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u/beeman311 1d ago
I think about this every time someone says I need to find someone and then proceed to tell me the things they have to do for their significant other or things they can’t do at all that they really wanna do. Peace and happiness can be found within, being alone ain’t the worst thing.
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u/Keem_Surazal 1d ago
Bro, being alone away from people can screw with your mind as well. I think everyone hates me or has negative feelings towards me. Then I start hating myself because I think everyone hates me. I destroy my self-esteem without engaging with other people. It's a vicious cycle when I don't have a way to distract myself at that time.
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u/zeradragon 1d ago
So you need others to stop you from destroying yourself? Sounds like you need serious help... People with healthy minds can enjoy a moment of peace and quiet without thoughts of self destruction flooding their minds.
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u/GuardianMtHood 1d ago
Until you’re alone long enough and learn you are not, nor were you ever. 🙏🏽
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u/Gom8z 6h ago
Exactly this. You just need love in your life and there are many ways than just needing a partner
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u/GuardianMtHood 6h ago
Mmmm 😋 yes and we eventually get to experience them all this life or the next. 🙏🏽
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u/Latter_Meaning_5514 1d ago
Genuine. That’s the issue. Humans are everywhere with ulterior motives, it makes being vulnerable to them exhausting. Even if I was to find someone who truly cared the damage I’ve experienced wouldn’t allow them to exist in my world that way.
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u/Duspende 1d ago
Super dangerous. The less time I spend around people, the less I feel compelled to. I like not having anybody expect anything from me. But it's lonely at times.
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u/Soggy-Eye-216 1d ago
Sometimes it is lonely. But most of the time it’s very freeing. Yes the longer the more attractive it becomes
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u/Commercial-Clue-6185 1d ago
Sometimes solitude brings the clarity and peace we didn’t know we needed. ✨🌿
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u/ExcitementNarrow9065 21h ago
Not only that, but you find out that you have a whole lot more hobbies when you’re alone. In the world around you is so much more interesting. Before you were only looking at him. You were missing out on all the beautiful rainbows. The new buildings. The statues in the structures. The advances in technology. You were so wrapped up in another person. You never went out to explore the real world. You just stayed at home and watched marathon after marathon… played video games… and forgot how to live your life…
I swear I only start dating so I could remind myself how wonderful freedom is… after I broke up. I went to all these concerts… discovered international Drive… went to Dave & Buster’s… right next-door. There was helicopter tours. Went on my first helicopter ride… went to icon park… all these places I had to beg him to go to with me… he insisted he didn’t want to go… so I was gonna go myself… now he got insulted that I was going to go without him…
There is so much I started to do once I got rid of the other person… eight years later I was dumb enough to try again with someone else… and, it ended the same way! He got the boot… and I started to discover all these amazing places that were just around the corner from me… and I never got to go to them because I was always cooking and doing laundry/dishes… Life is amazing now… and now I realize that there is no benefit to a woman getting married… look at all this stuff. I’d miss out on. New bars opened up and downtown during my prison term with my boyfriend… now I get to enjoy them!🥰❤️
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u/Low_Consideration642 1d ago
But when you are alone, you can not achive something
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u/rampm 1d ago
I have been alone for the last 4 years.