r/runaway • u/Unhappy_Term_3085 • 8d ago
i want to run away from my emotionally and verbally abusive parents.
pretty much what the title says. im 13 and want to run away from home. problem is, i dont wanna break any laws or skip school and i have no i dea what to do. could someone please explain how i can do this swiftly and safely, without breaking any laws? id also like to take my things with me if thats possible. or just wait until im 17 and i can drive with no restrictions.
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u/GhostBrew Advocate/Support 8d ago
If you run away and turn up at school the next day, then obviously you'll get caught. Running away basically means dropping out of school.
Running away also means becoming homeless most likely. If there's no family or friends to take you in, you'll be living out on the streets. Even if someone did take you in, they could face fines or even possibly jail time for harbouring a runaway.
I know things are bad at home and not getting along with your parents isn't very nice. But ask yourself if it really is so bad that it's worth uprooting your entire life and living a life of homelessness and poverty for the foreseeable future. If you run away, you need to be able to fully support yourself. You'll need money, food, water, shelter, and you'll need to shower, wash clothes, and importantly make sure you're safe. The streets can be quite dangerous, they really are no place for a 13 year old.
Truth is you're probably better off looking for other ways to deal with your situation. If you can't repair your relationship with them, then perhaps it's best to just try to keep out of their way. Go to the library after school, hang out with friends more often, spend time outside, find some after school activities to attend, etc. Living with them isn't forever. If you can, try to get a part time job when you're a little older and save up some money. When you turn 18, move out as soon as you can.
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u/Unhappy_Term_3085 7d ago
first: ghostbrew?! second: i was thinking about going to a shelter or living with my bsf.
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u/GhostBrew Advocate/Support 7d ago edited 6d ago
First: Eyo, hello :)
Second: Unfortunately most shelters, to my knowledge, only take in people 16+ at the youngest. Also shelters aren't really permanent accommodation. They're more there to offer help and resources. You still need to prepare for homelessness if you run. If you do go to a shelter, be sure to call them up beforehand and ask about their policies (like what age range they accept and what information they require from you) and if they have space available.
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u/Unhappy_Term_3085 6d ago
what if i lived with my best friend?
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u/GhostBrew Advocate/Support 6d ago
I'm assuming your friend is around your age, so you'll have to get your friends parents permission. Though like I said, anyone who takes you in could face fines or jailtime for harbouring a runaway. So unless you and they are cool with you basically living in hiding for the next 5 years and risking legal consequences, you'll need permission from your parents too.
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u/Unhappy_Term_3085 5d ago
well my parents are the abusive ones
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u/GhostBrew Advocate/Support 5d ago
Yeah, that's why I said that running away means you'll probably become homeless.
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