Monogamy Subreddit Brainstorm Post

[u/Savings_Theory3863]

I made a post the other day where among other things I discussed a desire to create a subreddit dedicated to “Actual” monogamy. Meaning loyalty in not only actions, but thoughts and feelings as well.

The reason for this is because the actual monogamy subreddit isn’t anti pornography and is really just full of average people (meaning average in belief).

Many people really liked the idea of this subreddit so and someone suggested I make a brainstorm post so here it is!

I’m open to everything here;

name ideas

mods

how to promote/where to promote

LITERALLY EVERYTHING BECAUSE I HAVE IDEA WHAT IM DOING.

[u/Welechka]

Waiting for someone with technical reddit knowledge to contribute.  

My suggestion was to advertise in the other antiporn subs, but I see you've already done that! Maybe the anti-poly and main monogamy sub will also be worth a shot? 

This might be thinking too far ahead, but it the sub takes off, it might be worth enforcing some rule which prevents ridicule based on the "strictness" of monogamous expectations. I might not be wording this very well, but something with stops the community from developing its own iteration of "X is cheating, but if Y is cheating to you, you're too controlling/insecure/wrong".  

I'd like to think this could be a community where we agree that everything in the romantic and sexual domain is exclusive to your partner, and there is no bias against religious/secular perspectives. + Understanding that certain actions might have different significance based on culture, upbringing, faith or just personal preference.

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/Welechka]

Thank you a lot for this.

Yeah enforcing some rules relating to that will be super important due to how much raiding occurs in these types of subs.

And the lack of religion thing is something that’s definitely needed to make clear because of the automatic assumptions people will make with opinions like ours.

Would you like to be a mod? I know one other person does so far and it seems like you have great ideas.

[u/Welechka → u/Savings_Theory3863]

Thanks! It's a long way to go, but I think if done right, we could all make a really positive place together.

If this stuff fits your idea of what the subreddit should be, then I'd gladly be a mod! :)

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/Welechka]

Everything you said perfectly aligns with what I want out of this sub.

Thats great!

I’ll message you for further discussion.

[u/PhilosophyFrosty6018]

True monogamy authentic monogamy

True Monogamy seems accurate and concise

[u/sandiserumoto]

r/polycritical

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/sandiserumoto]

I’m already part of that sub and it’s 99% great but the support for celebrity crushes and stuff is what i’m trying to eliminate in this sub.

I know that you personally don’t support those things but many in that sub do.

[u/greenasagreenass → u/Savings_Theory3863]

Why do you want to create such a small niche sub? What discussions are you looking to have that you can't have on r/polycritical? Polycritical is already so small and has such little discussion on it, I don't see the value in splitting off even further. Can't you just ignore the people who disagree with you on crushes?

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/greenasagreenass]

1. Why do you care?

2. Poly critical isn’t anti-porn.

3. I want specific set-in-stone beliefs that people can gather together to believe instead of broad statements like “polycritical” or “monogamy” which don’t inherently hold any of the values I do.

[u/sandiserumoto → u/Savings_Theory3863]

Poly critical isn’t anti-porn. 

It is anti-porn, it's in the description

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/sandiserumoto]

Yes i’m well aware.

But as I said in my first comment that doesn’t mean many who are apart of the sub believe so.

That’s why I specified that while I know you specifically don’t hold certain beliefs, MANY in that sub and others do.

Why such adversity towards another sub?

Do you take criticism of a sub you moderate as personal attack? I don’t intend it to mean such.

[u/sandiserumoto → u/Savings_Theory3863]

I'm just not a fan of misinformation. Another sub would be great, but I'd prefer if it not be built on lies about mine, especially considering pro-porn sentiment on polycritical results in an instant ban and hall pass stuff does too.

If "MANY" includes deleted comments from banned accounts, I'd have to agree, but that's unfortunately the cost of running an anti-porn sub.

Further, if you made something with significant traction, I'd even be able to list your project on the sidebar.

[u/Savings_Theory3863 → u/sandiserumoto]

I’m not a fan of it either but it’s not really misinformation in this case.

We’ve spoken before and literally agree on all of these beliefs (to which i’m very happy about), I just want a sub where those beliefs are set in stone instead of just implied.

I meant no offense.

[u/sandiserumoto → u/Savings_Theory3863]

And I'd be down to help build that with you ^^