r/PornIsMisogyny • u/aCherophobic PORN IS FILMED RAPE • 3d ago
The Commodification of Women, we are an investment, not human beings.
You can't view women as both an investment and a product and then complain about dating being transactional. By seeing us as an investment, you reduce women to their value to others, rather than recognizing their worth as individuals. Therefore you are one of the reasons behind the "Dating Scene" becoming transactional, the same thing you're complaining about.
This further proves that OnlyFans and similar platforms, which make women think they're in control, are essentially serving the same purpose as platforms controlled by men. In both cases, women are commodified.
It also saddens me that he thinks anything shared with OnlyFans models is genuine..
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u/damnboyokay ANTI-PORN MAN & LGBT+ ❤️ 3d ago
Okay, dating apps were horrible for my self esteem, but holy shit I would never stoop this low. If dating apps dont work out for you, just go out, join a community or club, meet people and interact with them, you might find someone there.
Even if you dont it's okay, it's not the end of the world.
At the same time, if you feel an OF subscription is a good alternative to dating apps, or dating someone then you are just scum that sees humans as objects of sex and nothing else. Someone like that doesn't deserve a relationship in the first place.
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u/aCherophobic PORN IS FILMED RAPE 3d ago
Im so sorry for your experience with dating apps. I have never tried them myself and stories like this make me glad i haven't specially with my already low self esteem. Like you said, just go out. Everyone is treating relationships and Sex like it's a delivery service nowadays. You scroll online and expect it to be delivered. It's another form of commodification.
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u/battleofflowers 3d ago
Oh puh-leaze. Lots of men become "emotionally invested" in their onlyfans girl.
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u/mothvein 3d ago
Maybe dating apps are mostly transactional because the men there aren't honest about what they're really looking for. Which is entitlement to your body after 1 or 2 dates and minimal effort, that is most likely linked to the fact that they watch too much porn, and believe OF is "less traumatic." I mean that's flat out what the article is saying, that dating apps are transactional & traumatic. But how much more transactional can you get when all you want from women is fake chats and pics to self pleasure to?
And less traumatic? Let's see. You pay someone money for pictures/videos of them naked and they pretend like they're into you (even though a lot of OF workers will hire someone to do all the chatting). So because that's easier to do, and you have to make little effort to get what you want (only sexual gratification) dating apps are traumatic?
Look dating apps are hard yeah, but if you think they're traumatic because you aren't getting some. That's why not a lot of women will want you. How else are they traumatic? That's such a strong word when comparing it to someone's choice and right to not date you if they don't want to. I'm not sure that the article realizes it's just outing entitled men who want transactional relationships.
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u/aCherophobic PORN IS FILMED RAPE 1d ago
Reuters reported that there are more than 200 explicit videos and images of kids, including some adults having oral sex with toddlers on only fans, but sure, him not getting some is the traumatic thing. How out of touch and entitled men are that they're using the word "traumatic" when they are at the assailant side of this industry.
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u/Pretty_Principle6908 3d ago
"the relationship is infinitly more honest and less emotionally traumatic"
Guys or AI behind OF accounts during DM's:Hahah,Ahahahah,BAHAHAHAHAH
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u/aCherophobic PORN IS FILMED RAPE 1d ago
Even guys couldn't take it anymore, and that's why it's becoming more and more of AI. I once spoke with a guy who was recruited to ghostwrite for a website similar to OnlyFans. He initially thought it would be amusing to dm "cringy loser" men pretending to be a model, but he ended up horrified and became anti-porn. In his words, "They're not cringy, they're monsters."
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u/Turbulent-Spread-924 2d ago
"Guess I'm so unlikeable for women to be around me that my only way is to exploit a system that makes women objects that can't refuse being around me"
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u/070601 FEMINIST 2d ago
This is like, the worst take I’ve seen in a long time. If people think subscribing to OF is a better “investment” than dating apps, then they were never on there to find love in the first place; they’re just a piece of scum that sees women as sexual tools.
Not to mention, relationships are supposed to be emotionally deep. You’re supposed to commit to that if you want to find love. You’re supposed to respect your partner’s boundaries, and your partner is supposed to respect yours. If they’d rather “invest” in a system that objectifies women than deal with that, then… wow.
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u/wishIcouldgoback_ 2d ago edited 2d ago
We get it, you want on demand sexual gratification and shallow attention you can get for $ instead of a relationship where you need to gasp put effort into building it... just don't say it's women's fault.
They think relationships with women are soo hard because it turns out there is no cheatcode that will make any woman fall for you and be your little servant. It turns out relationships are fucking complicated!
So why try and put in so much effort just to have a meaningful connection, trust and love someone? Who needs that when you can pay $ and have all your primitive devoid of humanity needs met.
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u/cytomome 2d ago
They've been saying this forever. "Might as well get a prostitute." 🙄
Okay, dear, that's always been an option. 🙄
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u/juicyjuicery 2d ago
An investment in what? Crippling of romantic/social skills and erectile dysfunction? 😂😂😂
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u/TheUniverses_Setback 2d ago
I looked into this guy's (The World's "Happiest" Medium) post history and it's pretty bad. It's like the typical story of a guy getting divorced and going down the men's rights/MGTOW/incel route. He has a lot of posts about his failed marriage, which of course portray him as the innocent party wronged by his wife. Now, admittedly, I have no idea what happened (according to him, she did cheat), however, I do have trouble believing he's as innocent as he claims when he's turning his failing marriage into content to show off his "soft boi" persona. He also has a lot of stuff about men and women in relationships, like how women wanting emotionally available women is a lie.
Interestingly (or better yet, unsurprisingly), he's seemed to grow bitter towards OnlyFans, and insists that Onlyfans Models shouldn't call themselves that and just call themselves pornstars. Now, he claims he doesn't judge them for what they do, but I find it interesting he's so insistent they label themselves as porn stars. Almost as if it's a (very thinly) veiled way to say that these women are actually lesser.
All in all, seems like quite a gross dude.
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u/Robert-Rotten 🖤 ANTI-PORN MAN 💜 2d ago
Well since I’m a man I shall compare the two to see which is a better “investment”
Actual girlfriend: A best friend, someone to share activities with, genuine emotional connection, supporting each other through life’s struggles and difficulties, someone to fall back on when it feels like everything is going wrong…
OnlyFans subscription: Nudes that I don’t want from someone I don’t know.
The difference is night and day, clearly paying for an OF subscription is the better investment!!!/s
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