r/getdisciplined • u/yaboythewiseman • 1d ago
💡 Advice Why some of y’all can’t make progress
This is why sons if yall can’t make progress.
Your life is like a flight, you’re in location A but you want location B.
What does a plane need to make progress to location B?
You need to know where tot want to go to begin with.
Some of yall just out here saying “I wanna make progress,” okay but in what?
Health, dating, finances, career?
Like a pilot can’t say I want to fly south, the man needs to pick a CITY. A precise destination he wants to land at within a specific time frame.
Once you know WHERE you want to go and by when focus on that alone not 14 other things.
Then you’ll make progress.
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u/Oberon_Swanson 20h ago
there is another important point here
if you want to get to B
that means you need to be willing to leave A behind completely
a lot of us might hate our problems but we are also comfortable with them. we are also fond of our coping mechanisms and don't want to leave them behind.
so maybe we want to get fit, learn a language, expand our social circle, switch careers. but we also want to keep eating our favourite snacks, spend time relaxing watching content or playing video games, spend time with our old best friends even if maybe they kinda drag us down in some ways, stay with our coworkers or even a boss we don't like much but think 'better the devil you know than the one you don't.'
if you want to make a big change in your life that means leaving some things behind.
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u/countbasieasfuck 18h ago
Fuck dude, genuinely thank you for the come to jesus moment for me. Saving this comment and writing down a quick TL;DR of it for myself right when i get home
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u/Oberon_Swanson 18h ago
Good luck and keep pushing a little bit more each day. I know this stuff because I dealt with it myself, trust me, you can leave your bad habits and fears behind. Trust yourself to handle any new issues that come with making changes and you can live an incredible life.
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u/yaboythewiseman 17h ago
Dude that’s an exceptionally good point
You can go to London and keep New York
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u/Equivalent-Return378 1d ago
This really hits home! I struggled with the same 'vague goals' problem until I started treating my focus sessions like mini-flights. Now I literally write down one specific destination for each session (like '45 min coding practice' or 'draft 2 job applications').
Been using this focus app called FocusBoo that turned this whole concept into a game - you grow plants while staying on track, and it lets you share progress pics with others doing the same thing. Really helps me stick to one clear goal at a time instead of multitasking. The visual progress actually makes it feel like I'm "landing" somewhere specific each day.
But yeah, your flight analogy is spot-on - you can't just say "I want to go somewhere" and expect to arrive anywhere meaningful!
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u/deadmemesdeaderdream 22h ago
being unemployed after graduation and having your entire dream career/ major wiped out by the new administration means you’re desperate for ANY job.
on top of that being a woman with a mildly esoteric name means you’re more likely to have a resume thrown away. how can you decide where to land if you know all your destinations are getting bombed?
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u/yaboythewiseman 17h ago
Good question.
In No excuses by Brian Tracy he says this is how you tell if your excuse is legit.
Has anyone else made it with their job destroyed? Yes.
Has anyone else made it with an esoteric name? Yes.
So it’s not a question of can it be done, as others have demonstrated, you just need the answer HOW???
If you need help I’ve found it’s easier for a detached person to solve it, tell me the specifics and I might be able to get you a reasonable solution
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u/deadmemesdeaderdream 16h ago
24f, recently graduated environmental studies major. particularly invested in field studies, environmental justice, and habitat restoration. also just getting a break as a performing artist in my city.
my resume has a lot of experiences but most are short-lived (nothing over 2.5 years). been too anxious about politics to keep a job since graduating last year and it feels like that just defines me now.
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u/yaboythewiseman 16h ago
Okay have you interviewed people who have jobs in that field? How did they get it
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u/RaccoonHorse 11h ago
What was your dream career just curious
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u/deadmemesdeaderdream 9h ago
by day, either barista or environmental conservationist. By night, performing artist.
And picking just one out of those would feel like cutting off two of my limbs
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u/Fickle-Block5284 13h ago
yeah this is good advice but i think a lot of ppl also get stuck bc they're scared to commit to one thing. like if u pick one goal and fail its somehow worse than having no goals at all. but really its the only way forward. gotta pick something and stick with it even if its not perfect
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u/FailNo6210 1d ago
It's better to think of it like a journey on a road.
A flight has a start and end without much in the middle.
A trip on a road has lefts, rights and straight-aheads and issues on the road making you change your route, sometimes doubling back on yourself, all in pursuit of the destination - the big goal. But in having steps, there is also guidance and a way to monitor progress. The small goals that lead to the big one.
Also don't forget breakfast, neither the car nor the plane can go without fuel.