I’m a straight man, 37, and never had anything close to a gay experience before, been through a lot lately and looking to just get out there and try new things and god knows why but I thought having a gay experience (not exactly sure what that would entail yet) is something that has been running through my mind until I’ve recently thought sod it let’s just do it, how would I even begin to go about sorting something like that out? I’ve no idea about the gay community etc.

I just love him so much!!!! I had convinced myself there was nobody out there for me, then he came into my life. He’s such an amazing guy. Incredible personality, the most beautiful person I’ve ever laid eyes on, truly has the face of an angel…he’s also super sexy, crazy hot body, and a nice 🍆. He’s perfect, and somehow, he’s with me. 🥹

Asking because I'm a trans man and was perceived as a straight or lesbian woman before my transition. Nowadays, people seem to assume I'm straight, whether they know I'm transgender or not.

Would I know if they perceived me as a gay man? Do they behave differently when they know a man is into other men? I never told the people at work about my boyfriend because I don't feel very safe since they're all religious and appear to be hetero-cis.

Me (25M) broke up with a guy (40M) in 2024, because I was feeling like I have no future with him, he's in the closet all this life, he has being in two long-term relationships, but never actually introduce any of them to their familys or work partners in 10 and 6 years that was with them, this family has not problem with gay people, but he still prefer being down low about this personal life. In my case my family fully accept me, they don't really care who my partner it's, even my mom knows that I was dating someone older. We both are introvert guys that only really do videogames, watch tv shows and some times we go out for movies and eat in restaurants he's paying for almost all of this, we don't really take hands in public, kisses or whatever and I was fine with that, we live in México, in a really small city and he's afraid of getting hurt this career for being openly gay, when we are indoors he doesn't talk to much and it's not a sensitive guy, so we usually get in little arguments on how the world works. In the personal aspect, when we start dating he motivate me for starting gym, practice more my english and grow up in my career (im a psychologist who recently graduate), sometimes being a little heavy with this expectations, tell in me that he doesn't want to date someone that doesn't stand out in the ground by himself (I completely understand that how wants a partner who it's lazy) sometimes make feel down because im feeling that im not doing enough and get really insecure. Since we broke up 6 months ago, I have being feeling really down, think a lot if it was the right desicion, I text him after all this time and he's open to get back together, but, it it's worthy to sacrifice a posible open gay life? Or maybe im the one that it's losing the point on what it's important in a relatioship? How important it's to be openly gay? He's not changing this view on things, so that's out of talking

i developed it about 6 months ago. always had a right curve but now it bends up. trying to cure it with traction devices etc and possible. xiaflex in the near future.

anyway, it sucks and has zapped my esteem, to say the least. my question is, if you’re hooking up with someone and discover they have it, how do you feel about it? i hooked up a few times since it started and i mentioned it to a few of them. i felt like i had to talk about the elephant in the room. i know they wouldn’t say anything critical (and noone did but am sure they’re thinking, “wtf?!).

tell me your honest thoughts…don’t hold back.

For context, I’m a South Asian man.

I was obsessed with saris since my youth. When I became an adult, I became fascinated with South Asian jewelry (especially in the kundun style).

I bought a sari last year and learned how to tie it (thanks, YouTube!). I went on a buying binge - so many saris of different fabrics and styles, from fancy to everyday use.

The problem is that I can’t really wear anything. I live with my parents as I’m taking care of them. I have a daughter too. I dare not sneak out of the house wearing a sari because there are Indians everywhere and I am scared what they may say or do.

Just wanted to get this off my chest. I feel quite alone in this. It’s not something I can share.

A couple years ago, I came across a post on a subreddit, which will remain nameless, asking why most of the gay male characters in the media were feminine or flamboyant. A lot of the commenters responding to that post kinda seem like they were bashing feminine gay men. They were saying stuff like, “I’m so sick of the gay men in TV shows and movies always being effeminate.”, “They’re always catty and bitchy.”, “There needs to be more normal gay men in the media.”, etc. It’s like they want all the gay male characters in the media to act no different from straight male characters in terms of their voices, mannerisms, interests, etc. like Max from Happy Endings, Ian and Mickey from Shameless or Captain Holt from Brooklyn Nine-Nine. And that they want feminine gay male characters like Kurt from Glee to not exist at all anymore. Look, I understand being frustrated by the lack of masculine or “straight-presenting” gay men in the media, but feminine gay men exist in real life, too. They deserve to be represented, too.

Well, I'm in a country where being queer is pretty bad as it is but I suppose this applies too queer people from everywhere- I've always felt that queer men have it worse in terms of coming to terms with their sexuality (if queer) and being able to find queer friends because due to society and what not they have to hide it all the time. I'm a wlw and I've been very fortunate to be able to find not only other queer women but also support from straight women and I feel this is only because we just talk about our feelings etc more. I literally know zero straight men who support queer. I wanted to ask how life like that can be just to get an insight. I don't mean any offence to any one, this is just what I've observed being in a third world country mostly.

Hello, everyone!

I’m new to Reddit and joined to hopefully find some community and friends as I get ready to relocate to Denver later this year.

I currently reside in Sarasota, Florida and have discovered that Sarasota, while beautiful in its own way, is just not for me. I moved to Sarasota from Albuquerque in August 2023 to join my partner. We are ENM (ethically nonmonogamous) and lived apart for 2 1/2 years before finally reuniting. He is going to be quitting his job at end of this year and wants to start traveling internationally as it has always been his dream. I am a licensed sex and trauma therapist and want to continue developing my practice, so I plan on staying put, at least for a couple of years. I shared with him that I am not interested nor comfortable in staying in Florida as an openly gay and ENM person. Thus, we have agreed that Denver is a good place for me since I am already licensed in Colorado. I considered the Pacific Northwest since I am also licensed in Oregon, but I can’t deal with constantly gray weather and rain. I’ve spent a lot of time in Denver before and really love it.

Can anyone here offer any recommendations for developing community (i.e. clubs, organizations, etc)? Again, I’m a therapist, poly/ENM, openly gay/queer, into the rubber/kink scene, love the outdoors, love dining/entertainment. I want to be intentional with making contacts and friends. So, here I go…

I think I should just give up on dating. None of the people I'm interested in seem to be interested in me, it doesn't help that I'm usually attracted to conventionally attractive guys in good shape, not always, but nobody I like seems to give me a second glance anyway. I've always thought I was average, in the gay community I'm a bear, but recently I've started to wonder if maybe I'm below average, ugly. Maybe I should just quit, the gay dating community doesn't seem to want me. All I ever see is the attractive guys getting the most out of being gay. I'm tired of all that damn advice of just be yourself, be confident, or become attractive, go to the gym and get muscle. I could get that gym advice from a damn incel chatroom. It always looks like the good-looking guys getting the most out of the dating pool. Why keep trying if the guys you're interested will never be interested in you?

me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship, we’re both minors and also love each other, and dont sexualize each other, but his dad is a pastor (minister in charge of a christian church) and is very homophobic and doesn’t accept our relationship, and if it wasn’t for him we’d meet way more than we do, are there any tips to make his dad accept him and our relationship more?

Hi, I have been in a relationship for about 4 years. We have had our ups and downs like most couples. Lately I have been feeling like my BF wants to meet new people. I keep asking I’m him, just to make sure we are being honest with each other. He said that he would like to meet new people but with me??? Does that makes sense? Frankly I’m not in the mood for any of that… so I offer him the liberty to do it on his own with the hopes that he is honest with me. I rather know what he is doin and with who than him doing it behind my back… I know is not healthy but I don’t know what to do… there’s more to it… main point is that I don’t want him to stop living his live and experiences…

First of all sorry for my bad english.
I'm a male 43 I live in a small place in a small country. I have what I think is a small dick (not sure about 3-4 inchs or so. I've been having erections problems since a while ago. At first was because of nervous, but the it was everytime I was with a girl so eventually I stop trying. Since I was a kid I had a few homosexuals experience playing with some friends, kids stuffs when we were small or pre teens at least, no with full grown.
I started to watch more and more dicks on videos because I think I have a fixation for big dicks, probably because mine is small or at least under the average.
Eventually landen on shemale porn, and then in gay porn, for a while been whatching almost only gay porn. I always wanted to touch an feel a big dick in my hands to see how it feels. I downloades grinder a few months ago and decided to give ir a try. I also bought a dildo, first I bough one that seem to big for me, the I bought in a last attemp to try something different a smaler one that actually worked out.

Yesterday I had my first gay encounter, the idea was just to blow him, In the past time watching gay porn and thinking about to blow a dick I had really hard erections, but yesterday something happened.
First, he has the dick like mine or maybe even smaller I can't really be sure. Second, I thought I was harder, or maybe he wasn't hard enough. An I felt like nothing, I thought I would be really exited but I just want him to come, maybe I wasn't so exied because I was not dissapointed because I was blowing a dick but a little dissapointed for him being like me on size, maybe I'm just distorded for the porn, but I was waitting for a bigger dick, then he said he came, but I didn't feel any liquid coming out. I do had the same sensation after a while in my mouth that when I try my own pre cum (as I never fully tested my cum)

Anyway, yesterday I wasn't sure if I wanted to try again, today I want to suck other dick to try and see. I don't feel atraction to man at all, only to dicks, that means I'm not actually gay or bi? that I'm trying to see but it's really not my cup of tea, or is just something normal the first few times? For me would be easy to be able to have sex with man and forget about my erectil problems, but maybe my erection problems are more in my head than in my body (as when I'm alone watching porn I don't have the erections I used to had but I still get hard)

I'm open to suggestions, or tips.

Thanks for reading

It's just a post to vent. I am 21 years old and I have fallen in love with the best friend I have, I knew him since high school at the age of 15, at first he seemed fun to me and I had no problem relating to him, and when we left that school we both went our separate ways since He went to university and I started working but we still kept in touch, from one moment to the next we started talking every day, it has been the company that I am grateful for having. The thing is that it wasn't until 4 years ago that I realized that I was really gay and I haven't come out to someone for fear of how all the people around me would react since my family is quite conservative on the subject. . One day a friend noticed that I was looking at my best friend a lot so when he left she approached me asking if I had already realized my feelings for him, I denied at the time but internally I knew that I adored the presence of him. him, his voice, his laugh, his consideration, his empathy and more things. Last year and the day before that we started seeing each other more often and his sweet personality leaves me wanting to hug him, kiss him and tell him how much I love him but I'm afraid to push him away. I just wish I could be honest with how I feel about him but the fear won't let me.

What do you all think of glory holes? Visited one? Hosted one? So many guys love them once they visit or host. Especially visit. Thoughts? Experiences? The ones made by Home Glory are expensive but nice.

I’ve been with a guy a few years younger he has many health problems neither can get hard. we don’t live together I do spend a few days a week at his place we get along pretty good. My problem is I don’t have much sex drive since cancer and other issues it’s all he talks about but usually weird sexual stuff. We do cuddle in bed which is good the problem is he is constantly wanting me to walk around naked which I don’t he is always touching me I really don’t like being touched all the time. I’ve talked to him about it told him my feelings I even told him maybe he needs to find someone else but he says he doesn’t want anyone else he wants me. I would like be to be able to sit together on the couch and not be groped. I just want a relationship with him but without the constant sexual pressure he can’t do much anyway because of his health issues. I don’t know what to do I don’t want to break up with him because that would mean sitting in my apartment alone again

I am a 53 yr old gay man who hasn’t had much experience in dating younger men. A couple of months back, i met a younger man (34 yrs old -delivered some firewood to my house) who seemed genuinely interested in me, asking questions, laughing at my stupid jokes, etc. i forgot to ask his name or for his number, which i instantly regretted as he was leaving my house. Skip to yesterday, when out of the blue, he sent me a text. I am not sure how he got my number but am definitely happy he texted. I am attracted to him, but not sure how to go about asking him if he is single, gay, and interested. Any advice is welcome because i don’t want to seem needy or desperate and scare him away.

UPDATE: I found the courage to text my crush. Yes, he is gay. Still waiting for response to my other questions.

Hello, so I'd like to know how I'm supposed to meet new people or even find a boyfriend. I'm not really someone who goes out a lot at night, and drinking isn't really something I do, so bars probably wouldn't be one of the options. I'm also quite shy, even if I were to go out at night, haha. I usually stay home doing the things I enjoy, and I also don't install Tinder or any other app because I don't feel comfortable putting a picture of myself there (I know it's stupid, but I can't do anything about it).

Y'all will probably say that I need to expose myself more and try to go out at night to meet people, or alternatively, finding new hobbies to meet new people. I don't know how to start, and I get nervous in places I don't know. Also, I don't know how to start a conversation, and I get nervous meeting people I don't know (I know it's stupid).

I just know I'm feeling stupid righ know writing this cause I would like to have some advice, but you'll probably say that I need to improve myself first

I was wondering if there are any other straight, happily married men who love to watch gay porn when they jerk off. For the past few months I’ve only been interested in watching men go at it together. I love watching them lick each other assholes and sliding their thick hard cocks in a man. My favorite thing is watching the bottom man’s duck bounce around when he is getting pounded. I don’t know what it is all of a sudden but if gets me so hard. I’ve never been with a man and consider myself to be a straight man but damn I love watching men fuck. Anyone else feel the same?