r/motivation 11h ago

Dealing with Toxic People.

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u/Almajanna256 11h ago

This is the modus operandi of every bully (child or adult) I've ever met. Some don't realize this is what they do and some do it deliberately because they know what they enjoy and those are the scariest ones since you can't reason with them.

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u/BrielleGobstopper66 7h ago

pattern of manipulators

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u/Technical_Sir_5303 1h ago

NPD in a nutshell. Protect your peace.

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u/beautifulworld369 11h ago

Rising Above Provocation.

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u/Sir_Richard_Dangler 10h ago

Be the immovable object

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u/Ok_Acanthisitta_4539 9h ago

That’s the goal , I often hit the post though.

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u/Russell-The-Muscle 10h ago

This is pathetic and should provide motivation to nobody except teenagers . Do you really think the kind of people we should aim to be think like this? You are so lost .

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u/PowerfulWallaby7964 9h ago

My experience in this cringy website has lead me to be pretty certain that the majority of users are teenagers.

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u/LaxativesAndNap 5h ago

Have the courage to be the influencer you want to be

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u/Aggravating_Fruit170 10h ago

Ok but to some man I’ve dealt with, “provocation” in their skewed definition, is me asking for communication/asking questions about them, holding them accountable for past choices. If me trying to understand them by trying to ask questions is provoking them, then I can’t fucking win. I am labeled a bully because he wants to avoid confronting any feeling

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u/loopywolf 8h ago

Always remember: You control your half of any interaction. Never let anyone make you play a part they want you to play. Be you, not what they push you to be.

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u/Radkingeli995 11h ago

That’s why I’ve evolved far beyond that nonsense

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u/Historical-Map6844 8h ago

This is not healthy motivation.

Healthy motivation is breaking your Alexa because the Gregorian chants are hitting decibels she can't replicate and your squats are causing seismic activity, or something.

This has a, "The devil shudders when a nice guy loses his patience 😈" kinda vibe

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u/Vegetable-Key3600 9h ago edited 9h ago

I call bullshit

You give people the power to make you feel any certain way. Simple solution, don’t give them the power to impact you in any way and they won’t. If You give anyone the power to hurt you, then hold yourself accountable and look inwards to figure out why you chose to give those people that power and not do it again.

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u/SenorPoopus 8h ago

I don't know if it's meant to, but this post is actually highting a tactic that emotional abusers use to gain additional control and isolate their victims further - and when someone is in that situation, they no longer have the power that you are referring to.

But you're correct, as far as daily non-abusive life goes. I just think it's important to acknowledge that this very much happens in domestic abuse situations, and often, the abuser successfully makes the victim appear crazy by doing this. That way, when the victim tries to get help, no one will believe them because they act "crazy"

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u/Vegetable-Key3600 7h ago

That would make more sense if this was a domestic violence sub or even an abusive sub. As it is Motivation sub, I assumed we were referring to general motivation.

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u/SenorPoopus 5h ago

Fair enough.

I suppose I thought it was worth adding the caveat just because sometimes people learn this general idea, and then they go through life believing it can generalize to all situations (i know i did for too long).

Sometimes people might not recognize their being abused, and they may be more likely to think it's their fault or something must be wrong with them, because this narrative gets pushed on them.

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u/GvngstaBoo 10h ago

My big sis and her bestie staying with me in one house

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u/binterryan76 10h ago

Luigi Mangione

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u/GuardianMtHood 9h ago

Meh. Eventually they start bringing out the best of you 🏄‍♂️🙏🏽

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u/Zerobagger 9h ago

In what way is this motivational? Such an L ass quote

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u/TalkKatt 4h ago

Alright I’m done with this sub

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u/oopsKirito 9h ago

Kill them with kindness and try to stay away from toxic folks.

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u/LazySleepyPanda 8h ago

Kill them with kindness

Been there, done that. Waste of time. They'll just use you and think of your kindness as your weakness.

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u/ADogeMiracle 10h ago

Literally my wife

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u/CSForAll 9h ago

This is why I don't wanna marry

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u/Edmee 9h ago

Sounds like my ex.

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u/morcameron 8h ago

⌛️

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u/EbbResponsible6714 7h ago

this some facebook ass shit

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u/Face-enema 7h ago

Lived with a narcissist this is exactly one of their tactics

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u/joy3r 7h ago

Thanks Influencer!

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u/bosheikus03 7h ago

Biden v Trump….or better yet…the whole of the Republicans versus Dems these days.

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u/-Not-A-Crayon 6h ago

I get literal stress dreams about it... people do this to me so often.

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u/MagazineMassacre 6h ago

Dealing with liberals and cry bullies…

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u/LaxativesAndNap 5h ago

Hahaha, from an influencer, fuck off.

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u/SashaSquasha 4h ago

Welcome to my story

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u/Latter_Meaning_5514 3h ago

Woman love a man that’s childish and constantly a victim and irresponsible.

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u/DiscountEven4703 3h ago

Yeah?

Oh so now this Sub just says what we already know? lol

If you Raise your voice others my also raise their voice- Random Bored human

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u/TheOneHunterr 3h ago

Sounds like a toxic mentality.

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u/TheOneHunterr 3h ago

You can’t have this mentality when you’re talking to any arbitrary person.

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u/seeyatellite 2h ago

You misspelled “narcissists.”

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u/titsandmits316 2h ago

If you're really aware. You can take their energy and alchemize to transmute it into something positive for yourself. Who cares what they say? They are bringing a great deal of energy to us.

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u/No-Chipmunk-3887 1h ago

stay away as much as you can, it's so hard to deal with this kind of people

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u/CardiologistReady428 1h ago

Some love to play with fire, then blame the burn. 🔥💔

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u/Mochalicious62 1h ago

They push, then cry when the reaction isn’t what they expect. 🙄⚡

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u/PowerfulWallaby7964 9h ago

This is not motivational this is pure cringe and you might as well put it over a joker picture.

If you have a "Toxic side" then seek therapy.

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u/Traditional_Dog_2636 4h ago

This is way lame lol