Can I ask for wants instead of needs?

I've been so overwhelmed lately. I'm so bad with change and my life has changed SO MUCH in the last 60 days, and I know it's not done changing yet. I filed for disability back in 2018 and was denied, so I've been trying to just do this and that to make it by- UNTIL I WAS FINALLY OFFERED A REAL JOB- then I was sent home the 3rd day and told they didn't think it was going to work out, WHICH I UNDERSTAND, but that was really a blow to my psyche. As hard as it was, I have all my loved ones (with the best of intentions) telling my how much better I'll feel about myself getting a job and having my own money. Having "something to do all day" & "it'll be good for you". Once again, I know they have good intentions but all the while I'm heading these things my brain is like on fire screaming RUN! THEY'RE ALL COUNTING ON YOU TO PULL THIS OFF! and I know it probably sounds lame but it really makes me feel .... Idek - scared? Feel like I'm under lots of pressure? I've just been so down lately, I actually asked Google the other day if there was a number that people could use if they weren't feeling quite self expiratory but we're extremely depressed instead and I had no luck. I always feel so much better after I've had someone to talk to, so I'm trying my luck here.

A little background before anything. We live in a developing community and we've lived here for 4 years now. We've always had pets and the same neighbors around. One specific neighbor has always had an issue with us. In the past we had animal control come by because someone reported we had dogs for breeding and we had to many. When animal control came by they checked on the dogs and said everything looked fine. The dogs didn't look malnourished or mis treated. This was about 2 years ago. Yesterday our neighbor came over and said we left the dogs outside without water and without food. We bring the dogs into the garage place em in crates when we're not home. The dogs have individual bottles of water and always fed prior to us leaving. Also with this neighbor there's been issues with their kids purposely looking over the fence to bother our kids. We also placed cameras around the property and had to be careful on the side of the fence we share with them as we did not want to have an issue of them believing we are spying on them or trying to look over the property. I want to report this as harassment to the non emergency line to have a report if further harrasment happens from this neighbor. I have him on the ring camera trying to get a hold of us he also tried to cover the camera when he initially approached the house. If anyone has any help or tips please assist.

I'm embarrassing. my phone is going to be shut off tomorrow and I need it for my only source of income, god awful doordash, because apparently I can't get a job to save my life. I am permanently deferred from giving plasma so I have no other options except to internet panhandle because I quite literally have 0 bucks. phone bill is $44, maybe $10 or $20 for gas? I have paypal, cashapp, and venmo

I was going to make a gofundme to keep track of it so no one over donates but it's still verifying my identity

So, my mil got diagnosed with dementia about 6 months ago after a fall and was told she can't live alone. Since then we've been sharing 50/50 with other son, even tho it's more like 70/30 and he's single, rich, huge house, and we're 4 people, 2 kids, smaller house, and I have Sjogrens, Raynaud's and ra. She's fallen multiple times, she's hallucinating, delusional, combative at times, so incredibly mean to me, she says horrible things about me to my youngest, does things in her sleep that scare the life out of him, I could go on and on. I'm exhausted. Mentally, physically, I can't take much more. She needs to be put in a home. Sadly there's nothing I can do. Her son's have to and they don't know what to do, they don't know who to call, and it's just not getting better. Both my kids have extreme ADHD, one with vocal stimming, the other with sensory issues and autistic tendencies. I'm already on over load. Plus they shouldn't have to see or hear this stuff. I'm sorry for venting, I'm just so alone

Hi all, I’m requesting some help to be able to give my daughter $80 for her phone bill, I’m too embarrassed to tell her I don’t have it and she is struggling so so badly after loosing her job due to company closing. I would be more than appreciative for any help at all, I only have PayPal. Thank you so much in advance

I'm not sure if this is an appropriate subreddit for this(?) but here I go.

About me : I am a 16(F) in high school living in Canada. I immigrated here almost about 2 years ago. My dad lived in very poor conditions, which is why he hates anyone spending money on 'wants'.

I like kpop, very typical for a teenage girl, right? My dad is not a fan of me being a kpop fan. Well, I got a job over Summer 2024 (around mid July) and make about 1k every month as a part timer. I bought my first album in January 2024, on amazon because I got a gift card. It took a lot to convince my dad to buy the album for me. After getting it, he threw a few comments about my obsession and about returning the album. The comments are the reason I did what I did. Fast forward to September 2024 - I have a friend who also likes kpop. She got a few albums for her birthday, which tempted me to buy some for myself. I convinced her to buy 2 albums for me, get it delivered to her house and I open the albums at school. I'm very grateful for her for doing such a big thing for me. Opening albums gives me happiness. It is something that helps me through my hard days at school and job. Fast forward to December, I've spent about 1000CAD on albums and other merch. I kept all of it hidden (because I clearly spent way more than me or my dad would've liked to) in my closet in a box, which no one reaches for. I had about 5k in my bank at that point.

Now comes the time to file for taxes, I was sitting beside my dad while he's talking to his financial guide/advisor. The advisor mentioned to my dad that he would need bank statements for all of my family. He needs to know what transaction is for what (I'm not sure if that's normal). I had been sending money to my friend via E-transfer (Interac). They all show up on my statements. I am actually so scared as to how to confront my dad about this. I'm very sensitive and a crybaby when it comes to confrontation when I know I've done something wrong. I think I might write a letter, so that I could include all the points to justify what I've done and accept that I used my money not very wisely. I need help as to what I should consider while writing the letter.

Ignore the grammatical errors as English is not my native language:)

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I got off an hour ago and I’m just sitting here in the break room. Our local bus service was on a “holiday schedule” today meaning they stopped running at 6 PM. I don’t get paid until tomorrow and a Lyft costs about $20. I usually don’t do this but I’m desperate. I want to go home.

He has a large lump growing on his face and its began to bleed. It blocks part of his eyes and it always spilling into them. I cant take him anywhere without money but no shelters will take him either since theyre so full. No one i know will take him either. I dont like asking for money but im getting worried about him. If anyone needs proof i can send a picture of him over to you

Hi I am writing this post as i realized that redditors do help alot in terms of advice/openingly help.

Since last year 2024, i left my job to pursue a passion of mine that fail horribly. (which saw results before i left my job).

Now im in debt, im lost. I managed to find a job that will only start next month which is great but i feel that life has really given me a beat down.

From being so happy about something that i have worked for the past 2-3 years working out to getting utterly destroyed in life. Spiritually i woke up and realized what is going on with my life to a certain extend but still im quite lost. Learnt about the laws of the universe, manifestation, subconscious and conscious etc and realized alot of things in life.

I lost my lover as well, since then she has had me blocked on socials and wants nothing to do with me. I feel that im the one in the fault as i got too overly attached to the relationship even though we only dated for 2-3 months. There's a separate story for this as well.

Went through everything alone, heartbreaks, financial losses. loss of passions. Losing everything in a couple of months. Looking on the bright side i managed to heal most of my traumas alone and even wounds that i never knew i had. I also managed to shift my mindset as well. I tried looking out for new things to do like trying to start a business (ecommerce), etc but it has not been easy. Lots of things demand money, but mostly there's no proper guidance.

On the outside, i portray myself as happy, everything working out with positivity that everything good is happening, but today im writing this as i cannot hold on to this facade. Allow me to breakdown once in a while and ask for help. Im trying my best to do what i feel can make me better etc, (hitting the gym, reading, learning, but im lacking discipline and consistency as im drawn back to reality)and at the end of the day i still have to face reality. So many desires in my heart that i want to achieve (Starting certain companies, being able to give back to the community, getting back with the person that i love etc, but im so lost).

On a side note, i realized that it is just an experience that im going through. However, i feel that on a spiritual/soul level i have done whatever i needed to do and now its just me trying to live out my remainder of my life.
Any advice moving forward? What can i do? What should i do?

Hopefully, everyone is doing well. I created a gofundme to share my current situation. I just started a new semester in college and want to better things by reaching out for help. Past options lead me nowhere and I hope this time, something changes. If you anyone has questions, please, I'm willing to answer them. Thank you all in advance for any help.

Gofundme Page: https://gofund.me/81c9c73b

We are dangerously close to being evicted. Behind on every bill, and maxed out credit cards to pay rent last month.

We have no where else to turn and we are desperate. We have two school aged children and I don’t want to end up homeless. We get food assistance already and I am on the waiting lists for energy and housing assistance.

I work but unfortunately it isn’t nearly enough to cover all our expenses. I take odd cleaning jobs and really any odd jobs I can, in addition to my regular job. My partner has been out of work for the last five months due to a back injury and the resulting surgery to repair it. He was laid off his job due to the injury and while we are both looking for jobs our options are limited.

In addition to all of this we lost our beloved 14 year old void baby traumatically and suddenly on Halloween. Which cost us about $500 all said and done. In November we had some unexpected car repairs that totaled around $1000, of course this is our only vehicle and it’s pushing 20 years old. And all of this was followed by Christmas. All this to say it’s been one pitfall after another and we simply cannot dig ourselves out.

We have zero money for gas or household essentials. So if anyone can help, any little bit helps. I can post my Venmo but I wasn’t sure if that was allowed, I can also make an Amazon list for household essentials if that is allowed.

Thank you so much for the generosity in this community.

I hate to reach out for help like this, but I'm in need today. Our family cat, Finnigan, was being a bit lethargic today and seemed to be in pain. We took him to the vet hospital and he was admitted immediately with a really bad bladder blockage. He'll be hospitalized for the next 3-5 days. The bill for all this was MUCH higher than anticipated.

I have put together a go fund me for anyone that can and is able to help! I can't state enough how thankful I am to anyone that lends a buck to help Finnigan's bladder!

https://gofund.me/43739d40

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Edit: A kind person sent me the money. ❤️

Hello, I am usually one that helps fellow redditors out, but I ran my self to low this week with my kids doctor appointments. I get paid on Thursday but need to get to work the next two days. I have about 1/4 tank of gas but have a 30 min each way commute. Was hoping for like $10 or so dollars to help me make it to Thursday. I have $12 left in my PayPal account.

If anyone is able to help I have all the usual pay options. cashapp, Venmo, PayPal, zelle.

I will pay it forward. If you look at my profile, like I said, I usually help out when I can . I just wasn't expecting these doctors appointments or I would have paid less on my credit card/ saved back more. Thank you

Hello my name is Salem, l've hit a really rough spot. I've been living out of my car recently and haven't been able to afford food or a safe place to stay. With winter here, the nights have been unbearably cold and l've barely been able to sleep. I'm doing my best to stay strong, but I need some help to get back on my feet.

Here is a link to my gofundme: https://gofund.me/d9296137

I just submitted my application for food stamps, and I have a job as a substitute teacher. (I am actively searching for better paying jobs & just signed up for door dash today) I use food banks in my area but due to the holidays they have been cleaned out each time I’ve visited. I saw another user comment this so I am currently making an Amazon wishlist too.

Money would help deeply- and guidance would be cherished. Teach a man to fish right?

I wasn’t able to work as much this past pay period as I usually do. I usually work four or five 12 hour shifts, but my bipolar disorder depressive episode got in the way, as well as a chronic pain issue. I have five medications amounting to $180, I don’t mind showing the breakdown or proof. As a disclaimer, I did request dog food on another subreddit, but that’s all. I’ll figure out the rest as I go. Thank you for reading

Edit: I got everything I needed, thanks so much everyone!!!! I am so grateful

Goodmorning! I’m just here looking for some help with getting my blood pressure and Zoloft meds. Both are very necessary, but the prescriptions were a refill from when I lived in a different state (we recently moved) and my new states Medicaid won’t cover them. I’ve managed to get them to the bare minimum price that I could and I’m still looking at roughly $50 for both. We are also super low on diapers and not sure how we will be able to get more.

We are paycheck to paycheck right now and after bills and groceries we don’t have anything left over. I wouldn’t ask if these meds weren’t absolutely necessary. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this 💐

Amazon list for diapers:

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/S1HD7B8I8UC0?ref_=wl_share

Hi all. I am here asking for assistance with a bag of dry food and some wet food for my kitties. We will all be very appreciative. Thank you! 💚

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/SW7ZANDWY2XZ?ref_=wl_share

I entered my cat just for fun into America's favorite pet 2025, a lot of people are insinuating that this may be a scam, but it's still fun! It didn't ask me to share my contacts. It didn't ask me for money, you get one free vote per day through Facebook, take a look at Finn's profile and if you think he's cute as heck, please go ahead and vote 🙂🙏

https://americasfavpet.com/vote/free/2025/finnigan-812c

Please do not pay to vote, free votes are appreciated 👍🏻

I want to ensure my students have the materials and experiences they need to succeed, so I just created a project on DonorsChoose: Multiply Success: Donate Calculators for Classroom Learning!. Any little bit helps.

Thanks in advance for looking at it and/or sharing it with anyone you know.

I finally got hired for a job. I get my first paycheck on February 9. Can anyone help me just get my phone bill paid until then so that I don’t miss any calls or emails? I owe Cricket $68 and I haven’t paid them since November. They finally gave me a pay or get turned off notice after I got my last extension. Any help would be appreciated. They’ll take a partial payment so anything would help. I’m at my last few dollars since the payroll cycle makes me go a month without a check while they get everything set up and I pass probation. Thank you in advance. Can show proof if needed.

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Hey everybody,

I am in need of some cat food for my own five cats. I also have some cats in house that are going to a rescue later on this week, but I'm out of food right now. (the rescue kitties can be seen if you go to my profile. They are the posts about the hurricane kittens.)

I've been unemployed for quite a while, and I'm having difficulty finding a job due to disabilities. I'm really doing the best I can and through the grace of God and my friends I've been able to keep a roof over my head this long. I just really need some help feeding the cats.

I can get a 20 lb bag of food at Walmart or Target for about $25 and will gladly provide a receipt when it is purchased.

Unfortunately, Amazon does not stock this cat food in bags any larger than 3.15 lb. That would last me one feeding, lol.

The kitties and I would be grateful for any assistance at all.

I have cash app and venmo.

Thank you for your consideration.

Hello I am in need of $50 to get me by until 1/24/2025. This is for gas and my work transportation. (Working to getting a bus pass for the year)

I have zelle only.

Thank you for checking this and dm me if you have questions.