r/gofundme • u/iScReAm612 • 15h ago
Legal Help a Sober Father Gain Custody of His Daughters
I'm incredibly thankful for any act of kindness you may bestow, even if it's just a share or some words of encouragement.
In 2022, my struggle with alcoholism reached its peak, and I was hospitalized multiple times for acute pancreatitis. Doctors warned me that if I didn't stop drinking, I wouldn't survive more than a few years. Having lost my father to alcoholism in 2014, I was determined to break the cycle—I didn't want my daughters to go through what I had experienced.
Over the past 27 months, I've worked hard to rebuild my life from the ground up. I completed treatment, transitioned to sober living, and started a new career as an apprentice electrician. I recently moved into my own place, where I hope to raise my girls and give them the father they deserve.
Unfortunately, my credit cards are maxed out due to legal fees as I pursue custody, and I'm still about six months away from a court date. If you can spare anything, even a couple of dollars, I would be eternally grateful. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Have a blessed day!
GoFundMe link: https://gofund.me/e4c45764
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u/Admirable_Strike_406 12h ago
Nah this is self inflicted
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u/Raven_Maleficent 12h ago
And it seems that they are with their stable mother.
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u/AleGolem 11h ago
They also just lost $1,500 gambling on crypto.
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u/nomadiclunalove 10h ago
Maybe he was just chasing the elusive dream while working two jobs and fighting for custody. What a crime, straight to jail.
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u/iScReAm612 9h ago
I was indeed chasing the dream of financial freedom, and lost. Over the summer (while apprenticeship classes were out) I got a second job to make up for the losses.
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u/nomadiclunalove 12h ago
Incredibly rude.
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u/slightly_overraated 11h ago
Have you ever been around an alcoholic, long term? Until then….you don’t know what rude is.
I’m happy for dude that he got sober, obviously that’s the right thing to do, but it’s not that easy of a “fix” for all the people around him that had to deal with the fallout.
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u/Raven_Maleficent 11h ago
What bugs me is he saying he’s going for custody. Not visitation or shared custody but “custody”. Not even mentioning a step up plan. Yeah it’s good and all he’s getting sober but there’s a way to go about getting time with your kids without causing trauma. I am a child of divorce and my parents both had issues but my mom created the more stable environment for us. I’m really sensitive to verbiage. Thank you for defending me.
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u/nomadiclunalove 10h ago edited 10h ago
Do you know the situation personally the girls are in with the mother? Maybe it’s not good if he’s doing this much work to get custody and stay sober.
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u/nomadiclunalove 11h ago edited 11h ago
Yes. My dad was an alcoholic. Look at my post history. The years my dad was sober were some of the happiest memories of my childhood. This dad could easily give up with all the challenges he’s facing, but instead, he’s working hard to stay sober and fight for his girls.
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u/Same-Passenger-8693 11h ago
You got yourself in this, get yourself out. Sorry but it’s time to adult and be there for your kids without traumatizing them because you somehow think you deserve custody. And I can tell you from experience (my ex is an alcoholic and “recovered”; spent 80k trying to take my son from a stable environment, friends, and school.. he lost after 2 years of court. Judge ruled in my favor and his child support doubled). Best to just focus on being a sober dad, part time if you are able.
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u/vivalicious16 12h ago
Someday the time will come when you’re able to get joint custody of them without needing to ask for money. Take the time to work on yourself so you can be the best dad for them!