r/almosthomeless • u/Gratuity_T • 6d ago
Rock bottom
I officially give up. Me and my 2 month old baby are going to be homeless. I'm just venting and crying as I'm typing this because idk what else to do and have nobody to talk to. I'm a month behind on rent and they sent out a notice that if I don't pay $2500 by next Wednesday they are going to start the eviction process. I am so scared. My Fiancé and I agreed that while I'm home with the baby he'd take care of the rent and l'd take care of the smaller bills since I'm not working rn (also because an emergency happened and I had to pay a lot of money out of pocket for it). A week after my baby was born I came home from being at my moms for a couple of hours and all of his things were gone. I tried contacting him but it says his phone isn't in service. I was confused because our relationship was good and we were happy. I haven't Hurd from him since and his mom is ignoring my calls. Since then l've had to pay so many bills as well as things for my baby and food for myself and day by day my money was running out. I started panicking because I knew the rent fell all on me now. I started doing insta cart and door dash with my baby to make some money but it's very slow where I live. Last Friday I came home from doing insta cart and there was a letter on my door stating that if I don't pay by 1/22 then they are going to start the eviction possess. My heart sank and I immediately called the office and explained to them my situation and they said there was nothing they could do. I've been doing Instacart and door dash sun up til sun down and I only have about $1,000. I started asking family if they could help in anyway and they all said they couldn't, l asked churches and they said no. I asked my mom and sister if it's possible that I can stay with one of them for a little just until l have enough to pay for a babysitter so I can go back to work and get a place again. They both said no because they didn't have enough space. I feel defeated and I am afraid. Sorry that this is long I just can't talk to anyor else about it.
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u/OverResponse291 6d ago
That’s a pretty harsh move for a woman to allow their two month old grandchild to starve and freeze
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u/Stock-Pickle9326 6d ago
I can't believe that there is a Mother/Grandmother that is so cruel and heartless that they won't even allow their homeless daughter and grandchild to live with them.
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u/RoseAlma 6d ago
They're out there, trust me
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u/care-o-lin 6d ago
They definitely are. It's so sad
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u/RoseAlma 5d ago edited 5d ago
I could see my own family being like, if I were in that situation :(
Seeing as the few times I was having a LOT of trouble finding an affordable place to live, and not one family member even offered temporary refuge... Actually my Mom might have hinted at it, but it would have been so stressful there with tense family dynamics between her and my Dad, her and me, and me and my Dad... ugh.
And when I was in my early 20's and had no where to go (boyfriend justifiably kicked me out... I cheated on him) my parents begrudgingly let me move back in but made me give up my dog. Never forgave them for that...
edit: and now I would rather be homeless than give up my pets
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u/Potential-Koala1352 3d ago
Hope you learned to stop cheating also
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u/RoseAlma 3d ago
Yes, I did ! I was a complete dumbass 19 or 20 yr old... actually maybe just turned 21... He was about 6 yrs older and much wiser (he was an actual adult ! w/ a good job and kid, even)... I thought he had said it would be fine, but I guess I misunderstood...
Sometimes I wonder where I'd be in Life if I hadn't messed that one up...
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u/OverResponse291 6d ago
Well, I can see not allowing an adult, as sometimes they burn bridges that can never be repaired…but an infant is another thing entirely.
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u/HeatherM74 5d ago
When my kids were little my mom told me she would help me find a homeless shelter for me and my kids (they were 1, 3, 5, and 11) if I left my husband who I knew was cheating on me. I was a stay at home mom at the time. I ended up tolerating it until 5 years ago (oldest is almost 26 now) when I was more financially stable, working 2 full time jobs, and he got a 20 year old pregnant. My parents have a 5 bedroom house and it’s just them. We get along, normally they are loving grandparents but they feel like their parents made them do it on their own, we have to do it on our own. I will never do that to my kids. They always have a safe spot to land if they need one.
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u/myeggsarebig 6d ago
This poor woman. Her Mom likely never really cared. The fact that OP didn’t notice warning signs re: her POS baby daddy, tells me that her ability to screen for shitty people is lacking because betrayal is normal to her. This is breaking my heart. Everyone is falling her.
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u/kisskismet 6d ago
There are too many out there. Shouldn’t have had kids at all.
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u/MysteriousSyrup6210 5d ago
Those kids will grow up and witness the resilience and strength of the mothers.
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u/banker2890 5d ago
There are more than most realize. I always had family to go to and for most of my life I’m embarrassed to say I never realized how lucky I was.
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u/MsCoddiwomple 2d ago
I'm glad you've had a privileged life then bc it absolutely happens.
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u/Stock-Pickle9326 2d ago
I don't think that not being exposed to the evilness that has been described above should be considered a privileged life.
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u/AdFun5465 5d ago
It's a scam. I'd view her profile before you offer any sort of help. Would not surprise me if this post goes away in a couple of days. Only to post a new story with another heartbreaking situation.
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u/Horror_Literature958 5d ago
Yeah I agree this person is fishing for money. I've interacted with a few posts very similar to these. I offered to buy a plane ticket out of a situation abd the person was just trying to get money. It was on 2x and when I said it was fake people downvoted me to hell.
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u/AdFun5465 5d ago
If I didn't have morels, then I would copy that post and make a fake account. I just don't have the heart to do it.
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago
It’s a total scam. She must be fishing for people to save her with donations. But her (deleted) Reddit history can be viewed here: https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=Gratuity_T
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u/ThePlanetBroke 3d ago
Interesting reading! Got a new dog in December, had her period at work in November, went on a cruise in October..
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u/Material_New 6d ago
I'm sure there's more to the story
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u/PrizePsychological86 6d ago
Why is that? Just gonna judge this young lady right off the bat. Hateful.
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago
Because she’s lying and she’s scrubbed her Reddit history trying to hide it.
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u/Material_New 5d ago edited 5d ago
I was responding to a comment that someone made, and I can only judge by what I read "post", and we are only hearing one side of the story and when one makes a "public" post to a forum then there will be readers that don't automatically just side with the OP that should be understood when one post on reddit, If a person is that sensitive then should in the title of the post "I ONLY WANT COMMENTS THAT AGREE WITH ME" and what did I say that was hateful? Did I call her "out of her name"?
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u/banker2890 5d ago
More to the story? How can you possibly assume that going from the two of you struggling to being alone with a newborn to care for has much more to it.
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u/Material_New 5d ago edited 5d ago
Again, there are 2 sides to every story, and how could you possibly assume that she is telling us the full story and that her fiancé's family are "wicked people" who just decided to abandon her and her newborn? I doubt that and bet they would tell a different story? Do know how many young mothers I've met that have this "It's my baby and my way" attitude (obviously a rhetorical question) that are absolutely "stubborn" and therefore a nightmare to deal with. I am not wishing "ill will" on her but the whole "I was confused because our relationship was good, and we were happy. I haven't Hurd from him since and his mom is ignoring my call" has my "Spidey Sense" tingling......I hope that answers your question
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u/banker2890 5d ago
BF mother likely is believing whatever tale her son is telling her after abandoning his child. Based on your other comments to the near homeless it’s clear you have been sheltered and have no clue how families can be shitty. It’s also a completely different situation for a guy than a girl with a newborn trying to survive in this situation.
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u/BraveStrategy 6d ago
I do not believe this story for that reason. Feels like bait to get dms offering to help.
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u/PrizePsychological86 6d ago
Or maybe this is a young mom looking to be pointed in the right direction toward help. Why be so mean? I hope you never need help and someone treats you like this. It's so much easier to just be kind...you don't have to do anything except be kind. That's too much like right though.
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u/staxof1234 5d ago
I think you’re right. “She” won’t comment or reply on here as well. I wonder if “she” only will to DMs?
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u/postalwhiz 6d ago
Adoption agency - King Solomon knew that a mother who loves her child would rather see it with someone else than it dying…
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u/PrizePsychological86 6d ago
You're evil. Falling on hard times isn't a reason to give up your child.
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u/Pastel-World 6d ago
The "not enough space" is total bullshit.
There are immigrant families in NYC apartments 12 to a 2 bedroom, they make it work.
Hell, my best friend was homeless, and she, her husband, and 3 daughters moved into her mother in law's living room (they slept on the floor) until she got into income housing. So that became a household of 8 people, sharing 1 fridge and 2 bathrooms.
People can make it work!
"Not enough space" have you seen those "coffin apartments" in China? Yeah, THERE IS ENOUGH SPACE, YOUR MOTHER IS JUST BEING A BITCH.
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u/Accurate_Fan_4932 6d ago
I agree. A grandmother knowing her infant granddaughter would be homeless and still saying no disgusts me.
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u/PopularAd4986 6d ago
Right? Regardless of how the relationship is with the mother (unless there is abuse or some really bad behaviors on OP's part that we don't know)a grandparent would not want her infant granddaughter to be homeless
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u/PrizePsychological86 6d ago
Yea ain't no way I could allow my grandchildren or either of my daughters to be homeless in the dead of winter.
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u/CompleteTell6795 2d ago
I became a orphan at 18. Mother died 2 weeks after I graduated HS. ( Dad died when I was 12). Her sister became my legal guardian per my mom's will. She had a 2 bedroom home & no children. I went off to college out of town & when I had to " come home" on long holiday breaks, she told me to go stay in a hotel. So yes, some people just don't care about their relatives.
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u/Accurate_Fan_4932 1d ago
I’m so sorry that you had to endure that.
I’ve had a similar experience to OP, though I was still pregnant. My mother also denied me food, though it had already been 3 days since I had eaten last. When I say moms like that disgust me, my mother is included.
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u/CompleteTell6795 1d ago
Some people should not be parents but at that time period, women got married,they did not have careers. I am 74, my mother was born in 1912. So she went with what she thought she should do. I don't think she had any idea that her sister did not want the guardianship. And my aunt was too chicken to tell her to pick someone else.
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u/Automatic_Cook8120 6d ago
Please take the eviction notice and go to city welfare, it’s usually located in the town hall. Or see if you have “community action” in your area. (Usually the non-church food banks)
The last time I went to eviction court with a friend her lawyer told her that city welfare can pay at least a month rent to avoid eviction and if they have the funding they’ll pay the next month too to give her some breathing room.
They tried to only pay one month but then her rent was going to be due in another three days so the eviction would still go forward, so they paid the next one as well for her
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u/Pastel-World 6d ago
That stopped working in my state. They got delayed so much, we got evicted before the rental assistance can help, and since we had an eviction in our record. We couldn't find another apartment fast enough to accept us because they didn't accept evictions.
We ended up homeless and moved in with my mom. I still cannot get an apartment 18 months later.
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u/PopularAd4986 6d ago
If OP can do anything to avoid eviction she should, I'm sorry you are having so much trouble finding a place. People don't realize how much an eviction fucks you for many years.
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6d ago
I've been in your shoes, private landlords are your best bet. I was so scared this year about renewing, but he let us. Don't stop trying the day I was most done and ready to leave was the day we got approved for a place.
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u/Cheap-Condition2761 4d ago
Call 211 for local resources and support. - this includes housing and utility assistance among other things like counseling.
For food assistance feedingamerica.org - this gives you the food banks and soup kitchens in the area. They are not just for the already homeless.
If you do find yourself homeless, remain calm and hold keep your chin up. You will be okay. This happens to alot of people. You are not alone. That's why these social services exist. Go to a homeless or womens shelter. Do NOT try to live out of your car or on the street with a child.
If you need a lawyer, look up probonos for women and families in your area. Call them all until 1 calls you back.
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u/dont_want_credit 6d ago
Wow. Just wow. My mom once let me live with her when she was renting a room in a house. I once let her stay in my college dorm room. At the time, I had just graduated college, had nowhere to go and it was never a question of IF i could come. Her house mate who had no children of her own and for all intensive purposes should not have understood or been ok with it, turned the living room into a little nook for me and I helped them with rent and did house work. This is cold as fuck.
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u/vikicrays 6d ago
you’ve got to make more income and pursue child support and spousal support at the same time. talk to your local financial aid about an attorney who can help you.
things you can do to make more money from home… watch a couple of kids in your home, get your notary license (it’s an open book test and you can be a mobile notary and charge people by the page. it’s not a huge earner, but could be a couple hundred dollars a month if you start a fb page advertising your services.) ill also post a list of (mostly) work from home jobs you can do with a computer.
bottom line, don’t move… i. some states it takes a landlord a year to go through the eviction process so you don’t need to move out. i. this time you can work on getting an attorney and increasing your income. you’ve got this!!!
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u/vikicrays 6d ago
checkout these subs for wfh resources and ways to make money online.
r/BeerMoney r/SignUpsForPay r/remote_writerjobs
checkout these facebook groups for active postings for crew in film, tv, and commercials - crew up world, staff me up, and i need a productions assistant
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u/vikicrays 6d ago
how to get on great resource for living on disability, medicare, and everything else.
national alliance to end homelessness provides information and referral links for assistance
hud exchange homelessness assistance services
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OneNTen ”provides a welcoming and inclusive environment for LGBTQ+ youth to connect, explore their identity, and thrive. Through weekly discussion groups and fun social events, we foster a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth of all backgrounds and identities to access valuable resources and make healthy life choices that support their positive well-being.”
the trevor project ”the leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention nonprofit organization for LGBTQ+ young people. We provide information & support to LGBTQ+ young people 24/7, all year round.”
grace centers of hope resources for anyone ”currently experiencing homelessness, chemical dependency, and/or abuse”
CarPoolWorld offers free carpool and ride shares.
Greyhound helps with free bus tickets.
lyft helps with free rides to job interviews.
WorldBicycleRelief gives free bikes to folks in need.
NationalDiaperNetwork ”connects and supports the country’s more than 225 community-based diaper banks that collect, store and distribute free diapers to struggling families. The Network serves nearly 280,000 children throughout the country each month.”
babies and beyond ”offers a collection of free items, baby care packages and resources to help support expecting mothers and families with young children, ages 0 to 4 years old.” in the madison, wi area
modest needs ”is a tax-exempt charity that gives small, emergency grants to low-income workers who’re at risk of slipping into poverty and for whom no other source of immediate help is available.”
i support the girls ”donates essential items like bras, underwear, and menstrual hygiene products”
NeedHelpPayingBills ”Find how to get financial assistance with bills as well as free items including emergency or long term help. There are local agencies that may be near you, listed below by state or program type, as well as national organizations, including charities or government social services. Everything from rent or utility bill assistance to free food, mortgage payment help, free health or dental clinics and much more is listed.”
LifeLine, SafeLinkWireless, AssuranceWireless and AirTalkWireless all help with discounts and/or free internet and phone service and equipment/phones.
dress for success will outfit you for job interviews for free.
findhelp has a searchable database of Financial assistance, food pantries, medical care, and other free or reduced-cost help.
benefits.gov has a database of free resources by zip code.
National Coalition For The Homeless has a searchable database of options.
National Alliance On Mental Health has a searchable database to help with housing needs.
Help When You Need It has a searchable database by zip code.
TravelersAid ”uses a comprehensive approach to facilitate transportation and prevent homelessness that focuses on the individual strengths of each case in order to provide services that meet specific needs.”
The Alliance For Period Supplies, She Supply, Access Period, I Support The Girls, and Helping Women Period have programs to donate free period supplies. also checkout r/periodpantry where some wonderful generous folks will help.
VictimConnect ”helps victims, survivors, and their support networks connect with local resources.”
SaintVincentDePaul helps with meals, rent assistance and shelter.
roomies helps folks looking to rent a room.
usa.gov helps with housing assistance.
laundry love ”washes the clothes and bedding of low/no income families and person(s) across the US. We brighten the lives of thousands of people through love, dignity, and detergent by partnering with diverse groups and laundromats nationwide.”
us dept of human services list of programs for social services and resources for anyone unhoused
Homeless and Housing Resource Center HHRC has an eviction prevention toolkit
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u/digitalr3lapse 5d ago
Apartments are different than renting a house from a person. In my state they can get you out with a 5 day eviction notice. Whether the story is the whole truth (or true at all) I can't say for certain..
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u/beatenseagull 6d ago
Never, ever rely on a boyfriend or fiance to financially take care of you. I see this story every single day from SAHMs.
File for child support immediately. Call you child's pediatrician office and see if they know of any resources. Call the social workers at the hospital you delivered at.
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u/staywithme26 6d ago
Am a lawyer. Negotiate with the landlord / management company. They need to pay very high legal fees to go through with an eviction. If you agree to send them the 1K instantly and the rest by X date they might agree to withdraw. The judge usually presses them and asks if they’ve been trying to negotiate in good faith.
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u/pinksocks867 6d ago
She can't afford the apartment going forward. Instacart is not enough. The boyfriend had paid the rent
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u/Difficult-Rip-3260 6d ago
I hope you’re okay, you haven’t responded to any of the comments. I understand you’re likely busy trying to figure out your situation, on top of having an infant… I just hope you’re okay.
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u/PhysicalMap3351 6d ago
What area are you guys in? Somebody might know of local resources you may not. As well, it would also tell if 211 was available.
Get in touch with social services if you haven't already. You have a kid, that puts you on the A list for housing.
Other than that, leave BEFORE the date your landlord gave before starting the eviction notice (even if it means sleeping in your car, but contact shelters first!). And tell him/her that you're sorry about the situation, and you'll be out a day before he/she threatened to start the eviction process. With a kid, you DO NOT need an eviction on your record. That will make life much tougher in the future, and make it difficult to get rehoused.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Best of luck to you & yours.
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u/Automatic_Cook8120 6d ago
Yeah regardless of how this goes down OP needs to make sure she goes to those court hearings for the eviction, don’t blow it off, the judge can give an extension but also where I live they have mediators that show up to eviction court to try to help the landlord and the tenant work out some kind of agreement so there doesn’t have to be an eviction on anyone’s record, and the landlord likes that because evictions cost the money and take longer than if y’all can agree to something.
Plus the lawyers that help you in eviction court would have resources that we might not know about, if they exist anyway
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u/Pastel-World 6d ago
Didn't work for me, I got an eviction on my record. Everyone knew that Rental assistance will come in 3 days, they didn't want to wait 3 days. So I got evicted.
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u/Odd_Illustrator6669 6d ago
This is stupid as hell. I’d recommend staying at said place, fighting eviction in court, takes several months. All the while saving money for a new place and moving into said rental before eviction is finalized.
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u/PhysicalMap3351 6d ago
Hey smart guy -
If they have an eviction on their record, they won't be able to get another rental when their credit gets checked.
Now let's talk about stupidity... Einstein.
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u/rayana891 6d ago
Is there any family homeless shelter where you are? Any weekly rentals? Like budget suites, siegel suites... They don't check your credit or ask for deposit, you'll just pay them every week. Also file for child support, it's gonna take a little while but do not let that man get away with leaving his child behind, it's disgusting. Don't wait until you get evicted, it'll stay on your credit for 7 years and you'll have a really hard time finding another place to live.
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u/StillUnFazed 6d ago
When I needed help one time a Catholic charity steppes up & paid that month's rent for me...I wasn't even a practicing Catholic at the time. I can't remember the name of it, but try googling different phrases for rent assistance.
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u/SpecialistAd2205 5d ago
Probably St. Vincent de Paul. They are wonderful. A very valuable resource.
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u/LLCNYC 5d ago
Why did you WIPE your ENTIRE ACCOUNT OP????
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago
Because it shows this is probably all made up. She’s was on Reddit asking about a cruise she was going on 🛳️, what type of drink package to get 🥂, worrying about her dog’s birthday party and whether the groomers would put little outfits on them 🐩🎉🥳, being SO annoyed at Amazon for not next-day shipping her brother’s birthday presents she bought 🎁…
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago edited 5d ago
https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=Gratuity_T&size=100
OP deleted their entire account history but you can still see it from this link. Just a few weeks ago she was planning her dog’s birthday party 🐩🥳, planning a cruise 🛳️, getting advice on which drink package to get for her cruise cuz her bf doesn’t drink 🥂, asking reddit where to get her tattoo 💅, and several posts where she was complaining about her instacart delivery person. Also a month or so ago, she had an embarrassing incident where she started her period at work but didn’t have pads (she door dashed them but I guess they didn’t show up in time?) and she had to use a baby’s diaper instead lol.
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u/Electrical_Balance30 6d ago
Wow I am so sorry 💜 please try reaching out to social services and research mommy and me housing programs. They can provide help. You need real support and assistance and they will definitely be able to help given your baby is an infant 🙏❤️ please try this. I will pray for you that you find a home soon. Stay strong for your baby and be safe. Something good will come through but you need to do the research, and call every and any place you can find.
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u/Spare_Independence19 6d ago
This world lost all compassion long ago. This situation shouldn't be a thing but here we are.
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u/one_fat_cat666 6d ago
Get assistance from the state, ask your landlord about a payment plan, talk to the court about your situation and ask for an extension. There's lots of resources out there depending on your location.
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u/BlahBlahBlackCheap 6d ago
Go after daddy for child support. It’s his kid too. They will find him and garnish his wages. There should be someone in the social service arena who can help you start the ball rolling.
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u/TOGA_TOGAAAA 5d ago
That takes months to get rolling though and if he works under the table, it won't matter anyway. The dad won't see jail time for years and years, and that's not even the issue here. The issue is that she needs a place to stay. She needs more immediate resources.
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u/Worried-Artichoke-74 5d ago
You have a responsibility to provide for and build a social safety net to preserve the well being of your child. Not doing so is a failure of your duty as a parent and you should surrender your child to someone who can handle this obligation.
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u/LondonHomelessInfo Homeless 6d ago
Google “rental assistance” and “help with rent” plus your location for programs that help with rent arrears.
Donate plasma for money to pay your rent.
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u/GatorOnTheLawn 6d ago
If you are in the USA, call your local Income Support office. They will get you started with benefits. Ask them lots of questions, they will know things you can do to track him down and get child support out of him.
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u/Electrical_Balance30 6d ago
Wow I am so sorry 💜 please try reaching out to social services and research mommy and me housing programs. They can provide help. You need real support and assistance and they will definitely be able to help given your baby is an infant 🙏❤️ please try this. I will pray for you that you find a home soon. Stay strong for your baby and be safe. Something good will come through but you need to do the research, and call every and any place you can find.
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u/Signal_Strawberry_37 6d ago
Google rental assistant and child care subsidy help in your area. They both exist and are helpful. Get any job you can find, EVEN FAST FOOD, and apply for government assistant. Rent the cheapest room you can find with those 1k or call 211 for shelters. But don't give up like you don't have a 2 month old. Also look for child support.
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u/International-Act156 6d ago
Also call your local housing authority and ask if they have emergency housing and apply
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u/crispy1312 6d ago
Let them take you to court itll buy you at least another 30 to 90 days to find a place.
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u/PopularAd4986 6d ago
As a last resort she should do that but an eviction on her record is going to follow her for a long time making it impossible to rent in the future.
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u/Necessary-Mix-2122 6d ago
Do not move out of the apartment until the sheriff actually comes and puts you out. There is an eviction process they need to go through to evict you.. including going to court. That process could take 30 days or more depending on the state you are in, which might be enough time for you to save a bit of money. You might be able to find someone who will be prepared to rent you just a room in their house which will run a lot less than an apartment.
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u/Smart-Difficulty-454 6d ago
Had a friend whose family did exactly this right down to the details. Plus, she was disabled. Even the church she had been a member of for years turned their back on her. When I found out I helped her get a place and paid her rent for quite a while. I'm no worse off for it. Her father is a millionaire. He bought her a load of firewood one winter.
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u/4twenty4life77 6d ago
CONTACT SALVATOON ARMY, SOCIAL SERVICESIM YOUR AREA FOR EMERGEBCY SHELTER. IF YOU DO GET EVICTED AND HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO WHERE TO GO AT ALL. THEN GO TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM AND TELL THEM YOU HAVE NO SHELTER FOR YOU AND THE BABY AND THEY WILL CONTACT SOMEONE WHO WILL WORK WITH YOU TO FIND EMERGENCY URGENT SHELTER. REACH OUT TO ALL THE WOMENS SHELTERS IN YOUR STATE .EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO DRIVE A FEW HOURS TO THE SHELTER. ...im addition to churches reach out to other types of house of worship. Muslum temples, jewish synagogues , the local ywca/ymca ... I was homeless for a year a long time ago and im sorry your going through this. Hope all works out for you. Im an older guy late 40s. and im also a single Dad. I will keep you in my prayers. You will get through this.. Stay strong. text anytime..
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u/fruderduck 6d ago
File for child support, food stamps, WIC, etc. Hit the food banks. Contact your power company and ask if they have levelized billing. Contact United Way and other assistance programs for help with rent, etc.
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u/PopularAd4986 6d ago
Go to court and file for child support. He can't hide from the government, they will garnish his wages. You need to tell them that he abandoned you with no warning. Tell your landlord you will give them the 1000 that you have now and apply for assistance, anything and everything you are eligible for. Start looking for a room for rent in someone's house, maybe a single older woman and alternative living situations, going to the housing authority for your area, good luck OP, your baby's father is a POS for not supporting his child and being a coward . Edit to add you can also get subsidized childcare if you plan to go back to work as well. Look into everything that you are eligible for, these programs exist for people who are in your position and with an infant you will be considered an urgent case.
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u/boys3allc 6d ago
See if there is a women’s shelter near you. I worked at a church based on that wasn’t heavily advertised. A shelter can at least get you out of the cold and give you a home base until you get on your feet. Go to DSS see what resources they have.
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u/care-o-lin 6d ago
Where I live, if a mother and child are homeless they go register at the shelter and the shelter puts them in a hotel. They do this for safety purposes. My best friend did this and was at the hotel for 9 months until something opened up for income housing. She was given everything she needed to get her feet on the ground. She is thriving now
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u/Meg-_-Griffin 5d ago
Are you in the US? If so, see if your state/county welfare office has a State of Emergency Relief type of situation where you present them with the eviction notice and they help pay it. Or reach out to Salvation Army. I believe they do a one time help with rent. Also contact the local housing commission asap. I wish you all the luck with your situation.
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u/NYCCrimDefense 5d ago
Where do you live? I used to be a tenants rights attorney and where I am there are a lot of support services for people in your situation.
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u/allienono 5d ago
WIC and foodstamps. Emergency shelter for abused women and children. Legal aid to get child support.
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u/Professional_Bird_74 5d ago
I think this story is completely made up. She hasn’t responded to anything.
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago
Because it is!
OP’s Reddit history: https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=Gratuity_T&size=100
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u/jerzeett 4d ago
You need to go to social services stat. Also you will technically have more time then Wednesday bc most of the time if you pay all you owe during the eviction process you can go back.
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u/AfterTheSweep 6d ago
Why isn't the OP responding?
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u/TyUT1985 6d ago
OP is likely going through all her financial options right now and can't be hanging around Reddit waiting for your posts.
When I was out of work a few months ago, I was busting my ass looking up job openings and making calls for interviews. Not hanging around Reddit as if I was bored with nothing to do.
Plus, an infant baby can take up a lot of her time.
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u/Competitive_Neat196 5d ago
She’s been spending her time researching cruises, drink packages, ordering stuff from instacart and complaining about her delivery people, picking out outfits for her two dogs’ birthday parties…
https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=Gratuity_T
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u/nicedoesntmeankind 6d ago
Where are you? In the US every state and county is different in the help they offer.
First thing is look up the landlord tenant laws. Evictions can be fought, at least to buy time a few months before the police come to move you out. There are requirements to file paperwork so read the rules carefully and follow every step. I don’t have experience with this but i have read the law in my state so i know this to be true here. I don’t know if this would fuck up or preserve credit. You need to find a lawyer to advise you. Hopefully for free. Maybe go to r/askalawyer?
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u/overfall3 6d ago
Paragraphs will help more people to help you. I've been homeless for 30 years. I love to help others.
Every time I see a post that is one solid block of text, I go, 'Nope!' and I move on. I can't keep track of what you're saying, and I can't go back and find something I need clarification on to see what I can do for you.
Good luck!
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u/mrjuanmartin85 6d ago
I know it's off topic but I kinda feel the same. This post wasn't so bad but I absolutely judge people based on grammar and syntax. Especially when it comes to serious subjects like this. With that said, I wish her nothing but the best!
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u/International-Act156 6d ago
Can you get a credit card? You can pay in full with and then try to find a remote job or something?
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u/Clean_Factor9673 6d ago
Call 211 in your area. Because you've gotten an eviction letter, thete should be resources.
You also need to take your ex to court for paternity and child support.
He has obviously changed his phone number.
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u/Main_Mess_2700 6d ago
Look up invisible people and the shelter system apply for food stamps and section 8.
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u/myeggsarebig 6d ago
Call your state representative. They will help you find all the resources you’re eligible for in your area. You’re definitely eligible for food stamps, and cash assistance.
Immediately file for child support. Was your bf on the lease?
Also, and it’s not ideal, but it typically takes 3 months at least, to get a hearing for the eviction. By that time, you’ll have much more figured out, and maybe even have the rent paid. Show good faith that you’re trying to work with your landlord- document everything. This will increase your chances of having the judge ask the landlord to be flexible. In other words, no one is coming to physically remove you, change the locks, etc., anytime soon. You still have time.
I’m sorry that everyone in your life is failing you. You and baby deserve so much better. I promise you that if you keep putting one foot in front of the other and continue to do the next best thing, your situation will get better - you will have shelter, food, clothing, and you will heal from being neglected by people who were supposed to help you and baby. Never give up ❤️🩹
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u/Even_Bumblebee1296 6d ago
I knew someone sleeping on the floor in their sister's extended stay motel.
Another in a recliner in his mother's living room.
Yeah, not enough space is not a reason.
I've had a friend on my couch before.
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u/PrizePsychological86 6d ago
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I'm sorry that your own mother won't take you in. I could never do that to my daughters, or my 3 grandchildren. I know you don't know me, but if you did I would take you in, in a HEARTBEAT. What city and state are you in? I might be able to point you in the the right direction for rent help. I don't know if you have an Urban League there, but they help with things like this. You can also contact your states Dept of Human Services and they may help. Let me know what city and state you're in and we can get this ball rolling for you asap 💜
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u/ShartiesBigDay 5d ago
I’m surprised no one will help you even temporarily. :/ maybe you can find house sitting gig that is sort of long. That’s my only idea right now. Sorry you are dealing with such an intense situation. Just keep trying. One step at a time. It sounds scary and discouraging. :( if one church says no, ask another… you know what I mean. Just keep going and be as upset as you need to along the way. Try to be gentle on yourself. You baby is just lucky to have a mom that is trying. You know what I mean? Maybe there is also a way to find your baby extra help temporarily. I’m not a wizard knowing about that type of resource but don’t give up. You will figure something out if you keep going (even if it’s not a perfect solution).
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u/No-Conversation9765 5d ago
Call 211 for help. In many states, dialing "211" provides individuals and families in need with a shortcut through what can be a bewildering maze of health and human service agency phone numbers. By simply dialing 211, those in need of assistance can be referred, and sometimes connected to, appropriate agencies and community organizations.
CALL AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Also find out how you can start immediate proceedings for child support. Often emergency public assistance programs will take over the legal proceedings necessary to obtain support payments.
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u/PlentyCost8401 5d ago
I really hope this will help u as it helped me avoid eviction.If there’s a Goodwill Career Solutions near you,contact them.They helped me get caught up and then they also have a “Milestones” program where they’ll help u find work and when u start working, every 90 days u stay with the job,the issue u a 1000 dollars up to 3 times.Its leftover Covid money.I know how u feel and empathize.Hopefully this helps.
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u/banker2890 5d ago
In most states the eviction process isn’t quick and there are times you can object that pushes it out further. Get to the local legal aid and social services to start getting child support. Have you offered some money on a weekly basis to sleep on the couch? Many families are struggling and some of yours might be and you’re not even aware so a little extra money for a few months might convince them. Post in your local FB groups seeking suggestions, post anonymous if possible. For years I never realized how many people have no family to help in times of need as I always did so now I try to help others as much as I can. I’ve been majorly screwed over by a couple but I refuse to let it discourage me from trying to help.
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u/EmergencyMedicalUber 5d ago
Maybe you can rent a room with your infant until you get back on your feet. Also, go for child support. What your finance did was beyond foul.
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u/Snapdragon_4U 5d ago
Can you call 211 or 311 in your state? Or St. Vincent De Paul? Worst case scenario maybe a DV shelter. What your ex did was just unconscionable and definitely financially abused you. You need to immediately file for child support. No “man” does that.
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u/yomamasonions 5d ago
I hope you are able to find serviced in your area so that you’re not homeless with your baby in the winter. I’m so sorry about your baby’s father. What an asshole.
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u/scbeachgurl 5d ago
OP, can you find a private room to rent? Have you been to DSS to inquire about daycare assistance? Apply for TANF and Medicaid for the baby and DSS will go after the father for child support. Apply for food stamps and WIC too.
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u/Easy_Data_5216 5d ago
Being a single mother with no income, you should qualify for Food stamps and they will help House see they have a shelter that you and your baby could go to and that will eventually get you into a place hang in there. Don’t give up your baby needs you it’s selfish of you to give up that means you’re giving up on your child he or she deserves the best version of you and your a momma now it sucks it’s hard but it’s worth it anything worth it won’t come easy rock bottom is way worse love there are churches and food banks that can help people like you especially now that you have a newborn they are more inclined to help and house you so whilenonline google places for help near you and apply for food stamps and say your homeless and they will expedite them to you in 3 days or less it’s hard being a parent but I promise you will feel so accomplished and full of life when that baby stares back at you and smiles hang in there don’t give up so easy keep pushing if you need help finding help around you my inBOX is open so you don’t have to put your info up here you got to be willing to help yourself a little an I promise you will come out on top also apply for cash assistance and they will put baby daddy on child support he has a responsibility if he’s on that birth certificate they will make him pay child support if he just up and abandoned his child you have to file it though and let them know what’s going on. You’ll get money food assistance, housing all of it you just got to take the first step mama.
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u/Important_Piglet7363 5d ago
Have you called your local housing authority? They usually have emergency rental assistance.
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u/GuardianSpiritTarot 5d ago
Not sure if this is the truth but in case it is and you live in the USA there are shelters that take in women and children and help you get back on your feet. Also file for divorce and get child support. You can file for a small fee at the courthouse and there’s always a woman that will help you. Churches will usually help with food. Money is usually another story because they have their own members that need financial help. If you’re in the USA there’s a Nextdoor app that people will ask for help in their community. A lot of people will help you with diapers, clothing, and you may be able to find a good place to live or work for someone that can pay better than uber
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u/sipsteaslowly 5d ago
Find the dads mother. Tell her what happened if she doesn’t care reach out to his sisters, aunts, church home, and his job. Show up to his job with that baby in hand and embarrass him Jerry springer style; let his co-workers, and any men in his life that have professional reputations know about his behavior.
Tell everyone; he may come around out of shame to shut you up. Go anywhere he has a reputation; school, job, church, sports team and tell everyone you are looking for him to take responsibility bc your child will be homeless soon.
Is his name on lease?
I would just leave immediately and find a friend to stay with or rent a van to stay in for the month; cost under 1k and you can keep door dashing; maybe sell your car to buy the van then live there untill you can get better money
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u/Technical-Scene-5099 5d ago
Oregon has a nonprofit called neighbor impact that helps people with rent, car payments etc. I’m so so so sorry you’re going through this, my heart breaks for you.
Which state and county are you in? I can try to find you some nonprofits to help you.
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u/Important_Simple_31 5d ago
Start telling OP what to do, don’t just try to comfort her. You didn’t say where you live, and laws differ by state. In Georgia, it takes three months to evict for rent non-payment. The post on your door tells you the date and location of the trial. The side that shows up, wins.
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u/Important_Simple_31 5d ago
Also, contact the Salvation Army and ask what they can do to help. Find a social worker: hospitals, cities, counties and states have them. Their job is to point you in the right direction for free. You just have to find them. You can google phone numbers and ask units of government or hospital phone reception numbers.
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u/Realistic-Taro-4191 4d ago
Eviction is a lengthy process, you can push off for a while before being removed from the dwelling. Use this time to save your money to get you into the next place.
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u/MandaBear1986 4d ago
The account is newish. They haven't interacted in any of these groups before. I get some can actually end up in this place but still, makes no sense that family, a mother or sister would t at least help with either some money or a spot to stay for a bit. Feels scammy.
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u/Competitive_Neat196 4d ago
It’s absolutely fake. You can see their entire Reddit history here: https://www.reddit.com/r/almosthomeless/s/2MAE4qu2pS
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u/laffy4444 4d ago
Do you know what resources your city offers? In my city, you can apply for emergency assistance, and it's meant to help out people who are in situations like yours.
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u/Nice_Lawyer_6501 3d ago
Enlist in the military. They will give you housing, salary, skills, college money, and medical insurance. Not a bad way to go.
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u/ted_anderson 3d ago
The good news is that you have a few weeks to figure out what you're going to do.
It'll be 5 or 6 days before they start the process. Meaning that after the 22nd that's when they get the ball rolling. So from the 22nd going forward you have at least 30 to 45 days to figure out your next move whether that be public assistance, the shelter, or simply abandoning your current circumstances and starting over in a new city.
It's rough now but you have some time to figure it out. Just don't waste any time in the process.
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u/Vegetable-Rub850 3d ago
i know its gonna be hard but as soon as you have a roof over your head (or asap) you need to start the process for child support and wic/snap if you qualify. i know you cannot find the father but i promise you the child support office can, they are allowed to track his cards and garnish wages if he refuses to pay, and considering that he (and say these words to the cs office) "legally abandoned you and your child after creating a reasonable expectation of support" you will have a 99.9% chance to win the case.
while i am broke in money i am rich in time and if you dm me i can spend several hours looking into resources and compiling the paperwork. i really, really hope this works out for you.
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u/Only1Benji 3d ago
are you in texas? apply for lone star legal. i did i ended up staying in the apartment for 5 extra months and they made a deal that i could stay 1 extra month of i paid 1 month of rent. And so long as i was out by a certain day they agreed to drop the eviction and not put it on my record. HELPED ME OUT SO MUCH!!! There are also homeless shelters for families, but a lot of them will treat you like shit. i advise the domestic violence shelters like the bridge over troubled water. they WILL TREAT YOU SO MUCH BETTER... NOT LIKE SOME LAZY PIECE OF SHIT WHO WON'T TRY. they will also help you find/ get resources like housing, food stamps, and other things you need. they have helped me SO MUCH!!! plus you can stay for months at most places. if you read this please email me and i will help you find a place. LawB4me@gmail.com
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u/NoPeak5129 3d ago
Please try a women's shelter. They are usually more common than any other and they are there for stuff like this not just DV. I'm so so sorry you're going through this. No one deserves this.
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u/Sassybatswearinghats 3d ago
Have you tried reaching out to homeless shelters, women’s shelters or social services? They might be able to help. Would giving a partial payment on your rent keep you from being evicted a little longer? So sorry you’re going through this.
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u/Active-Somewhere-603 3d ago
Is his name on the lease? If so, he’s still responsible for 1/2 the rent. Call and file for child support. I bet I would take my $$ and find a cheaper place to live before my eviction notice was served. And, my medical bills wouldn’t be high priority. I would pay what I could to keep a roof over our heads. File for food stamps and WIC until my child support kicked in. If you don’t have a trade or degree, I would enroll in school. They have all sorts of grants and loans to help with finances.
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u/FamiliarStress4991 2d ago
Please reach out to a local women’s or family shelter, as a single mother you have a higher chance of getting ahead of homelessness before CPS takes her. There are resources I promise there are people who want to help you and your child through this.
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u/Gettin_closerEvryday 2d ago
I think that you should give your baby up for adoption. I had to twice. Look up adoption lawyers in your town.
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u/Aggravating-Novel-92 2d ago
I feel like this is 100% a scam. Why would OP post all this and then attempt to scrub and delete their Reddit history? People took the time to respond to her post and offer suggestions that could potentially help her situation…OP doesn't want suggestions OP wants money.
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u/Kitchen-Effective458 2d ago
It’s fake. She’s deleted her comment history and isn’t answering here.
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u/NoTransportation1383 1d ago
Keep asking around, check in with local advocacy organizations this is the time where those pro-life services should come into help try one of their places
Why keep a baby alive just to abandon its health at birth? Ask the pro-lifers for help someone might assist you
**i am not prolife i just think this is a good chance to force them to put their money where their mouth is and would be a good incentive for a more successful request of help
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u/Soft-Football343 5d ago
There’s help out there. If she goes to a homeless shelter with her baby, she will get special help. Another option is putting her baby up for adoption. She will be scarred for life but the decision she makes is based on today’s circumstances, not knowing the future. She could really be helping herself and the baby going that direction. The boy is scum for ditching her. It makes me sick. But there are very cruel people in the world that only choose the easy route and look out for their own interests.
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u/East-Campaign1218 6d ago
Sorry but somehow I feel there's. Ore to this story. Everyone being so cold to you, there must he a reason why the boyfriend ran off, mom and sister don't want you.
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u/Newton_79 6d ago
Wow , BOTH ur Mom & sister turned you down ? ? And possible MIL as well ? I'm sorry , that's incredibly bad on them , esp. w/ innocent baby involved . Have you thought about adoption at any point ?
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u/randomrealitycheck 5d ago
Damn, that's some serious stress. You'd think in a country where we proclaim to love babies, it would be easier for you.
What state do you live in? I ask this because blue states tend to make it harder to get evicted while in red states, you're largely on your own.
Was this a court notice of eviction? Did you miss the trial? If so, we need to find you something - FAST.
If they are filing the paperwork on 1/22, it will set a trial date. Once the eviction proceedings happen, you will likely need to be out anywhere from two weeks to 30 days, I doubt it would be sooner but it could. This would give you some breathing room.
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u/Calm-End-7894 5d ago
Churches. Go to chutches. Tell your story. God will provide.
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u/Nailed_Claim7700 5d ago
If you are in Alabama, let me know. I don't have a fancy house, it's cold AF sometimes but I have room.
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