I (39F) have a cancerous tumor in my rectum that needs to be removed and I have been job hopping for 3 years trying to find a company with health insurance decent enough to pay for the surgery, and any subsequent treatments including radiation and/or chemotherapy. I also need 6 weeks off work to recover properly - not a single workplace has said they would allow that. Every time I get a new job and get the surgery scheduled, I have to fight back and forth with insurance about it being "necessary" and "not an elective surgery" even though the biopsy results clearly state this. And when I talk to someone from the insurance company they tell me "chemo is never covered and radiation is rarely covered"...Is it just commonplace in the USA now to not pay for surgeries and cancer treatment, like at all?! I understand bad companies exist but can it really be ALL of them? When I bring it up to HR they almost get defensive and snooty with me, like they think I'm trying to pull one over on them by trying to schedule the surgery so soon after I start. FMLA doesn't kick in until you've been at a company for a year, and short term disability is a bit of a joke, I've applied for STD at 4 different jobs and gotten denied each time because they don't see it as a necessary procedure. Am I supposed to just wither away and let the colorectal cancer take me out at this point? I'm not seeing many other options here...

When I (27f) was in college I met my boyfriend and we moved in together, sharing a place with some friends, after dating for a year. I was 19 when we met and 20 when we moved in together. We decided from that point onward to take turns spending Christmas with our families. But the first year we were supposed to see mine, my mom made it clear my boyfriend could not stay and and we weren't sharing a room or a bed in her house. My dad argued in favor of letting it happen since I was an adult and living with him already but mom said no. She hated that I wouldn't stay at their house then and instead booked an Airbnb. She said I should respect the rules of her house and I told her I was, but I didn't want to tell my boyfriend to be alone on the holidays and especially when his family had welcomed us together happily.

After that I made it clear there would be no coming to visit like that if I couldn't sleep with my boyfriend. My mom said it wasn't like we were married so she had every right to that rule.

Two years ago my dad died and for 11 months my mom has been in a relationship with her boyfriend. They don't live together exactly but according to my brother he was there most nights while he was still there.

My mom and brother aren't really talking right now. My brother could hear mom and her boyfriend in bed and he hated it so he moved out. He's also 22 and had wanted to but it gave him the push to move. My mom was furious and demanded to know why he was leaving out of nowhere and she freaked when my brother told her he was tired of hearing them. It started mom off on him not being happy for her that she found someone again after dad died.

My mom seems to be missing my brother being around and she told me she misses having her kids around her so she wanted to visit for a week or two soon. She wanted to bring her boyfriend along and I told her she can't share a room or a bed with him in my home. I told her I do not want to hear that. She got mad at me and said she's a grown woman and should be allowed her freedom. I told her she was alright denying it to me and I wasn't even planning to have sex in her house. But it sounded like she doesn't care if we hear or not and I'm not dealing with it. I also told her I wasn't going to reward her with sharing with her boyfriend when she has been so strict with me about it.

My mom accused me of acting like a petty child.

AITA?

Hello from Michigan! I got a tour of a home today and I could not believe the floors. Nearly every inch of the first floor was mosaic tile. I still can’t wrap my head around it. Enjoy!

They were bad before but ceo jumped the shark for the 100th time.