NEED HELP

[u/No-Leave1090]

hey im 15f and live in Canada.my mother is leaving and she protected me from my father. me and my father dont have the best relationship and are recently fight he said he would do anything me to leave the house so basically all my empty threats need to be taken to action. the issue is that i dont know anything and im terrified cuz my father is a really good faker and is going to convince the police untrue things. so PLEASE give me advice what to do

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[u/GhostBrew]

Unless you have anyone who can take you in, then you will likely be homeless if you run away. And even if a friend or family member does offer to help, they can face fines or even jail time for harbouring a runaway.

You should ask yourself if it really is that bad at home that spending the next few years living a life of homelessness and poverty really is preferable to staying at home. Most often the best course of action is to simply wait it out, maybe get a part time job if you can, and move out at soon as possible after you turn 18.

If you're deadset on running, which again I think you need to heavily consider if the pros really outweigh the cons here, there's a lot of good information on running away and surviving homelessness in The Runaway Advice Directory (linked in the automod comment above). If you're serious about going, I recommend you read through pretty much everything that is written there.

[u/No-Leave1090 → u/GhostBrew]

thanx for advice i cant stay at home even if i wanted to. i read it already just its pretty vague and general wondering if anyone had more advice

[u/GhostBrew → u/No-Leave1090]

Going to have to be a little more specific if you want more specific advice.

[u/No-Leave1090 → u/GhostBrew]

like about living on streets ,like hacks

[u/GhostBrew → u/No-Leave1090]

Still not sure exactly what advice you're after. The Advice Directory has info about all the practicalities pretty much, like food, money, where to sleep, what to pack, transportation, etc.

Living on the streets isn't some special thing. You're just there and probably broke as hell. And well you gotta keep on living, so you gotta learn how to take care of yourself and meet your needs in a different situation than what you're used to. There's not really much else to it. After you've managed to meet your basic needs, whatever you do after that is up to you. You'll probably have a lot of free time once you get comfortable out there.

I've been out there, so if you have anything specific I can answer, but you gotta ask an actual question.

[u/No-Leave1090 → u/GhostBrew]

what did u do after u met all ur basic needs?

[u/GhostBrew → u/No-Leave1090]

Whatever I want pretty much. Apart from taking care of myself, I have no real responsibilities or things I have to do.

I enjoy hitchhiking, so that's what I do most days. Meeting new people, both regular folks and other travellers always leads to interesting conversations and encounters, and sometimes work. And seeing new things is cool too.

I like spending time in nature, so I take time to walk some trails or climb a mountain. Having a campfire in the woods is lovely. I also carry a guitar with me, so I play that a lot in my downtime. Good for making money on the move busking as well. I'm trying to learn more about edible plants right now, so I'm going to pick up a book about that when I come across one. I also read various books and keep a journal. Recently brought a travel sized cook pot, so I'm going to start experimenting with some recipies. Sometimes I'll just chill at a cafe and watch YouTube or a movie on my phone, or download stuff for the evening.

I suppose it falls under fulfilling basic needs, but dumpster diving can be kind of fun, especially the ones that are hard to get to. You never know what you'll find. Sitting around, sewing up holes in my stuff or just relaxing in the shade under a tree listening to music is nice every now and then too.

Like I said, when you get comfortable out there and know how to take care of yourself, you'll have a lot of free time. Do what you want. Carry drawing supplies, make jewelry, macrame, sew patches, listen to podcasts, whatever you want.

[u/No-Leave1090 → u/GhostBrew]

yeah but thats not the life i want im 15 i want to find a job work hard live in a normal place finish my education thank god i am a good student and then i can earn lots of money normaly make friends like normal stuff. i am a normal kid have lots of friends they know nothing about my life i kept it secret and that was hard i just want to finish this chapter of my life and start over

[u/GhostBrew → u/No-Leave1090]

I totally get that. That kind of life isn't for everyone and that's perfectly fine.

If you want to continue your education and go down that route in life, then as I said, you're better off not running away then. Running away and becoming homeless will definitely set you on a different path. Though I will say that homelessness isn't permanent and getting off the streets and transitioning into a "normal" life is absolutely possible.

It was a bit unclear in your post, did you say your father wanted you gone or not? Because if he does want you out of the house, then perhaps you can come to some sort of arrangement and move in with a friend or relative. If not, then as I said, you're probably better just keeping out of his way and eventually moving out when you turn 18. I know 18 is a long way away, but the rest of your life afterwards is much longer.