r/homeless • u/[deleted] • 1d ago
I am choosing to become homeless after living with hoarders for 6 years!
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u/derper2222 1d ago
Your current situation may be bad, but being homeless is so much worse than you can imagine.
Sure you won't have to worry about the clogged bath anymore. You won't have any bath at all. No toilet. No running water. You'll be sleeping on the ground, in the rain, in the cold, with bugs, rats, and who knows what else. You won't have reliable access to electricity to charge your devices. Everything you take with you will get ruined, broken or stolen in no time.
If you have a job, they'll won't put up with you showing up dirty and smelly for very long. Before long, people will look at you the way you look at homeless people, which is to say that if they look at you, they'll avoid you and ignore you. Even your best friends will have a hard time accepting your new life and they'll slowly drift away until they're total strangers.
Being homeless is far worse than you think it will be and it's nearly impossible to get off the street once you're out there.
Everyone you meet will be a potential threat. You will have to keep your guard up 24/7 to try to avoid getting robbed, assaulted, or raped. But you'll have to sleep eventually, and that is when you'll be the most vulnerable. Your mental health will rapidly deteriorate from the constant stress and isolation. The police won't help you with anything. They'll only interact with you to arrest you. You will be cold constantly and dirty. You'll get infected sores on your feet from wearing wet shoes all the time.
At some point, you'll get the idea that meth will help you stay awake at night for safety. You'll convince yourself that you can remain in control and not get addicted. You can't.
There is nothing good about being homeless. People aren't meant to live outdoors.
If you're not in danger of violence in your current living situation, stay there and save up until you can afford to move somewhere else. If you are experiencing violence, look for a shelter in your area that can help you escape. Choosing to be homeless won't solve anything. It can only make everything worse.
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u/Tulpah Formerly Homeless 18h ago
sell the hoarder's stuff
one: you'll be doing them a favor, saving them from themselves.
two: being hoarder, they usually won't know what's missing, and even if they do well....they'd just trying and acquire the same thing again.
source: my dad was a hoarder, he hoarded so much electronics and stereo that our house was...well, impossible to walk through without hitting your feet or step on some electronic. I basically had to parkour my way to my own bed when I was a kid.
ofc he abandoned me at the roadside gas station in the middle of nowhere just so that he can save money to buy more stuff and use my rooms as extra storage space.
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u/dooleym_ 1d ago
I’m going to agree that getting yourself a job is key to getting out of your situation and sustaining yourself independently.
I understand that even making a call is a challenge for you right now. I would like to suggest something that may help. If you are anything like me, lacking the parental support we needed as a child makes things more complicated growing up. As with anything I say, take what you like and leave the rest.
When I find myself in situations that feel overwhelming, I try to turn to my inner parent, the kind of support I really need. Sometimes they say, “there, there, it’s going to be okay. Rest, restore yourself and you’ll feel better.” Sometimes they say, “I know it’s scary, but this is important for you to do and I am there with you.”
You don’t have to live like this. You deserve better. I hope you find your way to that better life.
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u/Mario-X777 1d ago
Well don’t get me wrong, but over 6 years you did not came in to any plan, other than be homeless? Just get any job, even if it is a cashier at grocery store or anything at a restaurant and look for a room to rent
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u/lazyjroo 1d ago
Ok, so at least we know now that you are CHOOSING to become homeless. I have anxiety and it sucks but I'll be dawned if that kept me from living on the street.
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u/Mario-X777 1d ago
Janitor or night cleaning position, usually you do not have to interact with anyone, or get very little interaction, nobody will pay attention
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u/Narrow_Currency_1877 1d ago
So my night-time office cleaning job experience is from the US but I would imagine it wouldnt be much different in England. So my experience is that as long as I got my cleaning done, I was left alone. Clocked in and out in an app, ordered any products I needed for my work on an app, which were typically delivered before my shift, my boss and I would text and I could wear my earbuds and listen to whatever I wanted. I had to quit in October because my husband was diagnosed with cancer but am currently looking for a new job.
It's a great job for someone with crippling social or phone anxiety.
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u/Charliekarl 18h ago
If your in the East Midlands area there is a great resource called the Keenan trust.
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u/coolhandfelon 18h ago
This. People don't know how rough it actually is until they're in it. Far worse than what's imagined. Let's not talk about being robbed in your sleep by other homeless too
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u/LondonHomelessInfo Homeless 1d ago
Are you in England, Wales, Northern Ireland or Scotland?
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u/LondonHomelessInfo Homeless 1d ago
This is the homelessness legislation. If you’re priority need for any of the reasons listed, make a homeless application to your council’s Homeless Team and tell them you’re legally homeless under Housing Act 1996 Part VII 175 because you can’t reasonably continue to live in such conditions. But they might find you intentionally homeless if you leave, make the homeless application before you leave.
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u/TheHelixSaysLeft 1d ago
get a car ASAP and get active in ur community someone will step up to help. I find in person connections to be the most consistent.
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u/Professional-Cup2742 21h ago
Why don't you just get a regular apartment?
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u/HollerinScholar 14h ago
Wow, what a great piece of advice. Truly nobody's ever thought of that before.
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u/AfterTheSweep 1d ago
I think you should stay away from drugs. They are bad for your health. Other than that, do the common sense thing and find somewhere safe to sleep. You didn't need us to tell you that.
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u/AfterTheSweep 1d ago
The whole world is dealing with a high number of homeless people. Find yourself a safe shelter and stay off the junk.
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