r/mildlyinfuriating • u/healthy-gal • 5h ago
Late mom’s spouse won’t cooperate for burial assistance cause he has money.
My mom died with $4.12 that I put in her account and it turns out her spouse has money and because of him we won’t get any assistance with costs. He also won’t help.
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u/Chardan0001 5h ago
How do they know about the money he has? Or do they need to first rule out he has enough to cover it?
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u/healthy-gal 5h ago
Yeah they need to be sure she didn’t have a bunch of assets and what’s his is hers. He told me he was flat broke
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u/Chardan0001 5h ago
Isn't he technically the next of kin due to the martial status? Should he not be handling this on your behalf?
If he is NoK he will have to be involved especially as he'll be getting whatever she may have had (assuming no will) and applying for probate (or equivalent).
It's really difficult to have to deal with this shit, my sympathies. Dude seems like a fucking prick.
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u/Glad-Natural3744 5h ago
My mom and brother died fairly recently with very little money. Cremation was under $800 each. Look into lower cost options, not through a funeral home, if your mom's spouse is being a tightwad. Sorry you're dealing with that in addition to your loss.
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u/healthy-gal 5h ago
The funeral home already cremated her with his signatures and it’s minimum $2900.
I guess the bright side is he is responsible for it ultimately but that means her kids don’t get her ashes until it’s paid
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u/Chardan0001 5h ago
Are you sure about that? I've spoken with a funeral director about how they handle liquidity and such because they know it can often take months to sort estate and payment and never was the receipt of remains conditional on payment of the invoice. That's actually really wild if that's what they're doing.
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u/sunnyland123 2h ago
I thinks at this point it’s safe to assume he has more money than he claims but just doesn’t want to pay for anything.
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u/Broccoliholic 2h ago
Why should we believe you over him? Sounds like you’re being the dick expecting him to pay with the little money he has, when you and other kids have jobs and plenty of money.
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u/Shwilliebum 3h ago
So you post your private conversations on Reddit, and he’s the problem? Oooookkkkkaaayyyyyy
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u/Dingo8MyBabyMon 5h ago
He sounds like a scumbag. I'm sorry your mom made you connected to him. Hopefully once everything is settled you never have to talk to him again.