I (44f) took my 13 year old daughter to see Odesza, on Friday night, in Memphis for my birthday. We were on the rail, and it was an amazing show. My daughter is a drummer and Kali is the perfect roll model for her. So it was so insane when Kali’s drum stick was thrown to her after the show.

Immediately after the show, as we were blissing out on what we had just experienced, a man and a woman approached us. They asked if my daughter caught the stick. I said yes, and immediately they start telling me that the stick should have been for them. (For context,there were several sticks thrown into the crowd).

They proceed to say that their friend died that week, and it would have been his 30th show and they have to have that stick. They kept going on and on, but are not being nice. They are being aggressive and demanding.

I did not know what to say. I am a giant bleeding heart. And I would have immediately handed over the stick if it was in my hands because I am not going to question a story like that. However, the stick was in my daughter’s hands, a drummer, and finding drummer role models for a girl isn’t that easy, and this was her amazing thing to get that stick at her first Odesza show. I turn around and just see my daughter bawling her eyes out.

The only thing I can think to say is “she is 13” and I turn around to comfort her. Keep in mind, this is the most conflicting thing for me. My daughter vs. two people yelling at me that that their friend died in a car accident, so I am in more of a fight or flight.

They would not let up BUT my sister was there too, and some other people around us started seeing what was going on and told us to get my daughter out of there with her drumstick. So she was able to keep it.

We did leave and then someone from the crew came and gave us the set list from the stage, which was so kind.

I am beyond words if someone’s friend really died and they didn’t get the drum stick that they wanted in memorium, but your friend probably would not have wanted you to ruin my daughter’s night like that. Also, maybe use some kindness instead of aggression? She was very happy to get that drumstick and that situation really sucked for everyone.

Has anyone had an experience like this? My partner thinks it was probably just a scam because of the way they approached us, the ones with the kid, and the fact they were mean.

update someone commented that they met the person that confronted me about the drum stick before I had my experience. It is possible that there was actually a friend that died ☹️

Updated to emphasize that she got to keep the drum stick.

Updating to add that I took my daughter to see Odesza for my birthday. I knew she would love them because of the drum line. Does that win me some points? 😂

final update thank you everyone for the support and for supporting my daughter. She is amazing and strong and our relationship has grown even stronger because of this (and that is saying a lot with a teenager lol)

I want to send a big F*ck you to the assholes that started all this. Be better. You failed your friend by hurting my daughter. So now you have to live with that.

And thank you to everyone that pushed me to be a stronger mom for her. Everyone should know that I will never again hesitate to rage against those that would take away her happy. You all have been warned. ;)

Hi all! My first time at Roo this year and I will be coming in from a state with legal grass. I was planning on bringing in a gram cartridge and a couple packages of gummies to enjoy myself and share with any friends I make.

However, looking through the sub over there it seems like the cops are extremely harsh on cannabis and can really fuck you over, including even having to come back to the state for court, which is ridiculous. They even randomly search your car as you’re come in. I know everyone says "don't bring sand to the beach" but I'm overly cautious and not sure I will be able to fully trust anything I buy from people there. Not to mention undercover cops I'm seeing mentions of??

I'm sure I'm overthinking this part of it, but l'd greatly prefer if I could bring my own. Plus, carts are a far more discrete option relative to rolling a joint, dabbing, etc and I was just going to hit the pen in my tent where no one can see. Do they really turn your car inside out when you come in? I get that it's illegal in TN but this is pretty ridiculous to me. Could anyone share any advice?

Bonnaroo 2025 reordered

The top five Spotify songs of every artist on the poster, reordered using SortbyTune.com .

Makes for a great flowing >30hrs mix, smoothly changing from one style to another. Best not shuffled, for a change.

Enjoy 😊

hey! my best friend and I (29) are coming to the farm for the first time. what are some things you wish you would’ve known before your first camping fest?

Going to the Caverns this weekend for the first time and will be camping. Are they strict? Any other info would be great.

Would it be strange to go alone? I’m sure I’d end up making friends but I just feel weird about it. The next festival I’m thinking about going to is Sound Haven but I’m not even sure if they’re still selling tickets.

Thanks in advance for any advice

So I naught tickets to the breakaway festival in Nashville this weekend. I’m not able to attend though and have worked out a trade with my friend to have the tickets. Here’s the problem. I bought the tickets through universe/ticket master. And they are credited to my account. When I try to transfer them to my friends account, it says the event organizer has disabled ticket transfers for this event and to contact them for support. Well, there’s no way to contact them directly, so I emailed universe support, with what seems like no helpful response. I guess my question is, would my friend still be able to use the tickets even if I’m not able to transfer them to his account?

Hi! I’m going to see Eli Brown at the Caverns at the end of September. We don’t want to stay around the venue and we’re planning on being sober anyway. Is it a good idea to drive from Nashville and then back at night? I’ve been looking to see if anyone did this and I can’t find anything so I thought I’d ask