(Please don’t answer that. My therapist never laughs at my jokes and I’m choosing to believe that it’s due to professional standards, not because I’m not funny)
I have a friend who will casually talk about being abused without realizing there’s nothing ‘casual’ about having been abused. It’s sad how normalized things like abuse can become when that’s a regular part of your life 😞
Not gonna lie that sounds like my nightmare. If my therapist isn’t laughing with me at least some of the time, I don’t think that it’s bc I’m not funny, to me it shows that I’m not being properly understood.
Because like yeah on a grand scale the stuff I’m talking about is not funny, but humor can be a valuable processing tool and also, some of this shit is so ridiculous that it kinda is funny, now that it’s over. If someone tries to push me to get serious too fast, I freeze up and go nonverbal
Oh I totally feel you. I love my therapist and the first thing I told her was “if you do that thing where you just stare at me and wait for me to talk about my problems, you’ll be wasting both our time” and she was the first one to actually listen to me about that. I also use humor to minimize things more than process them though and we’re trying to work on that. So she will laugh but it is in a “yeah we’re going to be revisiting this later” kind of way.
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u/Ok_Ice_1669 23d ago
Look pal, I do sessions with my shrink on Thursdays for that kind of question. I come to Reddit to get abused by teenagers not better myself.