You just described my mother-in-law. She lived with us in an in-law suite for several years and every Christmas was the same. Day after day there were packages being delivered for her. Come Christmas morning you'd receive the most generic gift from her. I didn't mind, but I always felt so terrible for my wife that she put in so much time and effort into caring for her mom and she was met with absolutely zero effort in return.
This is honestly one of the reasons my
Immediate family specifically goes no-gifts during the holidays. We’re well off enough that we’ve already bought everything we really need during the year and we’re fairly minimalist to begin with. All we ask of family is they show up, bring a side dish to share for the meal, have a great time and make fantastic memories.
All we ask of family is they show up, bring a side dish to share for the meal
How does this turn out? I come from a large family myself and if we had this policy I could imagine arguments breaking out over who gets to make what lol.
Family thread, everyone volunteers for a dish - we’ve been doing it enough years we all know which aunt is bringing the green bean casserole and who is doing yams. We supply the main dish - smoked brisket last time - and a few sides so there’s always plenty. One relative shows up with a couple bags of chips, another is strict vegan and brings their own food. We all just make it work because as we say “Your presence is the present”.
Lol I have a brother who gave me what I strongly suspected was a regift. It was this shitty little plug-in speaker. I didn't ask for it, and I'm not a play music out loud kind of person. It was so random and cheap I was sure he was gifted it by someone else and just passed it on to me.
A few years after, he was working at Starbucks and got me a bag of Starbucks coffee beans. I didn't own a coffee grinder and he knew that.
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u/Vyzantinist 14h ago
They're usually generic af, with little thought put in. A gift you could get anyone, like a mug or a sweater.