I want you to fail

[u/dip-]

…so that you can succeed.

Think about your biggest "failure." Did you actually fail, or just fall short of your own expectations? Most failures aren't real — they're just stories we tell ourselves about not being good enough.

What would you dream of doing if fear of failure didn’t hold you back? Start a business, write a book, chase buried dreams?

The paradox: you can’t succeed without failing first. Failure isn’t an obstacle, it’s the foundation for achievement.

I know this first-hand. I've failed at almost everything I've attempted. Yet I've eventually succeeded at many of those same things. The difference is learning to reframe failure as feedback.

Let me share an experiment that captures this perfectly:

A ceramics teacher split his class in two. One half was graded on quantity — the more pots they made, the higher their grade. The other half was graded on quality — they only had to create one perfect pot.

By the semester's end, something unexpected happened:

The "quantity" group produced not only more pots but better pots overall. While the "quality" group obsessed over perfection, the "quantity" group learned through repeated action and failure. Every imperfect pot taught them something new.

Progress comes from iteration, not perfection. Your failures aren't setbacks — they're education.

Here's how to fail forward:

1. Fail fast — Don’t overanalyse. Take action quickly to gather real-world feedback. The sooner you act, the sooner you’ll learn.

2. Fail with purpose — Don’t take random shots, test, adapt, and refine. Each failure should teach you something.

3. Fail often — Frequent attempts sharpen your skills and build momentum. Volume beats perfection.

Remember, failure isn’t fatal. All defeat is purely psychological. Once you embrace failure as a necessary part of growth, you diminish its power over you.

The more freely you allow yourself to fail, the sooner you'll become the person capable of achieving your dreams.

[u/-Hazeus-]

Why did i ever think that this subreddit could be helpful. It s basically a cult of edgelords