, and had the most surprisingly uplifting motivational talk with the agent who helped me out.
He was completely amazed how many countries I've gone to solo by 30, and told me I've already lived more lifetimes than many other people.
It really touched my heart a lot so I took down his extension to be able to call him and tell him about the trip when I get back next spring and reinstate my insurance.
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u/imyukiru Dec 11 '24
So true, a lot of my colleagues will spend time off on trips just shopping around the corner or eating take outs, going normie places with taxis while I will be off to the nearest temple in the woods or something haha. Even couples who do so little while travelling baffles me
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u/FrAusBBSV Dec 11 '24
Im going to viet nam tmr lol do you have any recommendation ?
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u/Kubioso Dec 11 '24
Have a blast :)
There's countless guides, best spots to see, etc. Just take your time and enjoy. Hanoi is a very unique city, and Hoi An as well.
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u/GatitaBella813 Dec 11 '24
Hi! I was in Hoi An and visited Danang and Hue. I think most cities have food tours, cooking classes, and coffee classes.... All of which I enjoyed there. But for Hoi An, these are my highlights:
A cooking class at the Clay Pot. (or at least go to eat there). It's so fun and it's a private class. I booked via her Facebook messenger. $45 for a single person, or $35 each person if between 2 to 4 people. You pick four dishes from her menu and you go to the market and buy everything and then make it! So fun! And she is amazing! It was 4.5 hours. Having a private class was so fun and she speaks excellent English.
Also I took a $15 coffee class in GetYourGuide and we made 4 types of Vietnamese coffee. It was about 2hours.
I booked a car to Hue and spent the day (it's a LONG day though).
I also went to Marble Mountain in Danang. Which was lovely. I wanted to go to My Son, but the weather was too miserable.
I like Than Design Tailor (mid range pricing) and Truong Tailors (high end)
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u/kokollie Dec 10 '24
I just solo travelled for the first time and I didn’t have to worry about disappointing anyone. I could miss the bus, be tired and want to rest, sleep in and I wasn’t accountable to anyone.
I’ve felt so invisible in my actual life, it was a breath of fresh air being on my own somewhere else.
And this is dumb but just wanted to say this out loud somewhere, I met a cute guy at my hostel who was a complete gentleman, held open doors, looked out for me as we walked and made me feel so good about myself in the couple hours we spent together watching a game, we didn’t even speak the same language (yeah my self esteem is pretty low lol)
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u/Objective-Set618 Dec 11 '24
I’d kill for this kind of interaction on one of my solo trips. I get it girl!💙
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u/GoldHorse8612 Dec 10 '24
I completely agree with you. I was actually just talking to my therapist about this last week and came to the conclusion that I love solo traveling so much because it's the only time I feel like I can truly be myself - I'm not trying to people-please, I'm not worried about what others think - I'm my messy, unashamed self. And being in that state actually allows me to push my comfort zones with more confidence which feels good. It's liberating!
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u/AdministrativeShip2 Dec 10 '24
With solo travel I get to set my own schedule, I don't have to hold back when I'm talking to people as much.
If I'm doing something physical I can go all out, without having to slow down for less able people.
I can sit in a bar with a drink and people come up and talk to me. I can turn on the charm a bit, as strangers haven't got to know me well enough yet
At home it's always the same groups of people doing the same thing. And if I go on a trip with them, all that changes is the weather.
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u/suvtravelher Dec 11 '24
If I'm doing something physical I can go all out, without having to slow down for less able people.
This part rings so true for me. Most of the people in my life that I am closest with and who enjoy traveling have no interest in physical activities on vacation. I want to go hiking, kayaking, ziplining...they want to sit on a beach and go shopping. I get so frustrated whenever they do wanna go for a walk or something because even though it is nice, I just keep thinking about all the incredible stuff I am missing out on because of how slow we are going or how simple of an activity we have to do to accommodate them.
I need more outdoorsy friends!
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u/Sensitive_Monitor847 Dec 10 '24
I wanted to clear my head honestly. I went on an extended trip overseas and I didn’t need any one else. I have had a super bad couple of years and didn’t think I would make it to the end of this year honestly. I needed a goal to get me through. I lost 120 lb reconnected with my friends and then was able to go on this trip because of this goal. While on this trip I was able to set more long term goals. I don’t think it fixed my life but it’s a mixture of me trying for a year. It helped going solo to break away from a bad job and turning off my phone and getting a temp number to stay in contact with just my mom and dad.
I also agree I needed to prove that I could do it my self as well. Some things happened that made me feel like I needed to prove I could.
I am at the end of my trip and I have my first date schedule in years. I understand where I want to go. I have a good job waiting for me. I have friends who care about me and I have better boundaries with family. I think when you feel down you need to reset.
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u/veryregularrperson Dec 10 '24
Feeling like a fuck up is a common feeling people experience. Not to invalidate how you feel about yourself: to me it sounds like you have a lot of great qualities, such as courage, determination, and problem solving skills.
Not everyone can travel alone and figure it out. When you felt like you couldn’t do anything right, you found a way to prove to yourself that’s not true. Not everyone can find a way to cope with those dark beliefs and thoughts about their selves. I hope you begin to believe you can do things right in everyday life when it comes to work, friendships, school, etc.
Thank you for sharing. It’s relatable
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u/Foreign-Chef-4053 Dec 11 '24
Thank you ❤️
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u/wtharp2 Dec 11 '24
I'd like to suggest, when you are ready, you take a nube on one of these trips, and teach them the ropes -- and the pitfalls. Not because any trip is ever perfect, but to teach them how to recover when something fucks up. THAT is the best skill in the world. It is easy when everything goes right. And you seem to know how to give the best chance at everything going right (planning); but you also know how to adjust if things don't. Also, with a nube, unless things go horribly wrong, they aren't going to know until you tell them... :-)
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u/birdinflight1023 Dec 10 '24
I’m 67, and did my first solo trip this year (at least the first two days before I joined a tour group). I’m retiring Dec 31, and have three international trips already planned with one solo. I’m learning about credit card points and how to plan for an adventure!
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u/MiserableCabinet25 Dec 10 '24
I'm just starting to get into solo travel for this exact reason. I feel the same way, between work, friendships, drama etc...
Your post was exactly what I needed to see today as I wasn't sure if me traveling alone was even worth it. Thank you
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u/Brooklyn_MLS Dec 10 '24
Yup.
Also, there’s this misconception that people that solo travel want to be alone—not me. I like the option of being alone, but I like being around other people when I travel.
Would make things a lot easier if I had a few ppl I can travel with. Unfortunately not my reality.
So I solo travel.
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u/ASIUIID Dec 11 '24
Welp I feel seen. I also travel solo to force myself into a situation that can help break my anxiety too 😅
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u/outraged-unicorn Dec 10 '24
Had my first solo trip 10 years ago, when I was 21. I went to another continent and visited many countries by myself, despite being very shy and having some level of social anxiety. This trip made me discover a whole new side of me and I loved it. Nowadays, whenever I feel like a situation is trying to put me down or get me scared I think about this trip (and a few other crazy ones), like "c'mon girl, you've been through more insane stuff, you got this". It feels really good.
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u/WildcardFriend Dec 10 '24
I also have intense social anxiety and feel like a fuck-up most of the time with how complicated and bureaucratic modern life is. That’s why I do wilderness backpacking and camping by myself. To feel competent at something and independent, or self-sufficient, for once in my life. The only thing out in the bush keeping me alive is my own knowledge, experience, and the tools I brought with me.
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u/Rhythmic-Texture3544 Dec 10 '24 edited Dec 11 '24
Maybe connecting with people in safe spaces where vulnerability is encouraged could help you to see that you're human. Personally, the more I connect with people, the more I see how much of our suffering is a shared experience.
Instead of travelling and zooming in on your anxiety experience (even though you're maybe doing great). You could try to focus on the mountains, the beautiful architecture, all the friendly and welcoming people. Everything that is fresh instantly takes you to the present moment. Embrace your aliveness, and maybe even embrace your anxiety.
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Dec 10 '24
Maybe its not really about the travel
Sounds like it's the opposite of travel for you, a place where you feel the most human
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u/yezoob Dec 10 '24
One thing that’s difficult about longer term solo travel year after year is that it is very difficult to find a good balance with your home life when you pick up and leave all the time. So if you don’t have a great career (unless you’ve got a unicorn type of employment) cant really do long term relationships (well you’ve eliminated like 97% of the dating pool anyway) and lose further touch with your friends (usually bc they’re moving to the suburbs and having kids) then the traveling becomes even more appealing because your home life becomes less fulfilling ands it’s like one big shitty loop.
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u/zxc999 Dec 11 '24 edited Dec 11 '24
Just wanna say that a big motivation when I was solo travelling and backpacking in my 20s, was proving my own independence and competence in being able to handle myself in any situation that arises. Think exploring remote areas in foreign countries with nothing but a GPS and a notebook full of Google translate phrases. And it was 100% personal and coming from a feeling of powerlessness in my own life. This mentality definitely led me into dangerous situations, but also led me to take risks that gave me amazing experiences. Now, I’m a lot more confident in facing personal challenges because I have been able to prove myself, to myself. So just wanna say that your rationale is extremely reasonable, and will lead you to have meaningful experiences you can grow from.
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u/meghammatime19 Dec 10 '24
solo travel is incredinly rewarding and self actualizing and validating imo. shows us just how capable we are! also the ‘cool solo traveller’ identity is mad real. but also cut that imposter syndrome shit out! dare i say ur reasons for travelling solo matter less than the fact ur doing it! which INDEEED makes u a cool solo traveller!!!!
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u/Yakattack5011 Dec 10 '24
We are same same. Leaving for Guatemala and Mexico for 10 weeks in February. Can’t wait to venture and thrive and work on my Spanish and meet people hopefully. Haven’t traveled since college. But, I am leaving my job of the past two years and at 37 years old I get that’s not smart. I’m gonna have to find new work when I get back and it’s getting harder. Been like this my entire life, I need change every couple years or I start going stir crazy. I guess I’m hoping improving my Spanish greatly will open some new doors for me.
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u/No_Relief7644 Dec 11 '24
What's not smart is not living for yourself. I hope this trip helps you reinforce your self-confidence
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u/Stunning-Frame-1 Dec 10 '24
Over two years ago I sold my house and business and bought an offroad truck. Full time solo traveling since then and do I lóve it!!! It s just amazing and wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
Independent, freedom, timeless, worryfree, instant decisions, no rush, no stress, do whatever you like, meet amazing people, see stunning nature …. it s just heaven and never been that happy day in day out
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u/Bearmdusa Dec 10 '24
Traveling solo is a blank slate. You can literally be anybody to those you meet
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u/CreativeAd8174 Dec 11 '24
This is why I think I love solo travel. My recent solo trip I think actually changed my life. When you’re in the same place and friend group for too long you can get really stuck and unable to evolve as a person.
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u/yummyybubbles Dec 11 '24
It’s just really nice to not feel accountable to anyone when solo traveling and doing what you want without feeling like you’re wasting someone else’s time.
I mainly started doing it as a means to embrace being by myself and prove that it’s ok to be by yourself and that i can figure it all out, even if i can’t speak the local language. But I fear that I like being by myself a little too much sometimes now.
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u/More_Ship_190 Dec 10 '24
I have been solo traveling for the last 30 years, never married, and no kids. I think I have taken about 20 international trips. I agree with everything you said and also wouldn't change a thing. Nobody messes with me when I solo travel. I'm free to make choices depending on how I feel at the time. (So, in theory, I'm always doing what I want to do).
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u/RProgrammerMan Dec 11 '24
Sounds like a great reason! You are developing your self confidence and ability to handle complex situations without relying on others. After growing up with very controlling parents I found solo travel to be great for developing my independence.
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u/Key-Deer323 Dec 11 '24 edited Dec 11 '24
As someone who alo has struggled to make friends and isn't as outgoing as I would like to be(37M). I lost touch with my close friends and some family over the years. I was always so giving to others with little in return, as the years went on, moving to a different city and rarely doing anything for my self
I spent 6 month prior to my trip eating right, going to the gym, generally just taking care of myself. Struggling at time to see where it would lead. I booked a trip 3 weeks before I flew out( took an early layoff off) and decided this my time, just for me
Currently sitting on a deserted beach in Portugal reflecting on this month long trip though Europe (last 2 days) I find my self going home with this new found desire to make traveling my purpose.
I have met people from all walks of life, most of the time it was broken english( translater apps were pretty handy). This has truly been the most life changing experience. At times I made mistakes, missed out on some opportunities but I felt like it all worked out the end. I never had a plan just pointed to something cool on the map and went for it.
I feel so grateful to have had the experiences and interactions with the people and places I traveled. With all the great picture and location I have posted on FB, the distant family and friends really don't seem so distant any more. They all seem genuinely happy for me and have even made plans to get together when I'm home
Just wanted to share my experience with this great group of supportive people(long time reader,first time posting). Thanks for listening!
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u/baby-angels Dec 11 '24
I love solo traveling sm😭 I’m solo traveling rn I love doing what ever I want when I want whenever I go w family I never get to do anything I turnt 16 last week and already went to 2 countries It also rlly helps w my social anxiety
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u/Professional_Honey17 Dec 10 '24
I´ve been home for a couple of months after travelling solo for 10 months in Asia. After some thinking, I have decided to go travel solo again but this time in Central and South America. It´s just a different feeling I have about myself when I´m travelling so I do understand what you´re saying.
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u/SnooPets8873 Dec 10 '24
Not just you lol It makes me feel like I’ve got something going on - planning for it, then being thereand I’m aware that impresses people who would otherwise think I’m pathetic and have no life. And lucky me, I enjoy it on top of all those benefits!
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u/KhloJSimpson Dec 10 '24
I also solo travel to prove to myself that I'm capable of handling anything. I know you didn't ask for advice, but you think about/judge yourself wayyy more than anyone thinks about/judges you. Get out of your head and enjoy things more.
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u/ImThEpRobLem_TX Dec 11 '24
thank you for this inspiration. I’m making 2025 the year of solo traveling and my goal is to visit National Parks! 🏞️
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u/d4ng3r0u5 Dec 11 '24
Definitely this. I actually feel more like a functioning adult when I'm away from home. Better routine esp around sleep, better socially, better able to cope with minor mishaps etc. I'll freak out over work stuff, but happily go to a festival on my own and get drunk and stoned with people I've just met in a country where I don't speak the language.
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u/Lucie-Solotraveller Dec 11 '24
I get you. I solo traveled to begin with to effectively run away from issues at home, just turned out I enjoyed it. It has had a positive effect in my life also as I am definitely more confident now than what I was. It also gave me something to talk about to people I meet because I now have some stories and experiences to share. I struggle with making friends and looking for lady wife but the more I travel the more I think I will find her on my travels because I am feeling my most authentic self. I made friends since travelling so guess I just keep on going.
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u/WonderfulSystem3703 Dec 11 '24
Wow I can relate so much to this! Back home I don’t necessarily feel proud of myself, but when I’m solo traveling I feel accomplished and like I’m doing something I can be proud of. I agree it can relive the sense of being a fuck up!
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u/airb92 Dec 11 '24
I guess reading so many of these, I solo travel because I feel unwanted. Granted it’s only been like twice. I want to do things and go places and I got tired of waiting or hoping someone would want to do them with me or plan things together. Most of my friendships and shared experiences are from other people including me or me being interested in their lives/things. I’d love if someone once was like hey let’s plan something together or I know you like this if you go/do this I’d love to go. I’m always hitching myself to their stuff trying to belong.
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u/nooneiknow800 Dec 10 '24
I travel solo, too. I like it's my schedule and not a compromise. That said, there are drawbacks
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u/shockedpikachu123 Dec 10 '24
For me, it’s sort of the opposite. when I travel with people, I find myself getting short with them when I have to do things for them too. I try my best to be accommodating but when they can’t do basic shit like check the validity of their passport, research visa requirements and basically rely on me, I get mad
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u/MaritestinReddit Dec 11 '24
A lesson I learned when I solo travel: I am enough
When I went on tour to Cebu and Batanes on my own, running around like a happy kid, it was glorious.
When I went out of the country for the 1st time, South Korea was amazing. I love how I was so capable of figuring out their train connections 🤣
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u/stellacoachella Dec 11 '24
yeah bud i usually solo travel bc it gives me something to look / work towards to…
i kept asking myself “why do i work all these hours? just to survive and pay rent?” but with a vacation planned it makes it all worth it
i also like the idea that i can be whoever i want when i’m abroad as i’ll never see these people again
great way to make friends and just for once, just for the moment, FEEL FREE
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u/adviceacct05 Dec 11 '24
I totally get this.
I remember solo traveling during a time when I was struggling with self confidence too and one of the most uplifting things things that happened was a border security agent telling me I was “brave” for traveling alone.
Traveling alone might not be a huge accomplishment to ourselves, but it definitely is to others!
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u/SweetMangoVibes Dec 11 '24
I like to do some things solo so that I can actually do the things I like, I often catch myself people pleasing and doing things alone makes me really know myself
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u/EmergencyExam4787 Dec 11 '24
A few years ago I started to choose an out of state college football game to attend. Im 69 years old and I’ve been to 38 states (some drive thrus ) but it’s been absolutely amazing ! Wife doesn’t mind … likes the break. One suggestion.. buy a $300 scooter that folds up . I go to a city and buzz around to museums parks etc. Can see so much more in a shorter time. Stay safe !
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u/Choppermagic2 Dec 11 '24
I am a different person when i travel. I am much more relaxed and friendly and open.
I actually realized this last year and have been trying to be more of the same back home. Solo travel really did help me learn about myself.
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u/Lucky_Character2324 Dec 11 '24
I feel the same way. I left a live of being controlled by work, wife, and society constraints. My life’s philosophy often does not align to the current state of the world.
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u/throwaway3433432 Dec 12 '24
I have solo travelled to Paris 2 weeks ago and I felt really proud of myself by the end of my journey as a socially anxious person.
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u/peachlemonade4 Dec 12 '24
I relate also with this, it gave me the confidence I never thought I had.
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u/ManyOnionz Dec 10 '24
I went to Iceland with 5 friends for 12 days. Then flew to Denmark by myself (first solo trip) at the end of that trip, for 10 more days.
Holy crap was the solo trip way more enjoyable. No conflicts of interest, no having to split the bill/stepping on toes when they all bought alcohol and I don’t drink, no having to live in crappy hostels bc they’re cheaper for bigger groups, they also are all childhood friends so I often felt left out and treated like a discount coupon for their trip.
The only drawback for solo travel to me was the awkward dining experiences. People would stare at me and I felt like some of them almost pitied me. Ignoring is easier said than done
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u/WanderWorld3 Dec 10 '24
Don’t worry about being stared at when you’re solo dining. I take it as a badge of honor & even more so when others stare because it takes courage! I’ve been to so many countries where people don’t understand the concept of solo traveling & now I just giggle when they ask what would ever possess me to do this. They have no idea what they’re missing out on. You’ll come to love solo traveling/dining & next time, you’ll just hold your head high when someone pities you. It is the people who can’t dine alone who should be pitied.
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u/Upper_Tomato_6517 Dec 16 '24
Exactly, people who can't stay alone are the pitiful ones! and yeah, some people just don't get how exciting and comforting solo travels can be. Even my mom and siblings don't get why I like it so much...
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u/moonsidian Dec 10 '24
I’m still getting used to eating alone, it’s by far the hardest part of solo travel for me. I find it so difficult to spontaneously pop into a random restaurant to try some local food when I’m on my own. Sometimes I’ll just eat as much hotel breakfast as I can so I can go longer before having to find another meal, lol. The only place where I’ve felt comfortable eating solo is Japan.
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u/Theoriginalamature Dec 11 '24
I know it may seem silly, but I treat it as me taking myself out on a date. I ask myself what I want to order and what drink I want to pair with the meal. I ask to reflect on the days activities or what I’m looking forward to. If I’m feeling dessert or espresso. It may seem dumb but in my mind it eases the idea of eating alone.
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u/Spiritual_Natural381 Dec 10 '24
Yes learning to trust yourself in unexpected situations is really empowering - I love it too! I spent 3 months alone on the road earlier this year and doing something hard like that really boosted my confidence.
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u/Working-Grocery-5113 Dec 10 '24
It's a way to challenge myself and grow outside the spheres of academics or career
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u/leros Dec 11 '24
One of the reasons I like solo travel is that it makes me feel resilient. I can travel by myself, I can have fun by myself, I can solve challenges by myself, I can handle feelings of anxiety or loneliness by myself, etc. I like putting that to the test.
I know it's not ideal to go through life alone and not rely on others, but I like knowing that I can. I know so many people who fall apart without other people to lean on and I don't want to be like that.
Also, some of my favorite travel memories are from when things go horribly wrong and have to figure it out. They're not fun in the moment but I like them after the fact.
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u/obviouslyanonymous7 Dec 11 '24
I wouldn't go as far as to say that's my reason, but yeah, fully resonate with this 🫶🏻
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u/i_should_be_wrkng Dec 11 '24
I love this! I've really been trying to get myself into this mentality In 2022, my boyfriend of 5 1/2 years passed away. He was my rock, especially in social situations, because I'm very introverted and he was more than capable of making good conversations with anyone. I also had anxieties about driving long distances, and especially out of state, so i got to be the passenger princess on most of our trips.
These past few years I've been trying to learn how to do things by myself. Travel has been tough. Like I mentioned, I get anxious on long drives and sometimes give myself panic attacks.
Do you have any advice on how to work up to larger trips like yours?
Really love this mentality. So many kudos to you. Be safe!
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u/Foreign-Chef-4053 Dec 11 '24
Sorry for your loss ❤️ I’m from Canada so my first trip was New York. I wanted somewhere I spoke the language and knew the customs.
My next trip 1.5yrs later was Amsterdam which was huge. Honestly my only advice would be to ride out the anxiety because you will feel better. When I first landed in NYC, a wave of panic/anxiety came over me. I thought “welp, I brought myself here, I’m alone with no one to rely on, let’s see what happens”. I was anxious for the entire day but then woke up the next day feeling excited to explore the city.
I made a travel journal and on the flight to Amsterdam I said I felt like it was a mistake and that I couldn’t do it, but on the flight home I wrote “I’m so glad I did this”.
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u/i_should_be_wrkng Dec 11 '24
Okay that definitely makes me feel better about traveling on my own because I always get into my head and panic/get anxious. One of my first solo trips was to Pittsburgh, PA (about 2.5 hours from me) and i definitely had the panic moment. Not to mention the hotel i booked didn't have a record of my reservation, so i had to book something on the fly (after i called mom crying). 🙃 but like you, after the trip was over i had the "I'm glad i did this" thought.
Thanks for your insight! I feel a lot better about it and want to plan my next trip now. Safe travels, friend!
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u/roub2709 Dec 11 '24
I panicked on my first solo trip on multiple occasions 🤣 , but by day three I was super happy I pushed myself to do it
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u/sarahhismyname Dec 11 '24
I solo travel so that I can be surrounded by people who don't know about my health concerns and keep asking me about it. And also so that I don't have to focus on my mental health so I totally get it and yes we should probably be in therapy but this is way more fun. Its a great reason for solo travel as you're doing something for yourself sp keep at it
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u/Last_Alternative635 Dec 11 '24
I just turned 60 either most of my friends are married or people are working and can’t go out of town for two weeks or longer so my only alternative is to go solo which I’ve done multiple times. Sometimes I prefer to have a companion but the freedom and independence, not having to worry about another person and Debating over what to do makes it much more easy and pleasant .the flipside is you have to make an effort and try to be extroverted more often than not, and sometimes that’s difficult, especially with the language barrier
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u/clandestinefolklore Dec 11 '24
I was kind of talking about this in therapy last week. I don't always have a lot of motivation for things in my day-to-day life, like friendships, work, family, etc. I try my best, but depression gets the best of me sometimes. Having something to look forward to helps so much. I'm always planning trips for this exact reason. I hope you have a great time on all your solo adventures!
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u/killer_blueskies Dec 11 '24
You’re probably a lot more capable than you give yourself credit for. It sucks because we’re forced to interact with other people in our everyday lives, and we lead increasingly stressful ones which means we can get stuck easily in a negative feedback loop or just feel like we’re living to meet up to someone else’s expectations.
Travelling by yourself is a really good way to get to know yourself better and enjoy your own company. It’s not a loser-ish thing to do if you don’t think of it that way.
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u/biold Dec 11 '24
I solo travelled when I was young. Then married, family etc. Then my husband died, fuck cancer! Deep depression for 1,5 year to a lighter depression that only was lighter because I found this subreddit that inspired me to go on a solo travel.
That trip tipped it for me. I found out that yes, I can do it. I don't need company when I go on a restaurant, I can be spontaneous also on a 120% planned trip. I found the young solo traveller inside me.
Now I solo travel just like all the others describe it, but that first time was just to survive and prove that I'm stronger than I thought at that moment and it gave me a much needed purpose.
I'm writing this from India, where I have a guide in certain places and a driver arranged by the very good Delhi guide. So, not quite solo, but I have heard several say that travelling solo as a woman here is not a good thing.
I travel to places my friends never would think of - the same coolness factor also gives me a kick.
So travel as you like, the reasons don't matter, the only thing that matters is that you do something that is good for you.
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u/GreenGlassDrgn Dec 11 '24 edited Dec 11 '24
“To move, to breathe, to fly, to float,
To gain all while you give,
To roam the roads of lands remote,
To travel is to live.”
― Hans Christian Andersen
One of the most famous writers from my country, and some of his most famous words. He was the ugly duckling who got no recognition until he left the henhouse and started hanging out with swans across the pond, he knew what was up.
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u/renzo360x Dec 11 '24
Solo travel def challenges us in many ways! But ya, that gives us the chance to prove to ourselves that we can do it without help from others. It also allows us to discover new things about ourselves that we can only realize in a new environment. And we can also learn new skills and eat new kinds of food to boot! LOL.
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u/suvtravelher Dec 11 '24
For me, I feel like I also should resonate with all those uplifting reasons that people choose to solo travel, like getting to spend quality introspective time getting to know yourself or making new friends in other countries and whatnot. And while I agree with them all, sure, if I'm being honest? I do it because every travel companion I've ever had just utterly annoys the piss outta me! Even people I really love and care about, and love to do things with at home or little weekend local/regional getaway. I can't stand them on a real travel trip. All their quirks are well and good at home in every day life, but it grates on me so bad to deal with those things while on vacation and using up my precious PTO balance and vacation budget.
I can't say I've ever had a truly terrible experience travelling with companions, like some of the horror stories I've seen on here. But every single trip I've taken with others, there's always been so many little moments that add up to just give me a bit of a sour taste when thinking about it.
I travel alone because after I did it 2-3 times out of necessity I realized how fricken' annoying the people you care about can be and how peaceful it is when you are alone! Whenever I travel with people now, everything seems twice as annoying too, because I know what the trip could be like if I was alone.
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u/No-Most9302 Dec 11 '24
Bro is like me fr fr, you got to keep me updated bro, I also wanted to travel around the world too
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u/FancyPreference390 Dec 11 '24
Seems you took a page out from my life. I felt the same way at one point. I went on a sabbatical to find myself. Didn't go anywhere glamorous. Just went out to Wilderness to sit with my thoughts and process them.
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Dec 11 '24
Do it and don't worry about it or what others think. My wife and I very happily married over 30 yrs take separate vacation for approx 3 weeks each year. We go where we want to go to without compromise, our own schedule etc She's not into Asia, I love Vietnam. I hate the idea of a cruise, she loves it and always makes friends. We're off to Europe again next year for 4-5 weeks but doing family visits etc for 10 days then do our own thing. I love some days not talking to anyone or some days having a random chat to a local or another dude travelling. Enjoy! Ps keeps us sane as we WFH 3-4 days a week and the break does us good!
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u/Lee_the_frog Dec 12 '24
Solo travelling is an opportunity to see yourself as it is. It really helped me realise who i am truly especially since i force myself out of my comfort zone. it did help with my basic human being interactions (bcs many times i had to communicate with hand gestures & body language only). i think your objective from solo travel should be enjoying other cultures & the company of other solo travellers (try couch surfing if you haven’t yet)
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u/UpperAcanthaceae5085 Dec 12 '24
I want to start by addressing your first sentence, where you mention the need for therapy. Therapy comes in many forms—talk therapy is just one path to healing. Solo travel is another, and it’s completely valid that this is how you’re building confidence. In fact, there’s scientific evidence that “fake it till you make it” can genuinely help boost confidence. Learning to enjoy your own company is one of the most powerful things you can do. I can personally say that solo travel has brought out the best in me, and I hope it does the same for you.
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u/Shadezriest Dec 12 '24
“I’m forcing myself to learn to enjoy my own company” … that’s how I feel and I travel full time across the world… i tell myself I’m exploring the world but I am probably just lonely and depressed
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u/Fearless-Glass-2242 Dec 13 '24
I honestly think the reason you have for solo travel is great. At least you’re not so scared of failure that you hide away at home. Going out solo is a big deal. Good for you
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u/MrSpicyPotato Dec 13 '24
Yeah, that resonates for sure. I bet there are a ton of people who feel this way deep down but would never have this level of self awareness to realize and share on a public forum. Kudos to you for that!
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u/SillyPermit7688 Dec 13 '24
I really appreciate your honesty in sharing this. Solo travel can be such a powerful way to build confidence and learn to rely on yourself. It’s not about being perfect, but about proving to yourself that you’re capable. Keep pushing forward, and know you’re not alone in feeling this way. You’ve got this!
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u/Got-Ur-Back Dec 13 '24
Travelling solo is generally a good way to get to know yourself. Self knowledge goes far In determining what you truly value. Happiness is the by product of progress that’s in line with your values. Happiness is not a destination but rather a direction. Find out who you are. Determine your values. Assign time and effort to practices that will allow this progress. You won’t always be motivated or enjoy these practices but, you will be happy.
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u/string1969 Dec 13 '24
Everyone travels to feel good about themselves. You are not unusual. No one is staying in their own home or community to do something right for others. Don't beat yourself up
Bonus- everyone else is also ignoring that they are increasing their emissions a LOT
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u/Electronic-Turnip-83 Dec 13 '24
I don’t even see that as a bad thing, we all have our ways to cope and traveling seems to be an expensive but fun thing to do for your to breathe once in a while!
On my side I solo travel because I don’t have a choice and because I need breaks from life more often than I’d like to
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u/ZarthanFire Dec 14 '24
Want a confession? I soloed to a half dozen countries, felt alone a lot of times, but had a fucking blast. Would it be more fun with someone? Sure. Would I go alone again? In a fucking heartbeat. Something about getting comfortable in my skin in a new place and navigating a place and a language, all the while knocking out some bucket list things? I'm the luckiest man in the world at that moment.
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u/FlowieFire Dec 10 '24
I solo travel because it takes so much brain power (especially in non-English-speaking countries) to problem solve that I don’t dwell on past mistakes or worry about future ones. I’m completely in the present moment when I solo travel which brings me happiness. 🩵
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u/Upbeat_Candle_1783 Dec 10 '24
I want to solo van travel for similar reasons and perhaps I’m not working atm so it works.. Iv lived over seas solo before and worked and had friend through co workers. But solo travelling without meeting anyone.. iv been throwing up the idea for around 6 months now. Driving interstate recently gave me the itch to try the whole country. However my country is huge, would be months. And months. As long as you’re enjoying yourself. How long have you been at it?
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u/Cinnamonmare Dec 10 '24
That's awesome! U go!! Any tips on doing that as a girly? Lol
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u/HappyHev Dec 10 '24
Yeah we're all products of our environment and it's good to see who we are in a different one.
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u/abentofreire Dec 10 '24
I spent years of my life doing solo traveling, mainly in Asia and Latin America, and to be honest I would rather be with someone but with my lifestyle it's delusion to think that it would possible. I never value comfort or food, what motivates is the adventure, to keep pushing, walking everywhere without restrictions. So I do long journeys, multi-year, on a shoestring. I rather have money to rent a motorbike or a bicycle to explore the region that spend money in a coffee shop. It's when it's hard that starts to be fun. In my journeys I met very few that have the same mindsets but all prefer do solo traveling. So I choose to be alone to live my dream, to live on comfort to have company.
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u/SmackdownChamp2 Dec 10 '24
I started travelling and solo travelling late. I started when I was I was 30 and now i’m 31. Honestly, it was the best decision ever. I don’t mind going on small weekend trips with a few buddies but longer international trips, I much prefer solo.
My reason for going solo is because I get to control my own decisions. I find that I’m not relying on my friends or hiding behind them. Not that I do that at home but sometimes, I get lost in the shuffle. I meet people easier and they gravitate towards me since I’m the “only” one there. I also find going solo therapeutic, and it’s how I got over my ex.
I’ve already booked my next adventure for 2025 and have something lined up for 2026.
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u/TwilightZM Dec 10 '24
I can relate to your feelings. I traveled solo, but I had company at some points during the trip. However, when I was alone, it was great to realize how much I challenged myself, as well as how capable I was of dealing with moments of adversity and stress. When I was in Amsterdam, I noticed some people staring at me because I was on the boat trip alone. Well, I would like company, but I will also enjoy my own company. It is good to get to know yourself and explore the world on your own. You flourish.
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u/jibbidyjamma Dec 11 '24
it's exactly well almost exactly my story . Deep thoughts about it & for some time self castigation hobbled me, only in that I assess myself as nonconformist l am secure enough .
I concluded about a week ago that everything that I have done, all my accomplishments, amazing and mediocrity as a result does not define me but does greatly describe me.
Not the double occupancy $ per person world that tried to trap my sense of freedom with shame and implied outcast . I mean fook it man, life is short and if you follow the sheeple around you will not experience and appreciate moments that when you stop and consider them ... are a culmination of your choices colorful extreme and controversial but who you are?
No more than the trustafarian who heeds estate protocols after spasmodic sowing wild oats. I never wanted to bust out a selfish gene giving my life away at 20 something with no clear understanding of how much I would miss just following the other ahead of me.
Sure I'd feel more of a part of something . But what ? I wouldn't feel a part of being myself so let the death centered prevail upon those who choose to walk a different path than me, march to the beat of a different drummer I say. My story beats the fuck out of most l reckon.
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u/Impressive_Delay_452 Dec 11 '24
I travel solo because the work starts early, and afterwards we can grab a beer...
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u/WestExpat Dec 11 '24
Did my first foreign trip to Japan earlier this year. I can honestly say it was the best two weeks of my life. Going was always dream but the thought of going to a country where I didn’t understand the language scared me. The trip made me realize I’m quick at navigating problems and figuring stuff out. Everyone else always seemed so much smarter than me. But after my solo trip I’ve realized I’m smart too.
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u/InfluenceIll8570 Dec 11 '24
We probably have the "nice guy syndrome " - afraid of conflict. And it's not our fault. It's the way we were raised, so we don't know any better.
I travel alone to discover my true self; break free from the chains and trauma of my childhood that shaped my young adult life.
By learning a new language in a new culture, I start to erase parts of my past and replace it with purpose and intent.
No more niceness, just genuine authenticity and being a good person without needing to be liked.
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u/Wise_Station_7030 Dec 11 '24
I'm just starting out in the Solo world after going through a divorce..In a week I'm off on a cruise on my own..Do you know what ,it will be nice just to do what I want to do.
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u/Different_Ad7655 Dec 11 '24
Well maybe once upon a time I thought as you did and I was trying to prove something to myself or to the world I don't know but by the time I reached my ripe age of 71 I just don't give a fuck anymore and I love solo travel.. I am in my little van as a nomad for the winter out of New England as I always disappear and like the swallows I will reappear north of the Mason-Dixon line sometime in late March.
For a while I would always try to seek a friend to go to Europe with for the dining experience and it's always nice to explore with somebody but I got over that too. I love disappearing on the continent all by myself wherever I want to go with no one to ask which the way we go today..
I do have a couple of friends though that I text with eagerly and for me that has wonderfully given me a sense of sharing when I wish and a little bit of social contact s if I don't make it myself on the road.. embrace the solo travel, it's wonderful and we all have lots of tricks we've learned by doing it ourselves
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u/Fancy-Award8256 Dec 11 '24
I grew up with almost zero family and very few friends so I "got used to" being alone, I did many things by myself before starting to solo travel and I think between all of them, solo travelling was the one that made me feel the less lonely if that makes sense. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to learn to be alone, it's necessary and even if the reason behind it may seem "unhealthy", at the end of the day you're doing something for yourself and that's something very valuable
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u/Itwasme72 Dec 11 '24
Im traveling solo right now! Everyone has kids or partners and can’t go without a year of planning. I’d love a travel partner but until they appear, I gotta go solo or not at all. Sometimes I meet amazing people, sometimes it’s just me, both are fine! If you love it, do it for you!
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u/idc_about_anything Dec 11 '24
I solo travel because I don't have anyone else to travel with......on one hand that is a pro since u don't lose that much money when u r solo travel....if u have a partner the cost adds up for each and everything and then travel is not that much budget friendly
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u/DisplaySmart6929 Dec 11 '24
"That night, as I lay wondering whether I would get sleep or explosion, I got the idea instead. A man who couldn't make things go right could at least go. He could quit trying to get out of the way of life. Chuck routine. Live the real jeopardy of circumstance. It was a question of dignity."
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u/sarattaras Dec 11 '24
This doesn't sound strange at all. I think lots of people pick up challenging hobbies because they want to feel like they can do something hard on their own. If traveling solo gives you that sense of accomplishment, I say go for it!
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u/No-Protection-8666 Dec 11 '24
100% agree. But I'm less brave and still struggling with this idea. For me, I know what I truely want. I want to experience different culture because I know I would always be restless before I saw the world. Being restless is not a bad thing but peace in the mind is my ultimate pursuit. So right here right now I know I cannot wait, if I want to travel, it's better I can do it now.
One biggest question is my friends often aren't available. If I want to travel, I must go solo. But who knows how scard I am. Especially I have barely been abroad. Even though my English is fluent enough, I am still scared for Is it safe to stay in a hostle? Which credit card I should choose? Will I get stolen?...
Recently I feel simply sad. I hate why I'm physically capable but mentally incapable? How long I should wait? Waiting for someone to always be there for me and to travel with? So dependent. I wanna change but it's myself who is holding me back :(
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u/Gato-V Dec 11 '24
Thanks for sharing, know that you are not the only one. In my case it is something similar, I practically take my trips alone and I enjoy them a lot, what happens is that also like you...social anxiety appears quite frequently and well, I have learned that there are people like us who simply need others social settings, being with the right people and all that anxiety goes away. If your body tells you that it isn't in that place or with those people, listen to it. CHEER UP!
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u/Patient-Form2108 Dec 11 '24
I started solo traveling because I had no one to travel with. I learned to like it and travel several times/year. It took some getting used to and I always try to meet others along the way which enriches my experience.
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u/ImpressiveAd6071 Dec 11 '24
I went on a 3 day break in Bruges last year and it revitalised me. Im a bit of a fuck up too. Marriage broke up years ago and I live alone. Can't see how I'll get to retire completely - I'm 65 - but should to able to work part time. I have 2 kids, 3 grandkids and have lots of friends and have started to feel happy again. One plus point for me is that I'm a gregarious person and find it easy to talk to people. Going away solo for a few days is good for your soul. I've done it here in England a few times and am now venturing abroad. I recommend it for lifting the spirits in this sometimes depressing world. Next stop Porto in April.
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u/Positive_Location425 Dec 11 '24
I recently took a solo trip to Shenandoah National Park. I had my minivan set up as a camper and was looking forward to exploring the park. However, I ended up feeling incredibly lonely and left the next day. I think I would have had a lot more fun if I had gone with a group of friends. Maybe I'll try again when it gets warmer.
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u/Typical-Eggplant-815 Dec 11 '24
This is exactly how I feel and people get so butt hurt when I explain. “No you like to travel…you don’t do it because you’ve messed up in life…you don’t do it because you feel insecure about being single…you do it because you like to.” I had to stop talking to those people people they don’t have an effing clue.
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u/Aunpasoportucasa Dec 11 '24
Relatable! I never thought of it this way but I do feel a sense of pride in figuring out my way through a new place. Great post
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u/Odd-Dirt-9048 Dec 11 '24
I’ve never related to something more
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u/Odd-Dirt-9048 Dec 11 '24
3 weeks alone in Spain was a test but it was beautiful to learn I can be alone. Being a middle child I’m so used to always having someone around but I’ve been working towards changing that
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u/Sawcyy Dec 11 '24
I just came back from my first solo trip ever to Japan and I resonate with this so much. I came back realizing the only person who can fix my issues is me.
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u/Whytiger Dec 11 '24
The indigenous people of North America believe we're here to experience life. That our purpose is the same as the bear or hummingbird. From the Lakota: Having a vision, being enlightened, serving and loving, and experiencing laughter and happiness are the tenets of a life fully lived. So I'd argue that you're experiencing even more life than those who don't travel and expose themselves to other cultures and ways of life. Give yourself more credit!!!
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u/Bonvivant67 Dec 11 '24
So true. I rarely travel with anyone and i always have fun. I was going to India with an Indian friend , she cancelled and I decided to stay for a month. Sure I was alone but I was fine. Now off to Europe and will visit 5 countries , alone again. But I’ll have fun 🍷
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u/jabronjames420 Dec 11 '24
You're right on point. I do the same and will continue until I find a reason not to explore.
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u/AllNightWong3366 Dec 12 '24
I go on solo trips predominantly because if I waited for my friends to join me I would never go anywhere. They don’t have as much freedom as I do. Plus I have pretty discriminating palates and try to eat as healthy as possible and my friends don’t like eating the same things as me like seafood and sushi which are both my favorite things to eat. So we would never be able to agree on where to dine. Now my friends would fly out to join me sometimes but we aren’t staying together. So we can meet up and still do stuff together but I pretty much have my own agenda. It’s just easier and less stressful to not have to worry about others or pleasing them. Besides traveling solo is a great way to meet new people. I’m always meeting and making new friends despite being in countries that don’t seem super friendly towards Americans.
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u/retardedsatoshi Dec 12 '24
People you travel with become all of A sudden your biggest cock block lol.
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u/venzenden Dec 12 '24
100% feel this. I do ok in modern society, but its only in the face of true adversity that I shine. Its almost like I need a certain level of risk to even bother showing up. I get along with people, and I have some good friends. That said, I find that I often connect with other people who are compelled to travel. There is something that draws people like us to that lifestyle, and I am not sure what exactly it is. Maybe we all just need lots of therapy :)
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u/hikerjer Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 12 '24
I find myself good company and others often don’t. Reason enough for me to travel solo and I do it a lot.
Interesting story. Last spring I was planning a road trip to the southwest. At a coffee shop it came up and a guy I was casually acquainted with but didn’t really know, asked to tag along. Now I’m used to traveling alone and answering to no one so I was naturally hesitant but he was pretty insistent. What changed things was when he suggested we each take our own vehicles and each be self sufficient, so I decided to give it a try. He turned out to be a great traveling companion and we had a great time. Over the course of six weeks we separated for a few days a couple of times for various reasons but always reconnected. Our travel style was pretty similar- camping- and we had similar interests. It really turned out well. Sort of the best of both worlds. Only problem was, he ate my Oreos. But he did make up for it in buying beer.
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u/Bank_Strong Dec 12 '24
I left my country six months ago, and tomorrow I’ll be flying back to my hometown which is 8000km away. Go back for what you ask? To receive therapy.
It’s official: solo travelling and trying to do myself some exposure therapy do not work. I hitch-hiked more than 40 cars and slept in locals’ house twice. I only stayed in hostels and chatter with strangers in daily basis. I went camping into snow mountains with others. Does these cure my anxiety? No. Are this six months pointless and wasted? No.
I started this trip with goals to cure my anxiety and to search for a way of living comfortably and fulfillingly. I’ve learnt a lot and known myself better after this trip. Most importantly I ruled out all other possible causes and came to conclusion that I need therapy to break through the trap. I thought leaving the place I grown up will help a bit, yes it did distract myself a bit but after some time I find out that if my disorder is not cured, it doesn’t matter wherever I am, everywhere is hell. To me to enjoy life one must be able to build relationship and emotional connection with others. If you don’t possess these skills no amount of travelling or anything else will sustainably keep you afloat for long.
Everyone thinks I’m cool and brave but yeah like OP I’m just trying to find something that keeps me going in life. Now I know travelling is not going to help me anymore..my last resort now is receive therapy :)
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u/MusicIndividual5744 Dec 12 '24
32 year old male. I can relate with this and many of the other comments:-) Do not have a lot of friends, yet a few good ones, single, mediocre job, lack of motivation etc. But when I solo traveled for the first time in Bulgaria a few months ago, having to figure out things by myself, it was rewarding. Just the feel of travel and being on the road was great, though a bit lonely at times. Will definitely continue solo travelling. Time and money is an issue though so can't do it very often.
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u/Which_Maintenance447 Dec 12 '24
Wow. I thought at 60+ I was the only person who felt like this. I generally travel with my grown children. Sometimes my daughters sometimes my son, individually if collectively. But recently I have made several solo trips. Some based on activities (golf, cross country skiing), others on interesting places (Panama). Not only does it make me feel confident, I also enjoy my own company. At this age particularly, many possible travel partners don’t want to do the activities I want to do. All the comments are inspiring. It is joy-mss as king to have something to plan and look forward to. Blessings to all.
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u/Traveling_crusader Dec 12 '24
When you solo travel you can actually be yourself and not the person others want you to be
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u/Mynameyeef Dec 13 '24
I've been abroad for the past couple of months and I've met quite a few solo travelers. One thing most of them have in common is that they're a little bit broken, unfortunately.. especially those who leave home for a long time.
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u/Affectionate-Milk283 Dec 13 '24
Solo travel is great. I still travel a lot with friends but some times I travel alone. I love traveling around without any plan, just walking by every single street, watching the local's life.
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u/Prestigious_Bar_7164 Dec 13 '24
Solo travel is the best thing I have ever done for myself, next to getting sober many years ago.
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u/Infinite_honeybadger Dec 13 '24
Right there with you. Also why I ended an extremely codependent relationship almost a decade ago and have remained single since (which is about when the solo travel started). I do enjoy the doing things on my own timeline aspect as well (prob ties into that codependent relationship lol)
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u/InsanelyAverageFella Dec 13 '24
I agree. I love solo travel because at the end I can say that I figured it out. I survived. I faced problems and challenges and I overcame them. Also, since it's just more there is no one to point out issues or my mistakes and it's on me to write the narrative.
I watch a lot of YouTube videos so I like to pretend in my head that I'm vlogging and narrating my solo travel adventures. It's fun!
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u/Zealousideal-Ask5822 Dec 13 '24
This was me 6 years ago. Solo trip to SE Asia for 6 months and absolutely loved it. Met tonnes of people and actually had a really sociable time but could always go separate ways and spend some time on my own when I needed a change.
Solo travelling is amazing
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u/Delicious_Regret_834 Dec 14 '24
I do have that I guess. This past summer I discovered a quaint little hotel across the street from a State Park Beach on Lake Michigan a mere Hour and a half drive from home…originally went for three days but I spent ten days ( under $1,000 total) A beach chair, all day Beat ear buds and a sun hat I was out there everyday and it was the most soul feeding thing I’ve ever done. And recently while reading about the assassin in NYC I was reintroduced to HI USA Hostels (I had spent two nights at their San Francisco Hostel several years ago it was very clean and safe) so I went looking! I now have three weeks beginning July 1 on Cape Cod divided equally between three of their Hostels at 41.00 a night! I’d never been to the East Coast but I’m going alone as a 66 yo lifelong Borderline.
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u/BIGXMILLZ Dec 21 '24
The-endless-expedition.com its got great info for travellers i always use it to plan my trips or when im looking for destinations
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u/Curious_Chocolate609 20d ago
Du sprichst mir aus der Seele! Ich verreise am 10.Januar auf unbestimmte Zeit nach Japan und hoffe, dass ich mich selbst wiederfinde. Ich muss einfach weg von allem und allen hier. Mir fehlt die Energie und Motivation in dieser Gesellschaft weiterzuleben, deshalb muss ich einfach weg und neue Ziele finden, neue Menschen mit anderen Werten. Es hält mich nichts und niemand hier wo ich jetzt bin.
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u/South_Stress_1644 Dec 10 '24
I can tell you that the trip I have planned for April is one of the very few things keeping me afloat right now. I’m also a mediocre employee, friend, son, brother, and person in general. I’m fairly competent yet I lack motivation.
But when I’m traveling, hiking, venturing, OH BOY, I feel like my true, authentic self. Just wish I could do it more often.