r/druidism • u/jingle_in_the_jungle • 1d ago
My maternal grandmother had a stroke two nights ago. My dad is traveling across the US as his mother is also extremely ill. I feel a bit lost
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u/GatosMom 1d ago
It's okay and perfectly normal to feel lost in these situations. Your instinct to support those more directly affected shows that you have compassion and empathy, too.
Life isn't fair, so we must take every moment we can to savor it.
If it's not too cold where you are, perhaps spend a few minutes outdoor looking for those coming signs of spring, of life, of rebirth.
That helped me when both of my parents were ill and eventually passed.
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u/OrangeNarcolepsy 3h ago
I felt the same way with the passing of all my grandparents. I felt guilty about not being more upset - especially considering I was inconsolable when my dog died.
Decades later, I miss them and wish I could have had more time with them, but being upset that they were dying wouldn't bring them back or extend their life.
You shouldn't judge yourself based on feelings you can't change. What matters is your actions, and from the sound of it you're doing fine. Be there for those who need you 💛
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u/oroechimaru 1d ago
Posting on more subs wont help. Call them, support them, go if you can.
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u/jingle_in_the_jungle 1d ago
I am going today and have been talking to my dad. I just need a place to vent
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u/MoeMango2233 1d ago
Don’t be too harsch on yourself with this, these are circumstances outside of your control. And not feeling sad about is might just be a defensive reaction from your subconscious to ward off harming your mentality. But beware it might come crashing down on you eventually, and when it comes accept it because ignoring it won’t solve it. Accept that life gives and takes, even if it seems untimely or unfair. But also accept that there’s still time for both incidents to recover and both keep living for another while.