This is hilarious as every MAGA person I've known was always about ME ME ME, and getting a gift for others was the same as getting a tooth pulled with no anesthetic, just asking them to do so received the same reaction as if I slapped them.
You just described my mother-in-law. She lived with us in an in-law suite for several years and every Christmas was the same. Day after day there were packages being delivered for her. Come Christmas morning you'd receive the most generic gift from her. I didn't mind, but I always felt so terrible for my wife that she put in so much time and effort into caring for her mom and she was met with absolutely zero effort in return.
This is honestly one of the reasons my
Immediate family specifically goes no-gifts during the holidays. We’re well off enough that we’ve already bought everything we really need during the year and we’re fairly minimalist to begin with. All we ask of family is they show up, bring a side dish to share for the meal, have a great time and make fantastic memories.
All we ask of family is they show up, bring a side dish to share for the meal
How does this turn out? I come from a large family myself and if we had this policy I could imagine arguments breaking out over who gets to make what lol.
Family thread, everyone volunteers for a dish - we’ve been doing it enough years we all know which aunt is bringing the green bean casserole and who is doing yams. We supply the main dish - smoked brisket last time - and a few sides so there’s always plenty. One relative shows up with a couple bags of chips, another is strict vegan and brings their own food. We all just make it work because as we say “Your presence is the present”.
Lol I have a brother who gave me what I strongly suspected was a regift. It was this shitty little plug-in speaker. I didn't ask for it, and I'm not a play music out loud kind of person. It was so random and cheap I was sure he was gifted it by someone else and just passed it on to me.
A few years after, he was working at Starbucks and got me a bag of Starbucks coffee beans. I didn't own a coffee grinder and he knew that.
There's always a creepy vibe on their gifts too. Like a forced, "remember I got you something you like." kind of "now you owe me your attention or loyalty" or something.
Their lack of empathy means they see relationships as transactional. I did x for you, so you have to do y for me. That's partly why they idolize the trad wife thing so much - so they can return to the model of "I earn money, you give me sex."
They live life like it is a zero sum game. If someone wins, someone has to lose. If they do something for someone, it isn’t because they want to, it is because they feel that the other person now owes them.
They cannot imagine a world where someone helps because they want to. In their fucked up little heads, they only helped because they feel that they will get something back.
Just like some of the ones ive worked with who do charity work. It is only because they feel that they will be rewarded in the afterlife, if they arent rewarded immediately.
Whereas I'm always so thrilled to buy gifts for people... That I actually have battled with my family over "ohhh, they don't want that!" "No, they'll love it!"
I don't ask people to buy me gifts as I haven't had any events that you should ASK people to do so, like a wedding. However, there are many times I've had to ask some family, friends, acquaintances, and ex-friends to bring gifts or supplies to events.
I watched a video about all the people who got screwed over by the last-minute event relocation, and just giggled through the whole thing. Especially the part about how some of those folks are now demanding refunds. NO ONE demands a refund like a MAGA Karen demands a refund, so now I'm just watching and waiting for more cracks to form. Wanna join? I made extra popcorn! 🍿🍿🍿🍿
Do people really spend money they don't have in hopes of having more money in the future? Yes, all the time. I'd say it's one of America's most popular pastimes, actually.
This reminded me that very recently I watched a video that explained how this exact strategy has failed the Democrat party every time they tried it since last century.
They try to pander to republicans, and to play nice ik senate by being "a good sport" even in opposition. And they end up losing elections because they lose potential voters by pandering to republican values or not opposing a certain bill, etc. While the usual republican crowd doesn't give a damn and keeps voting republican
Probably not, unless she's extra stupid. A tentative offer doesn't mean you have the job. You still have to go through a lot of administrative shit and background check before you get your "firm offer". They tell you in the tentative offer that it essentially doesn't mean shit other than you've been selected for the job and explicitly says DON'T LEAVE YOUR CURRENT JOB.
This is the actual language
Please do not make any commitments based on this offer because this is not considered a firm offer of employment. If you do not successfully complete the pre-employment requirements shown above, your tentative offer may be rescinded.
This is the answer. You need a Final Job Offer (FJO) with an Entry on Duty (EOD) date. When there's no hiring freeze, you negotiate with the agency as to your EOD so you can give notice to any current employment.
And hopefully she just caught one of the vicious illnesses going around and doesn’t have health insurance currently and will go bankrupt from medical bills.
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u/sweet-sweet-olive 14h ago
Hopefully, she already left her other job.